We had a meeting with DS1's teacher this morning... I'm so overwhelmed and disappointed. DS is the type of kid where everything is magnified 10x and it's hard for him to process all that's coming in. We've long believed he has a sensory processing disorder, but it seemed to be getting better every year.
He did well in montessori the past two years and we were SO excited for him to start 1st grade at the school he's in now. It's just not working though.
He's in a charter which shares a building with another school, and there are 500 kids ages k-8. Kids buzzing all over all the time. He also switches classrooms/classmates/teachers at least 3 times a day and the transitions are incredibly difficult for him. He is doing great socially, but he's not even working at the level he was last year because he's too distracted. He used to love learning, reading, writing, but this year it's a chore and he hates it. That's so sad to me.
He gets sent to the principals office (barf) for goofing off and distracting other kids. And we found out today that he sits at a desk by himself facing the wall (to keep him from getting distracted) in the other rooms he goes to for reading and math, and this kills me. Really makes me want to cry. His "homeroom" teacher is wonderful and going above and beyond to try to meet his needs and help him succeed, but I'm starting to wonder if there is really nothing she can do because what he needs might be a smaller, quieter, one on one environment which is impossible at a school like that. Right now he's in a room with 8 each 1st, 2nd, and 3rd graders. The benefits we saw to this arrangement are not panning out... I'm not thrilled by the industrial sense of the school either... it's really not the homey, comfy place we thought it would be. It was so highly recommended though, and it seemed like a perfect fit.
The montessori charter here is full and we can't afford to pay, or I'd be looking into that. Instead, I'm contemplating doing the K12 virtual program because I KNOW he would do awesome academically with one on one attention in the relative quiet of our home. I think we could get to a place where he loved learning again, and I would enjoy being the one to share things with him. As it is, I know very little about what he does or learns unless he's having problems. I know he'd miss hanging out with his friends all day but that's really not what school is about to me, it's about learning!
Thing is, ds2 just turned 3 and I'm due to have a baby in about a week. I don't know if we could all handle it, and I don't want to make things worse for him. Also, he thrives on routine and I don't do routine very well. And DH is not very on board with the homeschooling idea, he thinks it would just be too overwhelming. And dh works nights and it's very difficult to keep the boys quiet when they're here together, so dh can sleep.
I'm thinking of giving ds a couple months to see if the plan we made with his teacher and the school psychologist works, let him settle a little, and at least that would get us out of the tiny newborn period. In the meantime I was hoping to get some insights from people on here who have experience with a child like mine or trying to homeschool with a baby in the house?