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Had my MW appt today... and she couldn't find the heartbeat. I thought he'd felt less active today, but I've been contracting a lot, in pain, exhausted and distracted and it's been hard to tell.

The hospital visit confirmed what I just somehow knew and had dreaded... he was gone. The ironic news was I was 6-7 cm and 85% effaced... those ctx really had done something.

He was born at 10:14 pm on April Fool's Day...some joke... a tiny 5lb 4oz - tiny like his sister was. Tiny and perfect. There was no sign of... anything. No knot in the cord, placenta was normal, he was normal, no infection, no fever, nothing in the bloodwork. No explanation.

At first I couldn't believe the universe would do this. My dad in February... and we named him after both grandpas. We were going to surprise my mom with his name. And now this? Really? Could anything be more cruel?

Two days ago I was talking about how unimaginable this sort of loss must be... and today, I'm experiencing it. I think I'm still in shock.

The birth was thankfully fast - they gave me a tiny bit of pit, but I pushed him out pretty quickly. Although I've never had a more painful birth, in more ways than one. It was like my body didn't want to do it... it was all me. I had to make the conscious choice to birth him, and part of me just wanted to hold on...

The kids were there... not for the birth, we had a friend in the waiting room with them, but after... and we did get to hold him... the staff took pictures, and were very kind. I will post them tomorrow if I can bear to get on the computer again. Things are so different now than back in the days when they whisked the baby away and you never saw them...

The only thing I keep thinking is, "Why?" And there's just no answer and probably never will be.

I thought I would feel awful coming here, but I strangely don't. I still feel thrilled that you're having your babies, and they're healthy and nursing and doing well. I don't know how I'll feel tomorrow... but I truly hope for the best for every one of you and yours.

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Saw this on new posts.

. So sorry mama.

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No words can ever really express what this kind of pain must be... I am so sorry for your loss and hope that you heal well. You are in my prayers, mama.

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I saw this on new posts as well and just wanted to say that I am so sorry for your loss
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Oh mama, no! My heart goes out to you. I'm thinking of you and your family. I'm so very sorry.

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I am so so sorry.
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William George

I'm so sorry, my heart is with your family.

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Oh, God, Dawn! No! No more! Sweetheart, I think you know I mean it when I say I know what you are going through-- I *am* going through what you're going through. Feel free to PM me if you want to talk/ rant/ scream, whatever. Maybe we can find a way to help each other through this devastating time.

I am so sorry you lost your precious William George .
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Dawn...my heart aches for you...I'm so sorry! I just have no words. I'm so glad you find comfort being back on here. The only way I know how to deal with such terrible things is prayer and scripture. I will be praying for you and your healing! It just isn't FAIR espeically with no explanation!: Hug: 1praying:

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I'm so sorry, Dawn. :

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Not in your ddc but couldn't not post. I'm so sorry for your loss.

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I am so, so sorry for your loss.

You are in my thoughts.

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Oh Dawn, I am so so sorry for your loss. No mother should have to experience this.

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I am sorry.
Words cannot express.
My heart and thoughts will be with you and your family.

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Apparently, you can never let your guard down. I'm so sorry to hear this and have you in my prayers.

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I am so sorry for your loss.

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Not in your DDC, but saw it also as a new post. My heart just broke for you. I'm so sorry.
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Dawn, I am so sorry. Like everyone else has been saying, there really are no words I can say besides I am sorry and you and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers. This is so unfair. Please know you will be thought about often.

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Oh, Dawn, I am so so sorry for your loss :-( Each life, no matter how shortly lived, is meaningful. Your dear William George will not be forgotten, and his purpose in your life will be made known.

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I am so sorry for your loss.

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I'm so sorry for your loss, I cant imagine how that must feel. I just lost my little brother, and I found a little comfort in this. Thought I would share in case you might too.

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Dawn, I'm so sorry for your loss
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I am so sorry for your loss of your beautiful son, William George.

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I am so so sorry, that is just awful. I will keep you and your family in my thoughts. Hugs.

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I am so sorry for your loss

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My heart aches for you. Many many s to you and your family.

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With tears, I am so sorry for your loss.

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Oh Dawn. I can't believe it. There are no words, but I am carrying you and mischevium in my heart right now.

I'm so sorry for the loss of precious William George.
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Oh, God, Dawn! No! No more! Sweetheart, I think you know I mean it when I say I know what you are going through-- I *am* going through what you're going through. Feel free to PM me if you want to talk/ rant/ scream, whatever. Maybe we can find a way to help each other through this devastating time.

I am so sorry you lost your precious William George .
I know you know. All the way to the hospital, I kept thinking... this can't happen twice to two of us in the space of two days. The world can't be that cruel. But it can. It is.

I've never borne a greater pain... and there's every pun intended there. It hit this morning like a truck. I'm run over.

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I am so sorry. I wish I had the right words to express, but I don't. I'm praying for you, mama.
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