DD1 is 4yo, and tends to be pretty shy in unfamiliar settings and with unfamiliar people. Just as a quick example, we had started going to a church that we love, and stopped attending, because DD1 had such conflicting feelings about the preschool Sunday school. She'd always say she wanted to go, and we'd drop off her younger sister in the nursery and then bring her over to her room, where she'd clam up and shut down. I'd suggest she go play with the other kids, and she wouldn't leave my side, so I'd suggest she come down to services with her father and me, but then she'd cry that she wanted to stay, she just wanted me to stay with her.
Her cousin is starting school this week, and he's very excited. They're pretty close and have talked about this a lot on their own. She's asked me about it a few times, if she was going to go to school with A, and things like that. In talking about school in general, she's made it very clear that she does not want to go, and has even asked me if she could just stay home and "you can teach me".
Pretty to think so.
The complications are thus: DH and I own a business. I'm working from home right now, but it's heavy phone contact with clients, so I spend most of my day upstairs in our attic office while my mom takes care of my girls during the day (totally blessed, I know.
). We are looking at me getting off the phones in the near future, but I will still have other work to do, although not enough to keep me up here 8 hours a day/ 5 days a week.
We have tried some limited preschool activities (letter and number recognition, things like that) and I just don't know how to explain the things that she doesn't understand. It frustrates me, and I feel like I'm failing her at times like this. I'm afraid that I'm not a very effective teacher.
Also, and this is kind of peripheral, I worry that if I don't force some time away from me in the form of school, or sunday school, or SOMETHING, that she's going to end up being socially retarded. This is largely my own issue, as she's a lovely girl who can carry on a conversation with just about anyone about anything, as long as she's had time to warm up to them first. Also, I've read all the articles about the myth of socialization in school, and I agree with them, so WHY I have this particular hang up, I have no idea, but I'll own it. It's totally mine.
I know that if she can get over the hurdle of the first few weeks at school, she'd do just fine. But those first few weeks will be awful, and I'm afraid they'd be enough to make her hate school forever.
And why am I worrying about all this now when she's four and we have an entire year before kindergarten? Well, because, with A going to school, it's a pretty hot topic of conversation around here. And also, registration for school is in March which is only six months away, and will fly by in the business of life around here
One other hurdle that we have is that DH is kind of anti-homeschooling. That being said, I think I can sway him, at least for kindergarten, and then we can tackle other years as they come up.
So...thoughts? Advice? What would you do? What DID you do, if you were in a similar situation? I'm in NJ if that matters at all. I know we have very homeschooling friendly rules and laws. And we have a great group of homeschooling moms who meet for a playdate every Tuesday afternoon nearby. We haven't been able to make it over there, because of the aforementioned working situation
Thanks in advance for any comments.