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Nancy - you are too funny, but really could any of you imagine being pregnant again this soon??

Lindsay - : : : can't wait to hear she is home and that things are going so well!!

Hope everyone is having a good week - LO is calling!!

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Pg again, right now???!!! : Not happening in this house! Even though Julian is a easy baby, they don't stay that way for long. They turn into complex little beings that are not so easy! I would like one more eventually but my minimal spacing is 3 years now. I'm not liking the 2.5y spacing between Gabrielle and Julian.

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Seriously? I would LOVE another one in 2 years or so...but pregnant a 3mo pp? Heck no!


Sorry I've been MIA. We completed our move successfully and JUST got internet (after a week of not having it) This weekend was interesting. BIL graduated from Air Force Basic Training so MIL and BIL2 were here. I thought I'd be 100% with it but having your inlaws over is so much different than being in their house...

My goal this week is to start finding a therapist that takes my insurance. I definitely have PPD and I need to get it handled. DH is great about being supportive. I get lots of hugs and lots of help when I feel especially overwhelmed.

How has everyone else been?

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To get pregnant again, you need to be having sex, right? : We really wanted LOs close in age, but getting pregnant again at 11 mo PP and having LO's 19 months apart is too close IMHO. If we have a 3rd, we'll be waiting longer.

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No zygotes allowed

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I just finished reading last week's thread and so much has happened here.

Congrats, Lindsay! Glad to hear Sophia is doing well and finally coming home!

Emma, thanks for posting the article on women in academia and children. It made me think again about how to combine career and children. I honestly think it is time for academic workplaces to consider family-friendliness an advantage in retaining workers and maintaining student bodies. Sigh.

Nancy, great shot of Zack!

Shine and AFWife, congrats on working on resolving PPD-issues. It's hard to admit that you're struggling with depression, but the earlier you start therapy the better for you and your babies. Good luck.

Hope everyone's picnics etc. went well.

I spent the last two weeks traveling and visiting with the extended in-law clan in North Carolina. It's a yearly ritual. I was not looking forward to it at all because of past experiences and I was afraid I would not be able to cope with the onslaught of people and the inevitable tensions. But it was quite fun this year. Everyone loved H. DH and I even managed to go out for dinner twice while MIL was watching H. And we went on lots of walks along the beach.

H has begun to smile regularly and seems quite content and happy. Of course, he took the week on the road as a chance to change his pooping schedule back to daily, and we had several blowouts in the most inconvenient locations.

I am also not pregnant again, and I hope it will stay that way for a while. I need to give my body some time to recover and if I want to make a case for VBAC I should leave 18-24 months between deliveries. And H is enough to deal with at this point. Crazy to imagine spending another July-April pregnant while caring for an infant.

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if i get pregnant, i will jump off a bridge.
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To get pregnant again, you need to be having sex, right? :
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Actually DH and I DTD the other night, but (sorry if TMI) I'm starting to worry that I will not get really good sex again until River is like 5.

I think we're going to our first playgroup tomorrow. My vegetarian meetup group is starting a playgroup for veggie kids, so we're going to go to that. Not that she eats food of any kind yet, but since I'm vegetarian, I think that kind of means she is too.

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Actually DH and I DTD the other night, but (sorry if TMI) I'm starting to worry that I will not get really good sex again until River is like 5.

I think we're going to our first playgroup tomorrow. My vegetarian meetup group is starting a playgroup for veggie kids, so we're going to go to that. Not that she eats food of any kind yet, but since I'm vegetarian, I think that kind of means she is too.
Sex gets better. I remember thinking the same thing after Liam was born. It hurt until he was about 6 months old, and I didn't enjoy it really until my cycles returned when he was 8.5 months old. That was short-lived though, as I got pregnant when he was 11 months, and my libido basically left the continent. I am still waiting for it to return.

Have fun at the playgroup.

Fisch--awesome that you got some dinners out. : Aren't gummy baby smiles the best?

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My goal this week is to start finding a therapist that takes my insurance. I definitely have PPD and I need to get it handled. DH is great about being supportive. I get lots of hugs and lots of help when I feel especially overwhelmed.

