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#1 of 145 Old 08-05-2008, 02:27 PM - Thread Starter
 
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We talked about this on the other thread, but I just thought I'd start this thread here in our official ddc! Check in y'all I thought it would be nice for us to have a separate thread that anyone who wants to can read, but if there are mamas who would rather not read because they don't want to get scared, they don't have to read this thread, kwim? So we have a safe place to share our fears or whatever w/o worrying about scaring other folks.

For you guys who've previously had a loss, will you be doing anything differently this time around (extra monitoring, etc)?

I can't decide what I want. I had an absolutely textbook 1st pregnancy & homebirth (w/ the exception of hyperemesis until 16 weeks). My second pregnancy was complicated by a sub-chorionic hemorrhage/hematoma for which I bleed every.single.day from 13 weeks until it threw me into labor @ almost 23 weeks (Owen was born in the hospital w/ an epidural, so I've experienced both sides now). The blessing is that the perinatologist I saw during the bleeding said that it's unlikely to happen again. That's great, but since my loss, I've become such a worrier & now worry about all of the *other* things that might happen :

I've decided that I'm not going to have serial bHCG blood tests. I can't decide if I'd like a "viability" u/s around 8 weeks to look for a heartbeat. I'm going to do the first tri genetic screening (blood test & u/s) around 11 weeks, so I know I'll have a u/s then. I would like to plan another homebirth, but at the same time I could see myself being more cautious about things that I otherwise would have stayed home for (like meconium in the amniotic fluid). I just don't know.

Hehe, this all makes me sound pretty anxious & I'm surprisingly not! I know this is going to be a loooong 9 months, so I'm trying to just be as zen as I can. (I take a low dose of Wellbutrin so I'm sure that helps )

I'm fairly tentative about the pregnancy, I'm not making a huge announcement until we hear a heartbeat on the doppler. But I'm a RN so I have to tell the people I work with so I can avoid certain illnesses (we see a lot of shingles in particular) & we've told our close family members. So it feels like we have a good balance.

Enough of my rambling! I wish you all a HH9M! :

Thank you all for your kind words about my loss on the "other thread"
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Jen and all the mamas that have gone through this. I hope this pregnancy is a healing one for you all.

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thanks for starting this thread.
i'm here too. good luck to everyone!

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Hi Jen
I'm so sorry for your loss. I can't even imagine losing a baby that late. It must be extremely hard. How are you doing?

Both of my losses were *very* early on, 5 or 6weeks and 4 weeks. Before the second loss, I thought I was pregnant in Jan (I guess it could have been a chemical with no positive test), and I just about broke down crying in fear of what could happen - before I even knew if I was pregnant or not. But for some reason with the second loss and this pregnancy, I don't have that fear. Especially with this pregnancy, for some reason I'm more confident everything will be OK. I don't know why. I'm actually having less symptoms than I have with either of the miscarriages and the times I thought I was pregnant. I've been having on and off "symptoms" ever since the first miscarriage though. I think my body's just been out of whack. However, maybe the reason I feel like it is fine is because with L's pregnancy it was a lot like this, hardly any symptoms except a positive test.
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hehe, I started that first posy & then had to run to dd. Did y'all wonder why it only said "hi"? Anyway, I updated it

I'm doing okay. DH & my mom have been so great & I have a very supportive group of friends IRL & online- they have been my therapy. & as I mentioned in the OP, I do take a low dose of Wellbutrin. 7/22/08 was my dd w/ Owen & the month of July was MUCH harder than I thought it would be. We have been ttc since I got my first AF after Owen was born (I think this we my 4th cycle) so we are very VERY happy to be pg (though of course we still miss Owen desperately).
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I totally get why you feel more cautious and want more monitoring Jen, especially with what you've gone through!

For some reason though, I want less monitoring. The first miscarriage we did HCGs and a vaginal ultrasound, but of course it didn't change the outcome because I was so early on. I guess I feel like I'll just worry more about the results, etc., with that than if I don't have any of it at all. Also, though I'm feeling like this baby is really sticky and not worrying as much as I thought I would. But I totally get why some people would want more monitoring. I think just different things ease peoples minds.

