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#1 of 7 Old 09-14-2007, 07:36 PM - Thread Starter
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I think this is appropriate here.
Can someone help me make a decision about pediatricians?
We have a pediatrician but I do not like her. Worse, I do not trust her medically as she has made a whole world of mistakes with my son. I don't think she respects me as a parent either.
Good thing is that she has always assumed we're getting vaccines at the health department and so I think I can safely assume there isn't going to be an issue--my boys are 3.5. And my son has excellent specialists working with us and I do have a pediatrician brother in law if I really need him to do something when this dr. won't listen. But he (the BIL) really feels I should switch doctors and I also feel I need a perspective of a medical professional who has a non-involved viewpoint in making decisions about my son--she is not this person for me as I don't trust her judgement at all.
For what it is worth, Indiana allows religious or medical exemptions but it is quite against the grain in this area not to vaccinate to put it mildly.
My son has a serious medical condition (metabolic) as well as autism spectrum and we really do need a pediatrician in case he has a medical crisis and to get therapy prescribed.
So I tried out a new pediatrician one town over. She was better than the current in that I think she is a much better doctor and treated me with respect as a parent. She seems like a team player. But I tried to feel out her vaccine stance and she was aghast that a parent wouldn't vaccinate and told me that we needed to make sure we all (except Andrew) got flu vaccines this year to protect Andrew and on. She even said she needed to talk with my son's geneticist to see why he said no vaccines for Andrew. I might be able to just work around it in terms of the health department but what if she decided to kick us out of the practice or worse? I did like her better than the other dr. otherwise. She's not absolutely ideal but I don't think I'll find that anyway; she even called to follow up personally. I've probably got no issues with my metabolic guy as his geneticist said no vaccines anyway but his twin...well, I don't think she'd like that.
What would you do?
There is literally no pediatrician close by who is going to be ok with this except "maybe" one whose practice is not accepting patients.

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#2 of 7 Old 09-14-2007, 07:49 PM
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Could you "double date" the two for a while, and pretend to be extremely "religious" with the new one? See if that works to get her to lay off the vax pushing?
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Does it have to be a ped? I recently interviewed a Family Practice, Holistic D.O. for my family and he was AWESOME! I have had nothing but bad luck finding peds in this area for the last 5 years, so I searched the listings of FP and found this gem, oh I was so excited when I left the interview. If you can use a Family practice doc I would highly recommend looking for one, also it helps me to bring a nice list of questions when Im doing a "get to know you" visit, that way I dont get distracted from the issues that really matter to ME.
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I second the 'Family Doctor' approach. Generally, they are much more laid back and just as good with kids. Plus, you can see them for your own health issues as well. We didn't have a problem finding peds or family docs in our area who were open to not vaccinating (even if they didn't agree - they respected our decision) but we opted for the family practice because we felt it fit better for us (and they had an excellent LC on-staff which I needed.) One thing you can do is to call ahead and ask anonymously if they are open to accepting parents who choose to not vaccinate/selective/delay vax, etc. I did this before I even made an appointment.

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#5 of 7 Old 09-15-2007, 01:46 AM
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I wanted to have my son see an ND, but I found out that since Pa is so backward, it hasn't granted them the privlidge to become licensed. Which means they can't accept insurance. But, for you I think that ND's are licensed. I mean it makes sense, since an ND is a MD with a lot more holistic training! I emailed the ND I wanted to take DS to, and asked about their vax requirements (ND's to my knowledge are mostly family practice, btw). She said that the doc has his own 'home made vaxes' that he gives his kids. Not sure what that means though. But, here is some list I found for docs in the state:

Hope this helps!

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Isn't it amazing how a Doctor can make us so CRAZY!!! This "battle" between Parent and Doctor has been going on too long, and is too heated. I found years ago that the best decision regarding Doctors is to be blunt and honest, and then don't discuss your Vax decisions. I have battled Peds and other Doc's since my first was born in 2002- and I have just recently found a ped that respects my decision regarding my children. She voiced her opinion and we talked one visit, and I told her that I didn't want my decisions to affect our relationship or our business. She has been great, and hasn't posed any more problems.

Best of Luck to you, I hope you can find someone to be honest with, and stand your ground.


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