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Old 05-11-2009, 04:31 AM
 
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Having such self awareness is an admirable quality, and it sounds like you've weighed all of your options. Thus, you are very very different from those who make flippant comments while knowing nothing or next to nothing about homeschooling, have never met homeschooled children before, and have never even considered homeschooling as an option. It is bizarre to me that there are people who make comments like "I don't have the patience to homeschool", when they don't even know what it means. THAT is the frustration that many of us are venting about.

The best comment that I've gotten to date is "Oh, I could never homeschool. My husband thinks homeschooled kids are weird" , and a close runner up goes to "I wouldn't want to homeschool because I want my children to learn that they can make it in this world without me." What would one say to those kinds of remarks?
To all rude questions, I try to just say, "hmm" or "really?" and then let the speaker feel uncomfortable inky complete lack of defensiveness.

The person who most often said she wouldn't have the patience for homeschooling also once told a mutual friend that she felt like a bad mom in my presence because she doesn't like being with her kids as much as I like being with mine. We were great friends before our schooling paths split. Funny enough my response to her was always self-deprecating. Mostly I told her I was way too shy to fight the schools for my kids' benefit the way she did. She really knew how to get the school to respond to her kids' needs.

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I spent some time as a corporate trainer and I had to constantly keep from telling people to figure it out for themselves.
Ah... so you're meant to be an unschooler. :
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Ah... so you're meant to be an unschooler. :


That's hilarious!!
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Social experiment:

Today on another board I particpate on, I replied to a question about whether we homeschool or use a bricks and morter school with the line that I homeschool because I don't have the patience to send my kids to public school.
Three people before me answered that they send their kids to public school because they don't have the patience to homeschool. The psers outweigh hsers by about a 5:1 ratio on this board.
Someone now has their panties in a wad that what I said about not having the patience for public school is denegrating to those who put their kids in school.
Not a word was said about the fact that 3 other people used the same line referring to homeschooling.

Interesting eh?

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Social experiment:

Today on another board I particpate on, I replied to a question about whether we homeschool or use a bricks and morter school with the line that I homeschool because I don't have the patience to send my kids to public school.
Three people before me answered that they send their kids to public school because they don't have the patience to homeschool. The psers outweigh hsers by about a 5:1 ratio on this board.
Someone now has their panties in a wad that what I said about not having the patience for public school is denegrating to those who put their kids in school.
Not a word was said about the fact that 3 other people used the same line referring to homeschooling.

Interesting eh?
Wow!

See? There you go. Nice double standard, huh?

Thanks for engaging in that very interesting and enlightening social experiment!
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Interesting eh?
Heck, yeah, that's interesting! I guess it's partly b/c homeschooling isn't seen as the default as much as public schooling is. If you homeschool your kids, you're doing "extra" and shouldn't "brag" about it b/c others would feel bad. : Totally reminds me of the breast vs. bottle thang.

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Social experiment:

Today on another board I particpate on, I replied to a question about whether we homeschool or use a bricks and morter school with the line that I homeschool because I don't have the patience to send my kids to public school.
Three people before me answered that they send their kids to public school because they don't have the patience to homeschool. The psers outweigh hsers by about a 5:1 ratio on this board.
Someone now has their panties in a wad that what I said about not having the patience for public school is denegrating to those who put their kids in school.
Not a word was said about the fact that 3 other people used the same line referring to homeschooling.

Interesting eh?
Yup! That was exactly my point with my PP.

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Heck, yeah, that's interesting! I guess it's partly b/c homeschooling isn't seen as the default as much as public schooling is. If you homeschool your kids, you're doing "extra" and shouldn't "brag" about it b/c others would feel bad. : Totally reminds me of the breast vs. bottle thang.

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