How has everyone else been?
Good for you! It's been hard for me to make that call, I still don't have an exact appt yet, phone tag. In the times I'm feeling good, I think I don't need it,but then it comes back around, like this morning I am soo grateful though that it doesn't affect me taking care of N or P(other than not playing with P much). Though P is alot more work than N-never thought that would happen!

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Actually DH and I DTD the other night, but (sorry if TMI) I'm starting to worry that I will not get really good sex again until River is like 5.
It will get better...I actually never had a "true" orgasm till after P was born...
on the playgroup...I wish we had one here...I had such a great group when we first moved here and P was 7mo. The group split in two due to international rules, then my 3 best friends moved, I got tired of the rules so I quit...I think that the lack of a connected group now is part of my depression. I went to the API meeting here and I just don't fit in. I can't find anywhere I fit in. Hoping Sept helps when P will be in preschool M,T,TH afternoons, we'll all go to music class Wed am, homeschool co-op Mon am and ballet Wed pm. Even if we don't have friends at least we'll be busy.

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Sex gets better. I remember thinking the same thing after Liam was born. It hurt until he was about 6 months old, and I didn't enjoy it really until my cycles returned when he was 8.5 months old. That was short-lived though, as I got pregnant when he was 11 months, and my libido basically left the continent. I am still waiting for it to return.
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it drives DH crazy how I'm all over the place in terms of libido-- usually nada nothing-- once in a blue moon though, the mood strikes. Ick.

Finally getting going with an internship- long frustrating story that isn't relevant but I think I'm going to just actually go in 1-2 mornings per week and do more work on it from home (yay!) and will continue that in the fall if it goes well. That way I can keep working from away since I'll be in upstate NY for almost a month. (The internship is at my field site for my research, so very good to be on the inside, and good to go in person too. In the fall I'll also be joining the "stewardship volunteer" group who meet every friday AM to do invasive plant removal and landscape restoration. With baby of course. Oh yeah, my PhD project is about environmental communication). I will need childcare eventually when I am teaching and to conduct interviews and such, but this way I def put that off a bit.

I'm glad that article is of interest to some of you, I thought it might be. I thought it was great- and I like that they included tips!

Big girl friend Leah (12 years old) goes home tomorrow- she had to have a tooth pulled today poor thing which sorta ruined our day and has def made her kinda snippy. Ah adolescence. We went to get pedis together this morning (I am not a girlie girl and had a very unusual inspiration that a 12-year-old girl having a bad day would enjoy that, plus, it was pretty fun for me too!). The baby slept in the moby and DS did mazes for a while and then watched in fascination and picked out my sparkley nail polish- all in all, very cooperative little ones for once!

LO is on my lap chewing my arm and complaining. She is SO alert, vocal and communicative, amazing for not even 3 months old yet. DS was very different. This girl is def a charmer!

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DTD can take a long time to feel decent/good again after a baby. DD1 and DD2 were both 6+ months before all the pain was gone. I never had any after Julian's birth, DTD was fine from the first time. Not that I have tons of extra time to be doing it right now, but everyone and then we get a few minutes. We finally had to resort to putting on a movie for the child with insomnia and locking a door the other night just to get 10 minutes.



Julian's blocked tearducts are not improving at all, if anything, his eyes seem even more goopy. I have to pry them open several times a day just so the poor guy can see something. I got a referral to a eye doc because of an hemangioma on his eyelid, because of where is was at, our regular doc wants a second opinion. Eh, I'm sure it is nothing, but it sure would be nice if ONE of my 3 child could avoid going to specialists.

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I read: "sex gets beer" not "sex gets better". Then I thought...good analogy. It took me a while to learn to appreciate beer. Kind of like postpartum sex after the first baby. This time it's been better- more reliably sleeping baby, quicker recovery from the birth and less "off-limits" breasts. I remember asking postpartum after my first when I was going to be able to use my breasts for my pleasure again, and that took a whole year. This time it's not an issue. Sorry for the TMI.

I hit a couple of days of major sleep deprivation. Nora is sleeping well, but Neela has been getting up at 5 every morning. Nora sleeps terrifically at night, but gets too many interrupted naps during the day and I was starting to notice her getting crankier and more tired, too. So this morning we sent everyone out of the house, and napped for almost three hours!

