I am nearly 11 weeks. Dp and I have had lots of ups and downs in our relationship, and I know the fight we started was due to hormones. But the revelations that ended our relationship have nothing to do with fluctuating mood. I don't want to go into a lot of detail simply because we have both been the wrongdoer in all of this, and it's not really necessary to elaborate.
I just am at a loss at what to do now. I don't really want to be a single mother all over again, especially this time with a newborn AND a 4 year-old.
Ds (who is not dp's son) and I may see about living with my parents for a little while, but I have not told them or anyone that I am pregnant. I don't even know how to broach that subject. I think I am scared of being harshly judged or rejected.
I hope it works out to stay with your parents for a while, and that you get the support you need.
: for you
Mama to 9 so far:Mother of Joey (20), Dominick (13), Abigail (11), Angelo (8), Mylee (6), Delainey (3), Colton (2) and Baby 8 and Baby 9 coming sometime in July 2013. If evolution were true, mothers would have three arms!
Married to my best friend Mama to DS1 4/2009, DS2 3/2011, and DS3 12/22/2014 and two Remembering 3/2008
Good luck and keep us updated!
Then I guess you look around and see what support you might have available and what works best for your family (baby to be included).
I'm so sorry, mama. This really sucks
"Guess what? It's a magical world. And when I sing, my songs are in it."
Madly in love with my 7 and 4 year old daughters
Anyone who judges you at this difficult time in your life is insensitive and a kinda sucky person!
Take care of yourself, mama! :
I wish you the best and hope you find some open, non-judgemental arms at your parents' house or with a good friend.
Also, I know you didn't mention anything about it in the OP & I am by no means suggesting you should, but if you are considering termination, I want you to know that there are mamas here who will support you 100% whatever you need to do.
None of us know exactly what's going on in your life, none of us has the right to judge you or even say what we might do because we are simply not there.
Much love & peace to you :
I think the time apart and a few counseling sessions for me really helped cool things down. Helped us realise that hormonally I am all over the map right now, which is what was really bothering DP because he feels like my rage and irritability is directed at him. "Why can't you just be nice?" he is constantly saying.
Well, we are working on things, seeing our counselor again, and not trying to live too far in the future. Spending time together, but then much needed time apart as well. We both have a child (his ds is 6 and mine is 3) so we have been spending one-on-one parent time with them too.
I was considering termination of the pregnancy because I am very supportive of the right to choose. I decided this time that partnered or not I am a good mother who can find support to raise 2 kids. Plus, we have already had the first u/s, and I couldn't not think about that.
Through all of this I am really amazed at the role hormonal fluctuations can play! Thanks again for the support! :