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My friend is pregnant and due in April 2009. She found out really early and has had 6 ultra sounds and goes to the doctors or phones the doctors at least once a week. She is also suffering from every symptom imaginable. And even though she only was off a harsh birth control for less then a year and only tried for 2 months she feels as though she tried so hard and doesn't want to try again.
I found out a lot later. I had my first doctor appointment last week and first ultrasound yesterday. I was never tired (I also have 3 foster kids to chase) and I had m/s but it was manageable.
In other words my pregnancy is going really well and hers is not. Also, I am really easy going and she is a hypochondriac.
Last night she says to me on msn "I'm trying really hard not to be jealous of you". I respond by saying that I'm sorry her pregnancy is so hard and I am praying for her.
I don't know what to do for her. I don't know what to say. I know it has been physically hard on her but I think half of it is her mindset. Also, she has/does nothing to take her mind off of it.
Anyone have any advice? If you are going through a tough pregnancy what would you want someone to say?
I just wanted to point out that not all hypochondriacs do it for the attention and would wager that most really do believe things are worse than they are. Then again, few who babble on and on about themselves realize that they turn conversations into me-me-me-me-me either, they just might have a lot to say
I'd try to make it as positive as you can. If she complains about m/s, say that her horomones must be off the charts (and thus chance of miscarriage is very low) or that her body will take care of the baby's nutritional needs before her's (no need to worry about that puked-up prenatal). If she's really tired, say that her baby must be really active and stealing all her energy. If the ultrasound pictures come out, point out how perfect the baby looks.
It's just so hard to be a Negative Nancy in the company of someone who finds a positive in every situation and she may pick up on the positive vibes and start to feel more confident.
I must second a small gift basket (preggie pops sound like a great addition), that would ROCK to recieve one and know that someone sympathizes with you.