One thing I am being more cautious about, and I'm not sure why since I'm not really worried otherwise, is dtd. For some reason, that does bring up fears of spotting and then worries about miscarriage.
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UGH I JUST POSTED LIKE 3 PARAGRAPHS BUT IT SAID I WASN'T SIGNED IN AND I LOST IT ARGHHH!!!!

Let me try to remember everything I said.

I am pregnant after a loss and am feeling surprisingly calm about it. I just realize that there is nothing I could have done to prevent the first loss and there isn't anything I can do now besides take care of myself and the rest is up to God.

I decided to have my HCG level and progesterone monitored right away just to see how it looks. With my first pregnancy, I wouldn't have known anything was wrong based on levels though, but it is still a mini milestone to know that things are going as they should in the beginning! I didn't have any spotting or cramping last time. I only found out the pregnancy wasn't viable because I pushed for an early u/s. When I went in at 8 weeks all they could see was a yolk sac. I went back in one week later and they only could see a tiny fetal pole. Two weeks later the fetal pole was basically the same size and there was not a heartbeat. It was a very long and tough process. I decided to take medicine to help me miscarry as my body was really holding on to the pregnancy and I was not comfortable with a D&C. I started miscarrying in the beginning of March and didn't finish until the endish of May/early June.

So anyway, on Friday (3w6d) my HCG was 49.7 and my progesterone was 19.5. Yesterday (4w2d) my HCG was 312.3 and my progesterone was 21.36!!!! Looking really good so far!!!!

Everything I read and hear (from my doctors) suggests that what happened the first time was a fluke (and happens in what 1 out of every 4 pregnancies - how scary is that??) and that my chances of having a successful pregnancy this time are statistically really good. It scares me because I haven't carried a baby to term, but I can get pregnant and my body really wants to be pregnant and seeing as how common not seeing a heartbeat can be (the pregnancy just not developing right - ultimately meaning something was wrong and your body knew it) I feel my chances are great this time and I feel great about it!!!!

Wishing us all a H&H9 and sticky baby dust to US ALL!!!! :

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I just realized how positively giddy I am just to be able to be a part of a DDC. I didn't find mothering until I was already miscarrying with my second pregnancy. I've lurked on other DDCs for the past year (in hopes that I would be joining one eventually ), and I only got to be a part of one for one day before I miscarried the second time.

So it's been great to really feel a part of this community already!
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i just posted in the regular pregnant after loss forum, but am going to move over to here. we are a little over 4 weeks along and i decided to go ahead and get the full round of blood work this week. i wasn't going to, but then i decided for my own peace of mind i would. my ND is actually a very close friend as well, so i'll get the results back fast and we'll know if things are looking alright so far or not. i don't know if i'll do the u/s at 8 weeks, but we've got a bit of time to decide that. our last pregnancy ended at 8 weeks but the baby stopped growing at a little over 6 weeks. i'm a nervous wreck of course with this one, but just trying to maintain some calm and get through it. trying not to analyze every twinge and symptom as well...

i'm so sorry for everyone's losses and i hope we all have a happy and healthy 9 months this time around...

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thanks for starting this thread.

my situation is a little different- I miscarried my DS's twin at around 12-13 weeks. We didn't know I was carrying twins until we discovered the 2nd baby wasn't viable. It was pretty awful, and I miscarried through most of my 2nd trimester.

There are a lot of things that will be different this time. I am seeing a maternal fetal medicine OB this time, both because I lost a twin, and because DS has multiple medical issues that may stem from a chromosome problem. We are seeing a geneticist for him at the end of the month. They did a screening questionaire for me with the MFM group, and here are my risk factors:

age 36
preterm prodromal labor starting at 23 weeks
preterm delivery at 33 weeks
early twin loss
pre-eclampsia
possible chromosomal disorder in DS
history of cervical cancer (2 surgeries)
history of endometriosis (2 surgeries for that as well)
large amt of scar tissue in uterus

We got pregnant this time in 1 WEEK of trying. I have been really sick since last Monday, and I'm only 4w5d today. I am pretty convinced already this is another twin pregnancy, but I am terrified it is, KWIM? If I can't even carry a singleton to term, what happens with twins?

