Join Date: Oct 2008
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I provide child care in my home for a small group of children. They range in age from almost 2 to 4 years old. A mother approached me recently because she is concerned that her four year old cannot write and does not know things like vowels, etc.
When I started watching him a little over a year ago the boy couldn't talk. He said two words which were both the names of television characters from older superhero type movies and I would not have known what he was saying had the parents not told me. He has come a long way in this amount of time. He still has speech issues and doesn't catch on to some stuff as quickly as some of the younger kids and I have voiced my concerns to her several times. They baby talk to him at home and I think that is a huge part of the problem.
Anyway, she was talking to a coworker and that woman's four year old is in a daycare center and he knows vowels, consonants, can write the letters of the alphabet, etc. The mom I work for is concerned because her son cannot do all these things and I believe she was trying to tell me she thinks it is because I am not teaching him.
I work with the kids most days on things like colors, letters, numbers, etc but in a fun way and I would never force this child to sit and write because he is just not ready. I tried in the past and he had no interest and as I told a friend it was like kicking a bowling ball up a hill. He is just not ready yet.
So I am hoping that some of you could direct to me to some resources to help this mother understand that it is not crucial for her child to be forced to do something he is not yet ready to do. He is just now identifying letters (something all the younger children can do already) so it seems too early. Am I wrong here? I just feel like I am doing the right thing.
Please if you have resources, I doubt she will read books but articles maybe, about the importance of free play and anything else that may help in this situation. I feel like I am in a tough spot in this situation.I did remind her that he did not talk a little over a year ago and she seemed to come around a bit on that one but I just don't see a benefit of making him sit everyday and write letters when he is so far behind in everything else and not interested in letter writing.
Jenn- Geeky momma to one fabulous Tiny Diva (10/27/08)