Cat- FT ministry student and Sonlight hsing momma to a wild crew of girls
Melissa 4/03, Lydia 5/04, Kimberly 1/06, and Jordan 9/07
And waiting impatiently on baby Isaiah ******* to appear around 3/12
Mom to DS(8), DS(6), DD(4), and DS(1). "Kids do as well as they can."
no, because I'm committed to HSing and because I don't think there are really any benefits to preschool. IMO it's just glorified daycare.
I think if it were daycare, I would drop him off and leave him there all day! Daycare would be a "break" from him, but I drop him off, spend 20 minutes with him getting his projects done, then pick him up about an hour and a half later.
I'll share my experience, even though I'm sensing it's a minority viewpoint here.
I did send my twins to preschool. At age 2, they attended 2x/week for 2 hours each day. At age 3, they attend 3x/week for 2 1/2 hours each day. At age 4, they will attend 4x/week for 2 1/2 hours each day. At this program, the time sent in school is relatively brief.
I did find some HUGE benefits. Foremost, my children learned to make transitions quickly and easily. I went from taking forever to get us out of the house and still being late, to having my children cooperate and quickly dress and exit. Our preschool worked on transitions and my children benefitted greatly.
I considered it a "positive" that my children developed relationships with very nurturing teachers and learned to accept necessary limits from them.
I considered it a "positive" that my children spent a good chunk of time playing with and developing relationships with a consistent group of children.
They also benefitted in my view from the structure.
I don't think these benefits are limited in their usefulness simply to children continuing in a formal school institution. I also don't think these benefits can exclusively be derived from preschool. But for me, as a single parent with no family in the area and twins, preschool was immensely helpful to our family and to my childrne.
Just curious. We're planning on HS, but with the *chance* that we can't continue, I was wondering what your thoughts on the benefits of preschool are if you plan on HS anyway. Did you send your child to preschool? Tell me why.
Our DD#2 really gets cabin fever, and honestly, I don't have the energy to get out with her every day. I think she will enjoy this.
I'm one of the few here who said yes, but I think this will work well for us.
Catholic homeschooling mom of 5 - a teenager, a kindergartener, twin boys and a tiny princess. Follow the Adventures!
we could have continued to 3 days a week, 2.5 hours but didn't enjoy the teacher as much and thought it more of a hassle than it would be worth.
and we plan to homeschool through high school.
Again, I see no reason for any positives to "translate" to hs'ing. The way the post was written, it sounds as though the poster believes they stand on their own merit. Why would they need further justification?
Pre-school can be seen as totally separate from regular school or as a prep for regular school. I think Arduinna's question is valid. What would pre-school add to a homeschooler's experience? And when that question is answered, it begs another question: why not just send the child to school?
It all depends on your idea of what exactly pre-school is trying to achieve, what the mission and goals of pre-school are.
Nirvana is . . . the living happiness of a soul which is conscious of itself and conscious of having found its own abode in the heart of the Eternal. --Gandhi
DD1 did go to preschool, but that the time, we were not planning to homeschool. Her first year was at a play-based cooperative that met 3x/week for 2.25 hours. I was in the classroom 2-3 times per month, and the adult:child ratio was fantastic (5 adults to 19 kids). The teacher was wonderful with the kids, and amazingly supportive of the parents too. It was a great experience for me. I had time to get to know all of her classmates as individuals, and all of their moms, as well as several dads too.
DD loved it. As a newly turned 3 year old, she was still mostly engaging in parallel play, but she did seem to enjoy being around the other kids. She got to do a lot of neat things that we don't do at home. I don't set up the easel every day. I don't have a sand/rice/water tub out every day. I don't have paste and glue and glitter out every day. I don't have simple science experiments set up every day. We don't have a play kitchen and at the time we didn't have many dress up clothes (that has changed!). We don't go on a nature walk every day (nature was one of her teacher's favorite topics). I just don't have the time, energy, or inclination, and I refuse to feel bad about it. (I also don't think any hs'ing parent should feel obligated to provide those things, but DD sure did enjoy them!)
Looking back now as a fully committed hs'ing parent, our coop still gets a great big from me. If we still lived there, I'd have no qualms about signing DD2 up next year. And as an aside, I've since met several hs'ing families who also belong to coop preschools.
But we moved, and the only option was a traditional play-based preschool: 3x/week, 2.5 hours. DD1 really wanted to go, so she did. The teachers are wonderful, but it just isn't the same as a coop. I didn't feel as involved in what was going on in the classroom, and that doesn't sit well with me. The sessions were a little more structured than I preferred, and I felt the kids didn't get outside to the playground for long enough. There wasn't as much exuberant exploration going on, but it was still very much play-based. It did give me some time to focus on my little one, which was nice.
So now I'm conflicted about DD2. She remembers the preschool and its playground, and has informed me that she wants to go to preschool like her big sister did. But I'm not so sure about it. On the other hand, it would be great to have some quiet(er) time to focus on my 1st grader.
Tentatively, I'm thinking we'll enroll her, but we won't feel bad about taking her out if for any reason we're not comfy with how things are going. I may look at some 1 day/week alternatives as well. And we might do preschool for just one year, because once she's 4, she'll be old enough to participate in some of our local homeschooling activities with her big sister. Or by the time enrollment rolls around, maybe I'll have changed my mind and decided to keep her home instead. How's that for indecision?
*sigh* If there was a good coop preschool nearby, I'd be a lot happier!
|Pre-school can be seen as totally separate from regular school or as a prep for regular school.|
|What would pre-school add to a homeschooler's experience? And when that question is answered, it begs another question: why not just send the child to school?|
But wrt to the post being questioned, ease with transitions may be helpful at home, assuming it actually comes home with the child. Relationships with caring adults aren't a dime a dozen, especially when you don't have family living nearby. And though I fully agree with Neufeld's philosophy, I don't believe supervised playtime with peers at age 3-5 is leading kids down the path to a peer-oriented culture. To me, that's just plain old fun.
|It all depends on your idea of what exactly pre-school is trying to achieve, what the mission and goals of pre-school are.|
In my mind, sending my kids to preschool would have been prep for private or public school. I work full-time and I admit that the thought "free daycare" ran through my mind more than once but really, where does it stop? If I don't get used to my kids at home now then what? I sign them up for kindergarten because it is free and so on?