My son is intense and now he is a toddler, so yeah, good times.
I don't do much structure with the whole schooling thing and that might not be helping things, but I'm not getting much time with DD and haven't since DS was born. I'm not an unschooling ma but I'm not following any curriculum or anything. I have gathered a few wicked online places and have a few work books and basically the learning day begins in the morning with me making a quick list of things she can do and her following that list in some capacity until lunch time, when the structured learning day is officially over. She is easily distracted, and ends up online putzing about quite often. I want her to enjoy learning, so I haven't been very strict about anything.
She is gifted (sorry, I hate that word too, but it is relevant to the issue... just hang in there), and was not thriving at school because she is basically just helping others while there. She reads an adult sized book every day or two (by choice) and learns very quickly and I take advantage of that because I don't have time to sit with her for long.
My son screams, a lot, and smashes things around... He can be occupied with new things but I run out of things to offer him. In the work room, he is trying to destroy the second computer and instruments and the whole time I'm wrangling and thwarting him while trying to explain things to my daughter... it's starting to stress me. Also because I never wanted to be in a thwarting relationship with any child of mine, I wanted him to have complete freedom like his sister always had... but he is nothing like his sister and it is much more difficult to live that lifestyle. I've had to actually put locks on certain doors and cupboards. With the homeschooling, it has become more difficult because he is with me constantly.
DD was interested in going through the 12 years of school in two, like they do in certain cool schools where the kids lead the learning. The school offered to put her up a grade (THAT was their lousy option for her intelligence level), but I have many issues with schools anyway, it really isn't limited to her being thwarted intellectually.
This is all aside from our social problems. I have no friends, nor does she. We live in an area (in Australia) that has NO other homeschoolers, and the closest places with some are at least a half hour drive, and only occasionally, and often at times that conflict with my son's nap time. She has mentioned going back to school, and I think it is mostly she is lonely.
I know in about a year things will be entirely different as toddlers change so fast. But right now, we're stuck.
I don't know HOW parents homeschool with a toddler, there is no peace to do so. Some days my son is just screaming unless I hold him in my lap (and even then sometimes just keeps screaming), and this is just how he has always been because he is frustrated. He wants to do everything NOW and that he can't drives him insane (he does learn early due to this however, he has been forward in absolutely everything physical so there is a positive side, for him at least - not so much for me
) One thing keeps him happy for a long stretch without much need for my attention - music videos - but it can't be relied on.
Ack. What am I doing wrong?