When I was being a big sleep-deprived zombie b!tc# this morning, I told my husband that I wanted three things today: a nap, a haircut and some exercise. The hair appointment is booked for tomorrow instead, but we're headed to the pool this afternoon

On Thursday we leave for a few day trip to a writer's festival where my husband is giving a workshop and some readings. Then on to a friend's wedding on the weekend.

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Fed, changed and tired, Zack SCREAMED in the crib (for about 5 minutes) until I picked him up and then he promptly fell asleep in my arms. He's now swaddled and passed out without issue.

He wasn't swaddled initially, but he was literally just laying in the crib and screaming his face off after the mobile was finished with it's cycle. I hope I can figure out how to get him to fall asleep on his own a little better. Bedtime is like the #1 parenting snafu. >.<

This is very frustrating... do I really need to swaddle him every single time? I feel like if he's not clawing at his face, then he should fall asleep okay...

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"Sex gets Beer"?! Im off to DTD!!!!!

We got the word today. Sophias discharge date is next Tuesday. Im a tiny disappointed its not this week BUT at least we have a solid, set day!!!! SHe has been getting fortified milk to help gain wieght and finally hit birth weight 4 days ago. Then blew past it and is now 12.4!! a lb in 4 days!

I need some cake.

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Lindsay, the weight gain is so exciting! And tuesday is a week...doable, but I understand your twinge of disappointment.

DTD here hasn't happened in awhile. The first couple of times I had no pain whatsoever...then I think I slightly reopened my tear straining for a #2 (way TMI, sorry) and I've been doing comfrey root sitz baths, which seems to be helping. But we are putting it off. I think it's going to be uncomfortable no matter what, though. The first couple times I don't think the muscles had firmed back up and now they have and things are more uncomfortable.

My kid used to take 2 hour naps. Not anymore apparently. Sigh. I may try and swaddle her this afternoon.

Nancy, if he naps fine with a swaddle, why not? If he goes to sleep on his own in the swaddle you are one step ahead of most of us. I imagine like mine, a lot of these kiddos nurse to sleep.

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DTD can take a long time to feel decent/good again after a baby. DD1 and DD2 were both 6+ months before all the pain was gone. I never had any after Julian's birth, DTD was fine from the first time.
Julian's blocked tearducts are not improving at all,
no pain DTD this time just don't feel emotionally ready for it. only 3 times since PP drivng DH crazy!

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I read: "sex gets beer" not "sex gets better". Then I thought...good analogy. It took me a while to learn to appreciate beer.
I never appreciated beer! breasts are off limits till BFing is over...sooo 2/3 years...sorry DH, you'll have them for the rest of your life after this!

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"Sex gets Beer"?! Im off to DTD!!!!!

We got the word today. Sophias discharge date is next Tuesday. Im a tiny disappointed its not this week BUT at least we have a solid, set day!!!! SHe has been getting fortified milk to help gain wieght and finally hit birth weight 4 days ago. Then blew past it and is now 12.4!! a lb in 4 days!

I need some cake.
YAY!!!!!::, THOUGH WE CAN ALL UNDERSTAND THE SLIGHT DISAPPOINTMENT!

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Nancy, if he naps fine with a swaddle, why not? If he goes to sleep on his own in the swaddle you are one step ahead of most of us. I imagine like mine, a lot of these kiddos nurse to sleep.
OUCH on the tear! Yup mine still nurses swaddled to sleep and will for a long while...

P just woke from a much needed nap...but this is not going to be good, she's in that transition phase, at least I got 2 hrs of peace

went to park this am, good to get out and see some friends...LOVE nursing in the MT!!!!
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Shine, you are lightyears ahead of us with DTD. It has been twice PP (Ben was born April 6th) and 3 times (once during pregnancy and 2x PP) since my BFP August 6th, 2008. That is 3 times in 11 months.

Kate, I am sorry about the sleep troubles.

Lindsay, that is a week from today!!!!!!!!!!! :::::: And the weight gain sounds awesome!

Nancy, my older son slept swaddled until 8.5 months and didn't self-soothe to sleep until he was older than 1 year old. You have plenty of timee for those things.

Mel, I love sex gets beer. I am glad you got a nap today. We have an early waker in this house too.



