Originally Posted by Turquesa
This article is about someone seeking advice as she is worried about her sister bringing her unvaccinated kids to a wedding.
There are a few delusional beauties in the response:
"First, I think that even though you're probably overwhelmed with wedding-related details right now, at some point in the future, if you haven't already, you should consider having a chat — or perhaps a third, or 13th chat — with your sister about her decisions. Show her the statistics. Help her to understand that her kids aren't more important than other kids, and in fact she's doing them a great disservice by assuming their bodies aren't vulnerable to disease."
I could comment on every point here, but the bolded is the one that is most jaw dropping. If my sister tried to tell me my kids were not more important than other kids, I would promptly inform her that on a population basis, my kids were not more important than other kids, but they were just as
important as other kids, were more important to me, and hopefully the whole family, and that I will be putting their needs first in medical decisions. I would also be quite hurt, and would indeed wonder about the depth of my sisters love for my children if she said anything so callous and did not apologise/further explain herself.
"And as the article about Texas points out, a third of students at some private schools now are unvaccinated. (Several other states report similar findings.) This means that, in some cases, kids are at an even greater risk of contracting and spreading germs. In the case of your wedding, it is your responsibility to your guests to prevent something like that from happening."
No, it is not your job to prevent people from spreading germs at your wedding.
First off, the obvious, unvaccinated children are not more likely to be "spreading germs" and even if they are, it is just on VAD, and it is on an incredibly
Second of all, I hope these people get that most adults are not up to date on their vaccines - and that includes vaccines for the items that circulate the most: flu and pertussis (also some of our least effective vaccines).
Lastly, no. No, you are not responsible for keeping your guest germ free. I suppose you have a vague moral responsibility (not legal - unless there are state requirements) to ensure some basics: soap for the washroom, proper food handling, etc...but that does not extend to screening all guests about their health choices or even their health status. A wedding is a huge party...if you really should not get sick for one reason or another, then you should not go.
She had two pieces of advice to the woman whose sisters had unvaccinated children. The first was sound - ban all kids. This is really the only way you can have a wedding and not include your sisters children without possibly doing serious harm to your relationship with your sister and her children. She also said that the woman could try and have other kids at the wedding, but not her sisters kids, and either try to explain her way around it or tell her flat out that the reason for their exclsuion was their unvaxxed status. Given that fact that it is extremely likely the sisters knows that:
unvaxxed does not equal sick
most adults are not up to date on their vaccines
She will likely see this as exactly what it is : someone getting on their high horse and putting their self-righteousness on an issue above family.
I predict family discord.