Anyway, it's nice to know there are others here who understand. I am not telling anyone else until 2nd tri. I was really closely monitored last time because i had so many risk factors, but I probably won't be monitored as much this time because (1) we moved, and I'm 1 hour away from the hospital where my doctor is, and (2) my son's medical needs take up a lot of time. I am also trying to get a job right now, so I just don't know how I will be able to juggle everything.

I have my first consult with the MFM specialist on the 19th. I know they plan to do a dating ultrasound then, and I will probably ask for a beta as well.
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ikwym, rachel. i lost twins and i am terrified of twins this time too. really hoping to see one babe with a beating heart on the u/s next week.
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ikwym, rachel. i lost twins and i am terrified of twins this time too. really hoping to see one babe with a beating heart on the u/s next week.
good luck to everyone
huge to you. it's tough because I feel, deep down, that I'm destined to have twins, but the thought scares me to death! What day is your u/s? I will send a special prayer your way. Mine will be August 19th.
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u/s August 13. kinda feeling in limbo til then, lol.
on another note, i saw a new ob for the 1st time yesterday and he sent me for "labs." I called today to see if i could find out my hcg and prog levels, but the nurse said he didnt order these. she sd they were doing blood type, hiv and...i think antibodies (?). well, i could have told them my blood type and that im hiv neg. i thought it was standard to check the hormone levels. i mean they took like 5 vials of blood i cant believe they didnt check. so im not feeling as positive about this doc now.

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GREAT idea to start this thread, jen!! (I just love that we are exactly the same amount pg -- same due and everything).

Anyway, this is my 5th pg and I have one living dd. My three m/c have all been in the last yr. I've seen an RE and had tons of testing done only to find that everything looks normal. So here we go again...holding our breath. I had 2 betas and progesterone tests so far and it looks good. But, I'm only a little over 4 wks so who knows. I have a u/s scheduled for 8/25. Depending on how that one goes I may or may not have another one. I plan on seeing the RE until 12 wks and then switch over to my homebirth mw.

I'm sorry for e/o's losses but it's nice to have some women who can relate to this scary/exciting time.

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went in for my first round of blood work today...am extremely nervous. i had them check progesterone and my ND ordered a beta check too, so i'll go back on friday to recheck both of those and am praying they will be going up as they should.

i'm completely, utterly exhausted...bbs are starting to hurt more and i get a little nauseas here and there if i haven't eaten..other than that, and peeing constantly, nothing else...i guess a bit crampy. the exhaustion is what's getting to me most right now...i'm so ready for a nap in the mid day and want to crawl into bed by 8 every night...just too tired for anything... my ND wants me to start taking floradix...so i need to pick some up. we'll know if it's my iron levels sometime today when my labwork comes back. the good thing is, my ND is also one of my best friends, so she'll call or email immediately with the results...

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I've lost two around the six - seven week mark, in March 2003 and Dec 2005. Of course, it was right after we told EVERYONE! So this time around, I've only told those who I could also comfortably grieve a loss with. I'll probably share the news with others around the 8 week mark.

Otherwise, no additional tests or anything for me, I guess.

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So glad we have this special place we can call home

I find myself resisting joinging the dedicated PAL forum in "pregnancy & birth loss". I really feel like this is a whole new pregnancy & am not feeling too anxious- but I might if I immerse myself in other people's anxiety. So I'm making myself at home here

I too kind of had a premonition w/ my loss. Originally dh & I decided that 3 years would be the ideal gap b/w our kids. But then around the time dd was 1yo, I thought "what if something happens to my next pregnancy or it takes us a long time to get pg, that would certainly increase the gap" So we stopped using condoms & got pg shortly there after. & sure enough, we lost that baby.

I also hadn't been taking as good care of myself (nutritionally) as I am now, so I feel more confident in my body's ability to carry this pregnancy.

