I'm trying to figure out whether I should consider what he says as fear of the unknown and take the leap or put my dream aside.
You might want to check out our Trying To Conceive forum: http://www.mothering.com/community/f/178/trying-to-conceive
Although 41 is outside of average, I doubt you're the only person here wanting a baby in your 40s!
Let me know if you have any questions.
Welcome to Mothering!
I think you are in good company in wanting to start a family at 40. :) I hope you get some good information and some supportive community here! Let me know if you need any help finding anything specific.
Adina mama to B 4/06 and E 8/13/12 (on her due date!)