Am I the only one who LO does NOT nurse to sleep? I sooooo wish he did, and his not nursing to sleep makes my life miserable. He tries to stay awake all day long b/c he will NOT nurse to sleep, hates the swing and the bouncy, won't sleep in the car, screams and fights a swaddle, lifts his head on his belly, etc, etc. I have to go into a pure quiet, picth black room, put him in a carrier and boucne and sway. If I talk, he wakes. If I sit down he wakes. If I try to sit on an exercise ball or in a glider, he wakes. I';d happily let him stay awake all day as I am getting really tired of all his requirements, but then he does nothing but scream.

I am feeling guilty b/c ODS just wants to play with me, but if I do, YDS screams which makes ODS cry. Any ideas? YDS screams even if I am wearing him.

I am so tired today. YDS sleeps long stretches but since he doesn't fall asleep nursing when he wakes I am up for 2 hours until he falls back to sleep. Then he won't nap unless I am not in cionstant motion. ODS slept for fewer than 8 hours last night, so between him and YDS, I was literally walking around the house for 17 hours. I am just beat.

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Nora has thankfully learned to nurse to sleep at night. During the day she likes the bounce/sway thing in the carrier. Or sometimes in the car. It's fine if I catch her right as she's getting sleepy. But if I miss the window of opportunity she SCREAMS while I bounce/sway her and sing Oh Susannah again and again for about 30 minutes to fall asleep. Not fun- she's training me well to catch her early cues! Racie- it sounds soooo hard and tiring for you!

You guys make me feel like a nympho. I want to DTD more than the 3-4x a week that we already are. My libido skyrocketed in the second trimester and hasn't come back to earth yet.

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NAK - and speaking of falling asleep nursing LO is asleep still sucking away! DH calls him a leech when he dioes this. I'm thankful that he nurses to sleep and that I have you ladies who understand and don't judge!

The last couple days it seems that Cooper might be developing a semi sleeping routine during the day - but its still not consistent at all and we are still on the go a lot. He is a happy baby and that is what matters. I do wish he would sleep longer stretches at night. Every once in awhile he'll surprise me with a 5 or 6 hour stretch, but his norm is 3-4 hours at a time. I have definitely seen an improvement and I did hear it gets better (usually) after the first 3 months so I'm sure we'll get there!

I have always had a pretty decent libido and it is just non existant since I had Cooper and it concerns me a little. I heard it's normal. I had a section and it doesn't hurt me at all to do it and once we do it it feels good, I just hardly ever feel like it.

Lindsay - one week away woohoo! Awesome on the growth spurt!

Racie -

Sorry to hear about the sleep troubles Kate.

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Racie - maybe reflux? My friends baby did that same thing. Only slept while you are standing and swaying, turned out he had bad reflux.

bohdi - How did the veg meetup go?!

emma- yay internship! Im assuming its unpaid? (darn)

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mel - Have fun on your trip! Good luck!!!

shine - were tied for DTD! 3 times here too. Honestly, the 3 times have been great but I am way too tired to dtd at any point and ESPECIALLY when we actually have time at night.

kate - : for the tear.

Sophia is amazing. Isa is amazing. I have really lucked out with 2 incredible kids. Sophia got done puking her guys out earlier from the crazy meds and withdrawals from morphine (she had for the gtube), has slings on her hands, 3 days post-op from surgery, healing sternum and STILL smiles all day long. ALL day. Im going to post the pics in smiling babies thread. Isa played quietly on the floor (on a blanket) in the nicu for 5 hours today, THEN suggested indian food for dinner (smart girl!). I am really, truly blessed.


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I want Indian food, now.
Well, maybe later on today...

I'm not trying to rush my dude, but I can tell when he's being a whiny kid versus having a need. I just don't want him to get any brilliant ideas about manipulating me further. He went to sleep mostly awake last night after being fed, changed and watching his mobile. I thought he was going to act up again, but he went right off (at 9pm) and never woke up (until 6am).

Zack is well-aware of how to get me to do things, so I just want to guide the communication in the right direction and not misinterpret his signals. Overall, I think he has good habits. I hope they stick.

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Mel--Maybe you can share that libido with me.

Michanders--I miss sleepy nursing--that was my favorite part of nursing ODS. I hope that schedule/routine just keeps developing.

