I just wanted to reply to the last post about preschools. While I believe your accounts of your particular preschool, this was not the common occurence at the one that I worked at. Teachers never talked on the phone, children were fed their own food, if requested and stories, art projects and games were played-- it was a very gentle, loving atmosphere.
While I certainly am not advocating preschool over homeschool. All are different. My reasons for not sending mine to preschool were because I believe preschool to be a way to make the mother question herself and her abilities to parent her child. Also, I realized that I was perfectly capable of doing all of those things on my own.
Isadore, I feel for your situation, I really do. We were in a very similar one when my son was younger. Would it be possible for you to co-op with one or two other families and have your own playdates/preschool? "Creative Playtime" has wonderful ideas for moms to use for outings, crafts, games, etc. It could be as structured or unstructured as you or your child desire and allow your child to spend some time playing with others.
Also, my goodness... your ds was beaten up? My heart breaks for you. I cannot imagine this. What is wrong with kids??? Forget it, I know the answer
Well, I will be thinking of you and hoping your situation improves quickly