I went two weeks ago, but am just now getting around to writing about it. To preface, even though this is my second pregnancy, I had a midwife and planned a HB last time. Because of pre-eclampsia, I had to induce at a hospital. In the end, I found myself really comfortable with the notion of a hospital birth. It really surprised me, but even though I know all that monitoring equipment and such is unecessary statistically, it still made me feel secure. I also found that I liked messing up someone else's sheets, having nurses bring me stuff, etc. Maybe that sounds ignorant, but I found the hospital experience (at my particular crunch friendly hospital) to be actually a good experience. It was also financially WAY cheaper for us (because of insurance) and our midwife was very expensive (we had to pay both of course). Because of that experience, I decided this time around to go the traditional route. That said, I have never experienced traditional prenatal care. With Milena, I had no ultrasounds, one doppler late in the pregnancy, etc.
My OB is really cool and supportive of the midwife I had. He does talks on VBAC in town. So as far as OBs, he's pretty rad. He does my well woman visits and I feel very comfortable with him. But this first prenatal visit was...weird.
I had discussed with him ahead of time (before I was pregnant at a well woman visit) my preference to avoid u/s unless absolutely medically indicated etc. He was fine with it, but of course gives the disclaimer "you can do pretty much anything you want. I might think its stupid, but its a free country." You may have cringed when you read that, but I like the guy's honesty and I feel I can trust him because he doesn't ever keep a secret agenda and he tells me the straight stuff.
Anyhow, the nurse took me back and when she realized it was a pregnancy appt., she said "oh, we'll take you to the u/s room." I said "I don't want any u/s" and her reply was "oh, he'll just do a little one." WTF???
When he came in, he was ready to go for the u/s and I told him I didn't want it. He looked baffled. Is it standard practice to do a u/s at 8 weeks??
I thought early trimester u/s were somewhat uncommon?
When I said I didn't want the u/s, he said "umm. well what do you want me to do exactly?" I just laughed.
We also had the whole "how late do you let someone go" conversation, because I was a week overdue with Milena with a totally hard and closed cervix when we induced because of the pre-e. His reply was "or your dates were wrong."
WHY oh WHY is it so hard to believe that someone's dates could be RIGHT? I charted my cycle with Milena and I knew it to the date I ovulated. And this time around, I know the date of my LMP. So seriously, is a u/s the only way I could convincingly know my dates? The end result is that I think he's pretty hands off (as his record seems to indicate as well) so I'm not worried about it, but I'm annoyed that no one ever trusts dates without an early (and
IMO risky) u/s.
I don't mean to bitch too hard. I know many of you probably think "well just have a homebirth." But I know I'm not a homebirther deep down. Its just not for me. However, I really really wish I could have the midwife prenatal care and then a hospital birth. I know I'm gonna be that weird chick that comes in each time and says "no I don't want to do the AFP. no no doppler. no no u/s." I'm up for it, cuz I guess I'm used to being the weird one. but I just wish things weren't so either/or.
The OB I like and I trust him at my birth, but that prenatal visit scene is SO not me. Anyone else feel too crunchy for the traditional route but not enough for a homebirth?