Lindsay--Poor Sophia getting sick. Now, I want Indian food too. I am counting down the days with you. Ben does have reflux and is medicated for it, and we have seen improvement....just not enough...

Nancy--I wouldn't worry about manipulation yet. Honestly, babies just have NEEDS at this age. I didn't see true manipulation until 14 months, although before that you can start seeing wants versus needs.

Me--Ben slept a good long stretch last night, but required an hour of walking to fall asleep after nursing. ODS is having more and more problems with anxiety and freaking out. DH asked me last night why our kids are always crying. I told him that I wish I knew.

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Nancy--I wouldn't worry about manipulation yet. Honestly, babies just have NEEDS at this age. I didn't see true manipulation until 14 months, although before that you can start seeing wants versus needs.
I think you'd be surprised if you saw this guy -- on occasion. Zack just peed all over himself while I was cleaning up his poopy diaper mess and I asked him plainly, "What'd you do that for?" with a disapproving look. He smiled. I see myself in him... scary! :-O

There are hints of the child to come, no doubt. If anything, I am too attentive.

People have needs at every age. But, to me, that doesn't mean they should be unaware of how to communicate them effectively. I'm just trying to encourage good habits and a tight relationship. More often than not, I follow Zack's lead. He's very obvious most of the time and the last thing he is, is neglected.

If Zack is amenable to forward-thinking and trying out some things, which he appears to be, then there's no reason I shouldn't give it a go. Sure, he's just a wittew baybee, but I can see the gears turning quite often and I am a big fan of heading them off at the pass.

Only during the first two weeks of his life did he ever seem "needy" or truly dependent. Now he almost seems to get bored and I think I'm going to have my hands FULL when he's mobile. But then, I think I want that. Crawl > Walk > Run > Ski.

Every kid is different. I'm totally taking my cues from Zack and they change weekly. It's truly amazing.

PS: I love how he talks to the ceiling fan.

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Nancy, I get what you are saying. I just don't want you to stress over self-soothing. If Zack can do it early, great. If he isn't ready yet, great....it will come before you know it, and then you'll miss it.

Watching a toddler amazed me b/c they are so much more intentional than a baby is, and you don't even realize it until you have a whirlwind of an opinionated toddler....and honestly, babies seem much more baby-ish compared to toddlers....just like my 23 month old probably seems like a baby compared to a 4 year old.

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I hear ya. I'm not worried, it's more concern than worry.
Zack only recently started chewing on his hand instead of screaming for food.
And for sleeping, the swaddle seems to solve most issues.
He is a content child. I do feel fortunate.
I don't mind the occasional falling asleep while eating, then being put to bed.
He just did it...
I just don't want it to be a habit.

Zack is not on any kind of schedule. I feed on demand and he just happens to sleep at night. Daytime naps are sporadic and he really winds down in the evenings.

The only thing I am trying to work with, are his cues and our communication.
For example: He wants to eat. I can see the signals, and I prepare his food and stick a bib on him. He gets VERY excited and sometimes starts wailing while I'm trying to get the bottle ready. Now, Zack knows what's coming and he's never had to wait very long for food. But, the crying for no reason is something I would like to nip in the bud. Can't you just hear it? "BUT MOMMY I WANT IT NOW!!! WAAAAAA"

I'm sure I'll never completely eliminate that scenario, but minimizing doesn't hurt -- does it? It's all about our relationship.

Zack knows he's cute, too. And, of course, I can't help but fall into his little trap.

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Crummy morning, I hope P's chiro adjustement helps her...she's been sooo cranky and clumsy lately.

Looking forward to therapy tomorrow, yet dreading it KWIM?

Signed P up for preschool at our church today, 3 afternoons a week, she is excited. I hope I'm making the right decision, I still plan to homeschool but I think we both need this year with a little seperation to allow us to get adjusted. I'm both sad and relieved, I can always change my mind...so trying not to think about it. Feeling more and more our family is complete for many a reasons, makes me feel relieved (though still want to be apart of the birth world somehow in the future, hmmmm)
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Racie, have you considered calming herbs for either of your boys? I don't have a lot of knowledge in that area, but I've seen the amazing effect teething tablets (which are mostly chamomile) have on Eden and it might be worth a try.

