Up to now, you have responded to your child's needs. Just because this need is a little more public doesn't make it any less of a need.
I'm unclear as to whether you want to homeschool him or not. But I'll tell you this: no fancy private school can give him a better education than his own mom can. Schools are subject to following the latest trends in education, thought up by someone who is clever at marketing their ideas. And fancy private schools are under even more pressure to jump on the latest bandwagons.
Teachers go to Teachers College to learn classroom management. Especially in elementary school, they are by no means experts in any particular subject. They simply follow a curriculum, often one they had no hand in choosing. You, however, have the advantage if truly knowing your son. I promise that he will get the best possible education if you homeschool him.
BUT, the isolation that you feel is more worrisome. If homeschooling is not common in Mexico, you won't have a ready-made homeschool group like so many in the US have. I'm lucky that here in Abu Dhabi there are many expats who homeschool. So you'll have to go out of your way to find opportunities for both you and your son to make friends. I would suggest Cub Scouts or a sports team as good starting points. Mexico is so full of Americans, is there really no place you can go to make friends? I remember my parents had a great group of friends in Mexico they met by joining a Sports Club.
For your child, though, you've built an incredibly strong bond with him. Breaking that bond when he's facing a tough time would be really confusing and stressful for him. It really sounds to me like this school is not a good fit for him. I would urge you to listen to your instincts and to him.
By the way, it's true that in many ways, AP is taking the easy way--because meetings child's needs is easier than fighting your instincts to do what others tell you to do. But the difficulty in AP is in standing strong when the winds of the mainstream push you in directions your child is not ready for. You're not lazy, you're brave!
I think that whether or not you end up putting your child in school,*this* school just isn't the right fit.
ETA: I just re-read the OP and noticed that you have many friends, but it doesn't sound like they're terribly supportive of your parenting. Where can you find more like-minded friends? Is there a LLL group, or Holistic Moms, or maybe an Attachment Parenting Internationa groupl in your area? I bet if you search for those groups you might come across some pace in your area where you can meet more moms that parent like you do.
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