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#1 of 15 Old 01-17-2008, 04:58 PM - Thread Starter
 
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Hi all!

Several long time members told me to come here, do not pass go, do not collect $200 after a particularly bad OB appt yesterday that left me in tears.

If there is such a thing as being two weeks pregnant, then I'm it! LOL

It's just so obvious especially in light of the fact that I've been here before. The symptoms are pretty overwhelming and it's not psychosomatic because I'm not even the one to notice it first. My SO and BFF looked at me last week and both said, "you are so pregnant." Then the late night vomiting, spotaneous crying, sore back, indigestion and trucker-worthy gas all made sense.

A year and a half ago I gave birth to a pre-term little girl who was two days shy of viability. During that pregnancy I experienced some aggressive fibroid growths. As the pregnancy was unplanned and I'd never had any fibroid issues before the assumption is mine were hormone sensitive. They caught us off guard and combined with loads of stress (divorce, home buying, new job, etc.) I ended up in pre-term labor.

Now, life is great. I'm in love with a wonderful man who wants a family. I'm settled and a few months ago we decided to let nature take its course. During the past year i've had NO issues with fibroids. I shrank them mostly through diet and meditation. Did the new Dr. care about that?

Nope.

She chastised me for not getting permission to get pregnant. Said she hopes I'm not and assumed that i'd be having a myoectomy (sp?) which I have already decided I will NOT be having. I find it condescending that not one dr. has asked me if I want to have this procedure and criminal that not one of the four who have suggested this have mentioned the potential infertility issues due to scarring, recovery times or any of the alternative means of management.

i am positive that bedrest, meditation, yoga, a circlage and diet will get this baby here and I am looking for all the support in this endeavor that I can find.

um, other than that i wait anxiously for the next week so I can pee on a stick. Even if we're not right now we've got practicing down pat. We are going to make ourselves a baby! LOL

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Welcome! You've come to the right place. First, I'm here to tell you that it can be done and it has been done. I did it and I'm doing it again! I did not have an ideal pregnancy, nor did I get my ideal birth, but DD is here and she's happy and healthy. I'm a bit over halfway through another pregnancy right now. My fibroids are growing again, but not as rapidly as expected. It's unlikely that I'll get my ideal birth this time, but I am NOT giving up. My doctor did ask me about surgery for fibroids, but I told him that I wasn't interested. He as been very respectful.

Second, keep looking until you find a doctor who will work with you. Any chance there is a high risk OB in your area that works with a midwife?

Go poking around the Pregnancy and Birth forums, the Health and Healing Forum, and maybe inquire about doctors in Finding Your Tribe/ Tribal Areas.

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depending on your states laws you may be able to just go with a midwife and avoid OB's all togather. you may want to check into that. or perhaps a CNM?

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Your OB sounds like a real stinker. I hope you'll find a nicer one or maybe even a midwife.

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depending on your states laws you may be able to just go with a midwife and avoid OB's all togather. you may want to check into that. or perhaps a CNM?
CNM = certified nurse midwife?

I'm in NC if that helps anyone make any suggestions.

And thanks to all of you guys.

I am beginning to feel so much more hopeful
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Welcome! You've come to the right place. First, I'm here to tell you that it can be done and it has been done. I did it and I'm doing it again! I did not have an ideal pregnancy, nor did I get my ideal birth, but DD is here and she's happy and healthy. I'm a bit over halfway through another pregnancy right now. My fibroids are growing again, but not as rapidly as expected. It's unlikely that I'll get my ideal birth this time, but I am NOT giving up. My doctor did ask me about surgery for fibroids, but I told him that I wasn't interested. He as been very respectful.

Second, keep looking until you find a doctor who will work with you. Any chance there is a high risk OB in your area that works with a midwife?

Go poking around the Pregnancy and Birth forums, the Health and Healing Forum, and maybe inquire about doctors in Finding Your Tribe/ Tribal Areas.

Welcome to MDC.
thank you so very much. just hearing of someone with a healthy baby makes me feel better. i'm a bit isolated from sisterfriends and such and so I was beginning to think perhaps my desire not to have the surgery was insane!!! but something in my gut would not allow me to do it and i am learning to listen to my inner voice. i am going to take every bit of your advice. may i ask about the particulars of your pregnancy experience?
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As if you need permission to be pregnant! Sheesh.

Here's some vibes wishing you a healthy pregnancy.
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