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Hi, I don't know how much I'll post but I thought I'd stop in and introduce myself. I live in the Northeast, I have a 4-mon old son, who was circumsized. I formula feed. DS sleeps in a crib in his own room. Oh, and I use disposable diapers. Anything else? Oh yes, he's in daycare 3 days a week (I work from home 2 days).



But, I'm crazy about him and he's just about the calmest, happiest baby I've personally met. I've never let him cry anything out. I don't necessarily think being a good or bad mom is based solely on what you feed your kids or not--I think it's an attitude towards your children. I just want to help and encourage him to become who he is, whoever that may be, and to respect others, whoever they are.

Anyway, a friend got me a subscription to Mothering and it's certainly a new perspective, so I look forward to learning more from all you wonderful parents!

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I just want to help and encourage him to become who he is, whoever that may be, and to respect others, whoever they are.

Anyway, a friend got me a subscription to Mothering and it's certainly a new perspective, so I look forward to learning more from all you wonderful parents!
I think it is great that you are here to learn, but also that you already want your son to grow up with encouraging parents and teaching him respect for others. I hope MDC grows on you and you enjoy it here. I know I have learned lots in the couple of years I have been here.
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w e l c o m e ! !

i'm glad you find this wonderful board!

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It's too late to change what's already happened, but it's not too late to learn how to be the best Mom you can be as he grows! If separate sleeping is working for your family right now- then that's great! I'm sure you'll be responsive if his nighttime needs change over time.

Breastfeeding can be very challenging in the beginning- and nearly impossible at times without the right information and suppor. I'm sure you did the best you could with the information and resources you had available when he was born.

I don't think you're a "bad mama" at all!

Ruth, single mommy to Leah, 19, Hannah, 18, and Jack, 12
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we are all always in the process of learning. We could all learn something from you!!

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thanks. I will approach breastfeeding differently next time, I knew it would be a physical challenge, and we dealt well with that, but I was unprepared for how much of a mental challenge it would be.

The separate sleeping is what seems to work best for us--it's amazing though, when he cries in the night I am there getting him before I'm even consciously aware that he did cry. Yay mommy instinct (and having a small apartment so we're pretty close together!) When he was smaller he was ending up in bed with us quite a bit though--I'm definitely more about staying flexible to his needs than saying things have to be one way or another all the time.

You guys all seem like very thoughtful parents. Thanks for the warm welcome! I'm looking forward to learning more about natural fmaily living (is that right?).

Mom to DS 5/05 and DD 9/08
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Yeap, Natural Family Living (often abbr. NFL here)....there are, also, quite a few parents who practice Attachment Parenting (abbr. AP) here as the two have some areas of overlap.
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Qestia,
It's funny how I changed and grew as a mother over the years... DS was bottlefeed, in daycare, mostly in his crib at night, sometimes sling carried/others in stroller...DD was breastfed, some daycare before I quit work, demanded cosleep, demanded babywearing...Now new DD is coming and I even plan to cloth diper this one ;-)

I'm also pretty new to this site, but it looks like there's lots of informative woman around to help with questions.

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Hi, I don't know how much I'll post but I thought I'd stop in and introduce myself. I live in the Northeast, I have a 4-mon old son, who was circumsized. I formula feed. DS sleeps in a crib in his own room. Oh, and I use disposable diapers. Anything else? Oh yes, he's in daycare 3 days a week (I work from home 2 days).



But, I'm crazy about him and he's just about the calmest, happiest baby I've personally met. I've never let him cry anything out. I don't necessarily think being a good or bad mom is based solely on what you feed your kids or not--I think it's an attitude towards your children. I just want to help and encourage him to become who he is, whoever that may be, and to respect others, whoever they are.

Anyway, a friend got me a subscription to Mothering and it's certainly a new perspective, so I look forward to learning more from all you wonderful parents!

You don't sound like a bad mom to me! Your son is lucky to have such a loving caring mommy - to MDC!
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