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Hi all,

My name is Dani and I am a SAHM to three wonderful children. A friend of mine is a subscriber to the magazine, and said there was a website, so I thought I would check it out. I saw the 'discuss' tab and here I am. I haven't subscribed yet, although I would love to later. I am really interested in learning about things from real moms here though. This board is HUGE, so I am still looking through all the forums, but looks pretty neat so far.

My children are my life! I get all sappy when talking about them. My eldest Isaac is 16, and such a mellow little man (do NOT tell him I called him little- HA! He'd kill me). My son Jonah is 12, and a pistol. he has his own opinions about EVERYTHING, and they usually differ drastically from my own. I love this about him though. Isa is my baby. She's a Pisces through and through. She will be five in Febraury, and so imaginative. I think I see a career in acting in her future.

My husband teaches social studies in a middle school, and is great at it. his students fall all over him. I thought I had patience, until I saw him with his wiley bunch.

We are both 30. Both have bachelors degrees. Both love reading.

Gosh, I could go on and on, but think this is enough for now.
(I love those little smiley things)

Oh...We practice AP, and are really interested in minimizing in every aspect of our lives. We want to leave as little a footprint as possible.

Looking forward to talkign with everyone soon.
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Hi, Dani! Welcome to MDC.
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Welcome! I'm in Centreville. There are a lot of NoVa moms here.
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Hi ladies. Really? Lots of NoV moms here? Cool. Where is everyone?
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Hi! Welcome! I Alexandria!!! I went to a girls boarding school in Centreville MD and we visited it often. Welcome to MDC....dont feel too overwhelmed by the size...I was at first but everyone is really cool!
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Hi Dani
to the community.
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Thank you all.
Turns out I might need this place more than I expected. This disaster in the south has me really stressed out, I can't imagine what the actual victims of this tragedy are going through.
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Hi Dani... welcome to our community... You found the best place to gather and find support for your parenting!!!
Now, I must ask- why Fishygirl???? does your little girl love fish???
I understand your concern and nervousness for all those people in the south.. It really is beyond anything this country has seen it seems -as far as i know- in way of natural disaster. I am so upset that our billions spent on other more imporant things couldnt have been spent preventing so many from suffering right now... there is a current news forum here and also politics -what's it called if you want to really learn some stuff from some wise and active mamas
Yes, anyway as a mom it's hard to imagine how any family can endure this tragedy
hope it helps you to come here and 'talk', vent or just read!
~L
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Oh yeah, I have an almost 5 girl too!! is this an especially umm challenging time now or what??? i am having a lot of major feeling stuff come up for mine and i seem to remember it with my son around this time as well?
I love the name too! is the "I" long or is it like is?
~L
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Laura~ Oh Isa is all grown up, don't ya know? She is miss independant, and while I try to encourage this, and independant thinking, the old ways of how I was riased keep popping up. Challenge yes indeedy.

The Isa is pernounced Eesah. As in Dora the Explorers Isa :LOL
The name means: Consecrated to God, it is a variation of Isi.
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Fishygirl> ahhh, i see about the pronuciation yet.. why fishygirl?? just curious!
-This is prob another thread but oh well, we are going through a time with our Anna and her real deep feelings. It's certainly understandable that at this developmental stage she must be trying to deal with them and life as it begins to look different form her growning and changing perspective. She's starting k in a few days and going through some fears and compulsions which is a bit concerning. Im trying to take it in stride and with faith but thought i'd ask if you had anything like this going on? I realize yours is homeschooled but perhaps something is apparent as far as feelings go???
thanks
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Fishygirl> ahhh, i see about the pronuciation yet.. why fishygirl??
~L
I'm guessing because her daughter is Pisces? And maybe she is as well? Just my crqazy guess! I'd love to know as well.

Welcome Fishygirl
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Yep, that what was i was half-thinking this morning! :LOL
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Ack! I'm not getting notifications of replies. Could it be that I am obsessed with this quick reply thingy?

Laura~ Fishygirl is because Isa is a Pisces (Feb 24), and I like fish? :LOL

As for dealing with Isa's new found feelings? Well, not so much her emotions, but her feelings toward things and people. She is like an 80 yr old man, so set in herways. If she has her mind set to something, it's nearly impossible to deviate from the plan. We try and minimize meltdowns by giving plenty of advance notice before we change activities.

She hasn't hit on understanding "hey I'm angry" or "golly shucks, I'ma little sad..and this is why". It's something we we work on daily though. If she because outraged, because here there is no "feeling a little upset" we just have instant outrage, then we go through the steps of removing the frustration, calming down, talking about how we feel, better ways to express those feelings, what we can say/do next time so others understand better. Typical GD stuff
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Ok, I'm in regular mode to post...

I wanted to actually comment on your post Laura (oops).

Though we are homeschooling now, Isaac attended public school, and does so now because, well, he is a stubborn thing likes where he is at.

So, in regards to feelings about kindergarten, we went through months of agony. When we would talk about K with family and friends Isaac was all for it, talked about new clothes, books, riding the school bus, making friends, etc...

At home he was hysterical. The bus would forget him, he wouldn't know where to go to the potty. His teacher would be mean. He would trip over his shoes, pee his pants, and on and on.

All I could do was walk through our safety net procedure.

-If you get lost, find an adult (stay inside the school)
-If you wet your pants, tell your teacher (we packed an extra pair forthe first week in his pack)
-The bus will not forget you, if it does, go to the office(we did a tour of the school, so he knew where things were)
-Your teacher will show you where to use the restroom
-We had open house and met his REALLY nice teacher
-We practiced tying shoes for ever and I doubled kotted them most days

So, in short, just make a plan, something that helps Anna feel safe if she is afraid or panicky.

And ya know, Isaac walked into his classroom and said, "Ok mom, you can go now!" I could have killed him!
So, maybe all of our careful planning worked?

I think Anna will do great, afterall, you have started her off with a great foundation of gentle discipline and attachment parenting. She will feel secure in knowing you aren't to far off, that you WILL be there for her when she needs you, and you will be there for her at the end of her day waiting, with open arms!

Did I even get close to what you needed? If not, try again, Isa is pretending to be an opera singer. In fact she has been doing this since Friday!
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Thanks Dani, I dont see any real signs of her being afraid of school. she doesnt say anything about it that's worrisome. She seems fairly excited.
The 'collecting treasures' as she has put it might be waning now... we went for our usual hike on Labor Day and it was at times trying but we are dealing the best we can and helping her to collect when we can and other times we are apologetic that we havent anymore place to put things.... by the time we got home tonight she said she was fine and doing better with this "attitude"(her word) she has been having.... we will see!

again, thankyou for giving me some things to think about... I am hoping we have a fairly easy time of it starting school.
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