I'm still feeling pretty chill, but I sure wish I'd have some symptoms (I know it's EARLY but still!). I talked w/ a friend today who's had multiple losses & after hearing her experiences, I think I'm going to skip a 7-8 week u/s & try to hold out until the 11 wk nuchal fold scan.

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I've only told those who I could also comfortably grieve a loss with.
That's exactly what I've done too. I really wear my heart on my sleeve, so I do have to tell some people, but they will be the people I'll cry w/ if I m/c. My "rule of thumb" in my head is "if I don't see/talk to them once a week or more, I probably don't need to go out of my way to tell them"
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I also hadn't been taking as good care of myself (nutritionally) as I am now, so I feel more confident in my body's ability to carry this pregnancy.
this is helping me too, Jen. When I found out i was carrying twins last time i was underweight and i just could not gain no matter what i did. When i lost them at 16 weeks i had only gained 2 lbs. I was having problems with my bp almost from the beginning and my body was just really stressed.
since losing them in December I have gained about 5 or 6 more lbs and have a little bit of fat starting out and just feel like im starting out from a much healthier place than i did last time, and this is really helping me to feel more confident that this pg might have a better chance of working out.
also, dp understands how much stress was a problem last time and is being really sweet and cool and helping me to relax and not get worked up and i think this is really helping me too. i really want this baby for him he is going to be the best daddy ever.
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I'm so glad we have this thread. Miscarriage has been constantly on my mind since I found out that I was pregnant. My most recent m/c was in May, I was 10 weeks along, but I was kind of expecting to miscarry because I had been very sick with the flu around 5-6 weeks, with a high fever. As I recovered from the flu, my pregnancy symptoms seemed to go away as well.

I also lost a baby at 12 1/2 weeks in Dec 2002. Again I had few symptoms and felt something was wrong.

I have three healthy kids whose pregnancies made me extremely sick for the first trimester. I am feeling a little queasy now, and realllly tired, so I am feeling better about this pregnancy.
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got my first round of blood work back today...all my chems are spot on she said. nothing bad or even anything to watch..so that's good, i'm healthy!

my progesterone was great - 35.1! and my first round of betas were 894 which is perfect for the stage i'm at...puts my bean at about 4 weeks gestation which totally corresponds with my ovulation. of course those numbers mean nothing if they aren't going up, so i go back tomorrow to get the next set taken and should find out tomorrow afternoon about those...i'm just crossing my fingers that the betas are doubling like they should! i'm on 300mg of prometrium, so as long as the prog is going up a couple points then my body is doing what it's suppose to...

so after that we'll just have to get past the 8 week mark (that's when my last m/c occurred) so i can have a little peace of mind until we finally hear/see a hb, at which point i'll be the happiest gal on the planet...

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that's so awesome, cat! I know you are so glad to hear everything is going great. I hope that's all you hear for the next 8 months.

how's everyone else doing?

i havent been having anymore cramps and also I found out there are some things that could be causing them other than something going wrong (maybe because my uterus is tipped which i know it was years ago maybe its more now and causing crampiness and then i saw someone post about irritable uterus). on Sunday I was feeling it and told dp that i couldnt see how everything could be okay with feeling like that and was really worried but now that i can think of other explanations other than miscarriage i feel hopeful. plus, it stopped sometime sunday and hasn't come back. and i have had no spot whatsoever, even after dtd. so, as i said, very hopeful about seing the u/s wednesday.

hope everyone else is feeling hopeful and well now and continues throughout.

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I too kind of had a premonition w/ my loss. Originally dh & I decided that 3 years would be the ideal gap b/w our kids. But then around the time dd was 1yo, I thought "what if something happens to my next pregnancy or it takes us a long time to get pg, that would certainly increase the gap" So we stopped using condoms & got pg shortly there after. & sure enough, we lost that baby.
This was me, too, expect that we'd not agreed to 3 years. I'm 38 and I wanted to start trying a year ago and kept telling dh that we don't know how long it will take to get pregnant, don't know if all will go well, so, let's get this show on the road! And we lost the next pregnancy when, a year later, he finally agreed to ttc again.