The swaddling at nap time worked well yesterday, although it took a long feeding to get her to stay asleep. Then it was rather late and I had to pick her up and drag her to an appt. Oh well. She of course charmed everyone there.

Lindsay, you do have 2 amazing daughters! Congratulations!

p.s I just fit back into my favorite red capris from last summer!!! I don't think I lost weight, but maybe my hips are returning somewhat to their previous location!

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Shine, I am having the same thoughts about our family being complete. For me, it is a bittersweet thought.

Kate, we use Gripe Water with YDS, which has chamomile. I even used it today to cure ODS's hiccups and it worked like a charm. I do use Hyland's Teething Tablets when ODS is teething. I have been trying Valerian with him, but haven't see any change. I've thought about trying Rescue Remedy, but just haven't gotten motivated to buying some more (we use it with our cats).

YDS is napping in his crib....he has only slept 40 minutes in the past 7 hours. He needs the rest and I am exhausted. There is a picnic at DH's work this afternoon and I am dreading it. I told DH he is in charge of ODS. I have been trying to plan YDS's baptism which will be the end of August when his godparents can fly out to us. Since ODS's birthday is near then, I'd like a joint party for ODS's 2nd b-day. Thee logistics of planning a small aprty are more difficult than I thought they'd be though.

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p.s I just fit back into my favorite red capris from last summer!!! I don't think I lost weight, but maybe my hips are returning somewhat to their previous location!
Yes!!!! Im wondering when my hips will go back to normal. Im 15 lbs under pre preg weight but I still cant fit into my clothes. Its so weird!


Shine - DOing the preschool will be great for both of you. IT will be nice for you and baby to have some alone time and it will be great for the older one to make some friends. I LOVED seeing dd1 interact with others when she was that age (I did church preschool 3 days a week too) It gave me a nice break and cleared my head.

Today Im CRAZY emotional. Today is the last day Sophias primary nurse is working with her. She is going on vacation and wont be back til after we are discharged. I BURST into tears when she told me. Not only is she the nurse weve had since day one but she also saved Sophias life when she went into cardiac arrest on her 2nd day of life.
We have become friends and Ive really leaned on her for support, hugs and advise. She gave me all her info and were going to stay in touch (shes in her 30s and has a 2 yr old and preg so we can do parent-y things). She started crying this morning when Sophia gave her a smile, she said "Oh Sophia, Im going to miss yo so much!"

So Im going to make a little photo album for her of Sophia (like 10 pics) and send her a nice card. How the hell am I suppose to thank this woman?! Or the whole NICU team for that matter?!


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Shine- I understand those feelings. DD1 has never been to school either, she is going to 1st grade this fall. I'm sad and excited for time away from her at the same time.

Lindsay- Bake something, if you ever have free time anyway. When I was a floor nurse, we loved baked goods patients/families would drop off. When you are working 12 hours shifts, something you can grab and eat can be wonderful.


Julian is crashed out in my lap at the moment. Poor guy has barely slept this week, we've just been too busy. I need to get up, I have to be somewhere in 30 minutes but I feel bad waking him up again. He rarely falls asleep nursing, he just isn't a comfort nurser, he prefers his binky. Once he is asleep then I can usually lay him down but not until he is asleep which is totally fine by me. They are only little for so long! Though I'm having to work on my 2.5y because I can't lay down with her for naps anymore with Julian, he is always awake during that time of day now. Today she finally went to sleep with an armful of stuffed animals.


I so jealous of those weight loss stories everyone keeps sharing. I haven't lost a single lb since Julian was 8 days old. I haven't been working out, but doesn't running my butt off chasing after 3 kids count???? I eat healthy, and heck half the time I don't have time to eat. I know from previous children, my body holds on to weight until 6 months or so and then it slowly comes off, I'm hoping that will happen again this time. I have never weighed this much though, I have 25 lbs to lose, absolutely nothing fits. I have one pair of shorts and 3 t-shirts that I bought that I've wearing over and over again. I'm 4 sizes above my normal size, which totally sucks. I took out my stitches in my foot over the weekend, I'm guessing that I should be able to exercise in another week or two, maybe that will help. Even 5 lbs would help. :

Ack! Look at the time, gotta run!

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