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So tomorrow's the day I get to hear the , well I'm hoping and praying to that is. I purposefully waited until over 8wks this time because of the ordeal with my last pregnancy in Feb. this year. Then I went in at 6-7 wks and the OB couldn't hear the hb. SO he said just come back in a week and we'll check again, may be nothing wrong. Well, the thoughts and scenarios that went through my head were too much to handle. I remember thinking how could this be happening to me. I went back the next week and still nothing. My chances were slim to none...I waited another week and had another u/s. No changes and was told I had a missed m/c. So I waited somemore, over a month, and nothing passed. I remember thinking why doesn't my body recognize this loss, what's going on. I had a little bleeding, but no pain. Finally, had to have the D&C in Apr. I remember thinking as I left the surgicenter...oh great that was my last chance at being pregnant, I'm done : But, I waited three months and started to TTC again and it worked, the very first month...at 43.5!! Wait, this really is a bonafide miracle because everything I've read seems to say that fertility is virtually nil over 40. You know less than a 5% chance. Yet, I've been pregnant three times all on the first month TTC over 40!! So tomorrow morning really is a milestone for me. Please, oh please God let me hear the .

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I'm so sorry for your loss. I hope the appointment goes beautifully. I'm wondering how the doctor is expecting to hear the heartbeat so early? I've never been able to hear a heartbeat before 12 weeks. Lots of luck for tomorrow!
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I've heard all three times at just 8 weeks. Good luck Mama, I'll be thinking of you :heart
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I will be keeping you in my thoughts tomorrow and I hope you hear a loud and strong beat!
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Oh, to hear that little heart beating under yours... Have a wonderful day tomorrow and let us know how it goes!

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I hope everything goes perfect! I can't wait to hear the heartbeat. I imagine it being an amazing moment, and I hope you get to have your's tomorrow.

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Hoping you hear a VERY Strong today!!!

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I hope you're hearing that miraculous beating right now! Update us when you get back from your appointment!

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I am hoping you hear that beat thumping away.
I am in the same boat. I had a missed miscarriage at 14 weeks back in Feb and really am wanting an early u/s this time. I need the bit a reassurance to let myself get really excited about this baby. I want to relax and feel like i can be elated (like i secretly am ) I also scheduled mine for after 8 weeks (which will be next week) I figured then there would be no doubt the heartbeat would be seen.

Are you getting an u/s or are they using a doppler? I was curious if you could hear a heartbeat this early with a doppler or not.
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No heartbeat. The fetal pole was over 5(mm?) and generally if you can't hear it by then you won't and that means m/c. I have to go next week to have a super high tech u/s, just like last time, and the doctor usually comes in and specifically tells you what signs she's seen that indicate an impending m/c. If it's over, I'm having the D&C next week becasue last time I waited for it naturally over six weeks and thought everything worked itself out, but the u/s still showed the sac and I had to have a D&C anyway : I can't waste time at my age. It's just hard to believe that at my age the risk of m/c is about 1/25, according to my OB, and I've been unlucky two times in a row. How likely is that. However, there still is a chance for a miracle next week and maybe my ovulation days were off, but I think it's unlikely, we'll see.

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I'm so sorry, I will be keeping you in my thoughts and hoping you have better news next week

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I'm so sorry. I will be thinking about you. It's not over til it's over.

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Jumping in from a different DDC to say I am sorry .

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No heartbeat. The fetal pole was over 5(mm?) and generally if you can't hear it by then you won't and that means m/c. I have to go next week to have a super high tech u/s, just like last time, and the doctor usually comes in and specifically tells you what signs she's seen that indicate an impending m/c. If it's over, I'm having the D&C next week becasue last time I waited for it naturally over six weeks and thought everything worked itself out, but the u/s still showed the sac and I had to have a D&C anyway : I can't waste time at my age. It's just hard to believe that at my age the risk of m/c is about 1/25, according to my OB, and I've been unlucky two times in a row. How likely is that. However, there still is a chance for a miracle next week and maybe my ovulation days were off, but I think it's unlikely, we'll see.
I am so sorry. You are in my thoughts.

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oh honey. i'll keep thinking of you
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I'm so sorry

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I'm so sorry.

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I am very sorry.

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I'm so sorry. I was really hoping for you.
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I was so hoping for some good news for you. Keep us updated please!

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So sorry to hear that! Please keep us updated.

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I am so sorry and I hope things change.

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I wish you would have gotten better news.
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I'm so sorry.

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No heartbeat. The fetal pole was over 5(mm?) and generally if you can't hear it by then you won't and that means m/c. I have to go next week to have a super high tech u/s, just like last time, and the doctor usually comes in and specifically tells you what signs she's seen that indicate an impending m/c. If it's over, I'm having the D&C next week becasue last time I waited for it naturally over six weeks and thought everything worked itself out, but the u/s still showed the sac and I had to have a D&C anyway : I can't waste time at my age. It's just hard to believe that at my age the risk of m/c is about 1/25, according to my OB, and I've been unlucky two times in a row. How likely is that. However, there still is a chance for a miracle next week and maybe my ovulation days were off, but I think it's unlikely, we'll see.
I am so sorry that you did not get the news and sound you were hoping for. Please stay positive and hope for the best until you have a clear picture of what is going on. Its not over until its over, right?

Goodluck :
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I am so sorry. Hang in there mama.

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