Anyway, I'm excited to be in a MDC birth month group! I had a miscarriage in Apr-May. It was missed and took a month to expel. I felt something was not right very early on. I had m/s with dd 2 days after my missed period. With this one, I was getting nothing. I only had tender breasts and no fatigue coming either. The embryo died at 6wk 2d, I had an u/s at 7wk 2d and it was measuring a week behind, but it was unclear weather the fluttering in the sac was my heartbeat or the embryo's. The only "sign" I had was churning/twisting like cramp. A single such cramp and the faintest of a single spot of blood. If you weren't fanatically looking as I was, you would have missed it on the tp. I didn't start bleeding until about 3 weeks after it expired. Then I had an acupuncture treatment and the m/c proceeding the next day and half and, thankfully, was complete.

This time, I was taking naps before the end of week 5, got morning sickness during week 5 and threw up last night, just into the start of week 6!

I did have a spotting episode last Sunday which sent me running to the doctor (an OB) for blood work. I went in on Thurs and they still didn't have the results Friday. I should get them today. Good news was the doc said I was not bleeding at all and my uterus is appropriately enlarged. After last night, I'm feeling more confident. I was going to go in for an early u/s, but, now, I'll skip it and wait for the 19/20 wk. Meanwhile, I'll use my doppler at home to find the heartbeat around 8/9 weeks. Doctor was checking my HCG and progesterone levels.

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honeybunmom...your experienced almost mirrors mine and at the same time too. the only difference is i didn't find out until 8 weeks. i had some bleeding and then it was okay...so we waited all weekend with me just taking it easy...then monday night i had a couple big cramps and huge gushes...so we went in and found out that our bean had stopped growing at 6w 2d...it took another week for the m/c to actually happen.

this time, i feel more pregnant. last time my symptoms were very mild and i kept convincing myself that it was just going to be an easier pregnancy. at around 6 weeks though i really didn't have much in the way of symptoms. the blood work they did at 8 weeks showed my betas only corresponding to about 5 weeks, with the baby measuring 6...so my hormones were depleting.

right now i'm just about 5 weeks and feeling sick and exhausted...boobs hurt alot worse than before, i'm extra irritable and just all around crappy feeling..yay!!! i'm really trying not to analyze it all, just in case...but i can't help it either. today was actually the first day that i said out loud to dh "i feel like crap because i'm pregnant!" :

i should get my numbers from thursday back today and hopefully the betas will have gone up...oh please oh please oh please...

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My first pregnancy ended at 9wks and i didn't find out until my appt at 11wks. i bled for over a month and that was upsetting. i was so excited about the pregnancy and told everyone we knew. after we lost it i was very depressed over it. i got pregnant the first time we tried after my mc and was depressed my entire pregnancy because i was sure i was going to lose him too and be heart broken all over again. luckily he made it. this is my third pregnancy and i'm 7 days late and have had FADED pos test.

does a faded test mean m/c is on its way? my other birth board says yes but my best friend says no.

to answer the first post about what we're doing differently. this time we are not getting our hopes up until the second trimester and not telling anyone until then either

i haven't contacted a doc or midwife yet. we won't have insurance for another couple weeks anyway. in my mind i feel that if i go to a doc i'll have to admit to myself that i really am pregnant and denial is easier right now.

i don't understand checking hcg and progesterone levels. do you ask your doc to do that and you know based on those if your going to m/c?

http://www.pregnancyloss.info/info-howcommon.htm
here is a chart that says the chance of m/c at 3-6 wks is only 10%. that's comforting
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i don't understand checking hcg and progesterone levels. do you ask your doc to do that and you know based on those if your going to m/c?
This is my first experience with such blood work; but, as I understand it, testing would ordinarily not be a one shot deal. HCG levels are supposed to double over a 24/48 (I forget which) period in early pregnancy. And there is a general range of expected levels in early pregnancy. If the levels are low, or are not increasing normally, or, worse, decreasing, you can have some expectation as to the viability of the pregnancy. From what my midwife and OB told me, a 5 wk u/s is pretty useless and blood work provides more information.

As for progesterone, it plays an important part in supporting a pregnancy (pregnancy with low enough progesterone levels may end in spontaneous abortion). Some people take progesterone supplements if they have low progesterone levels.

One more thing, my OB said that if the HCB levels are at least 2000, then one can expect to see the gestational sac with something in it.

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an u/s can't tell anything until the hcg is 2000 or greater, as the pp stated.. this is my first time dealing with that too and i did tons of research! basically the doubling time is 48-72 hours...until around 10 weeks i think when it starts slowing down. i could be wrong on that and it could be 12 weeks. anyway, you have to have at least 2 tests to make sure your hcg is going up like it should be. alot of doctors will order 3 just to be safe. if your numbers are not doubling or are going down, that most likely means a m/c is oh its way. although some women have had numbers not double and gone on to very healthy pregnancies, it jsut really depends on how low they are. progesterone will go up too and usually they want to see it go up a couple points or more.

home pregnancy tests can detect the pregnancy hormone (hcg) in your body as low as 25 depending on the test (some even lower but i don't think any will claim that). when you say faded, do you mean the line was light? or do you mean you've taken several tests and the line is fading? if the line is fading, unfortunately that could mean a chemical pregnancy. but blood work will definitely tell you how pregnant you are. if you got a positive test then you are pregnant my dear..

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Hi everyone
Thanks for this thread.... I just saw a BFP last night! (and again this morning, just to make sure I wasn't totally hallucinating ) I'm so excited but still feeling very trepidatious about getting my hopes up this early (4wks).

I'm happy to have this thread... I was just planning on lurking for a while before joining the DDC but this feels like just the right place to introduce myself

My first pregnancy ended in mc in May (the baby stopped growing at 6 weeks, I found out at 10wks, and then started bleeding at 12.5wks). I've had one normal period since then and now voila! Preggers! I'm not nervous exactly.... I'm just thinking of myself as "almost pregnant" until I FEEL the signs. Just waiting on those sore boobs I'm not going to get any additional testing or take any extra precautions this time. Maybe less actually. I want to just enjoy this and read the signs that my body gives me and try to be as zen as I can. This is a completely new pregnancy and a fresh start. See, I'm getting this all in writing here so than in a few weeks when I'm totally freaking out you can all point me back to this and say "shut up and RELAX lady!!!!" hahahah

Well, it's nice to meet you all, and my fingers are crossed for all of us April newbies!

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got my second round of betas back! 2009! doubling time of 1.71 days...

i'm so happy about it, but also know anything can happen. my prog is still good too, i'm still on supplements though so will get my next script in a week or so...but so far so good!!! : i'm trying not to get too excited as i know anything can still happen, but at this point all is going great..

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Hi everyone!

This is my first post in the DDC! I miscarried my first pg around 8 weeks. I can't tell you how afraid I am of losing this pg! I have a son who is 2.5 years old and we're still nursing. Can too much nursing effect being pg?

Is there anything I can do to increase "stickiness"? Right now I'm obsessively checking my BFPs to make sure they're still there! I'm afraid to temp tomorrow in case it tells me something I don't want to hear, and I'm even avoiding the other "O" because I don't want to cause contractions (is this totally silly, or what?)!

Thanks ladies, I'm enjoying reading everyones posts and hope for a healthy 9 months for all of us!

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welcome grace!! i totally know how you are feeling...it's so scary after a m/c so far along...after any m/c, but particulary for me it was hard at 8 weeks as opposed to the one i had less than a week after getting my bfp.

nursing can cause lower progesterone, but i was still nursing my oldest dd regularly when i got pg with dd#2 and never had an issue. this time i'm on supplements mainly because of my age and the last m/c. other than getting your prog checked, there really isn't much more you can do.

don't temp...temping is not longer reliable after a bfp and it can go up and down and be all over the place...trust me!

otherwise, try to breath and relax as much as possible..and congratulations!!

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