|View Poll Results: Practical Life Question: How do you get errands done?|
|You take them with you||81||77.88%|
|Significant Other watches kids||8||7.69%|
|Family member watches kids||2||1.92%|
|Friend watches kids||0||0%|
|Other, please list.||12||11.54%|
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Occasionally, I turn the errand into a field trip
Pretty often we have "make-up days" on weekends because of errands that came up during the week.
I do not do a lot of solo hangout time with friends though nor do I do any exercise classes. But many gyms / the Y offer child care so that's what my exercise class friends do, whether they home school or not.
Also you will see once they get a little older than yours and are reading, you could do something where you need to be left alone (meeting, exercise class) by putting them in a nearby corner with the laptop and saying something like "check off two Rosetta Stone lessons and finish your math sheet and then you may do favored activity until I am done" such as a book they want to read, computer activity or video.
I do have parents close by but I prefer to use that time to be IN the house without the kids
The most common is to take them with me, with a second runner up being leave them with DH.
We don't have that much help from others, but on occasion have used others help.
We're suckers for each others's kids at this point. So if the mama says no, they go to the "aunt" who lets them have it. And then we give our gifts away on the way home.
We've actually had conversations that go like this, "I'll up your kids on Nutella with some rice crispie treats stuck to your walls!"
Keep your eyes out for friendships like this. You might find a mama friend who has similar homeschooling philosophies which often goes with similar lifestyle philosophies and before you know it - BOOM! Even grocery shopping is more fun.
Alex 8 Gabby 6 (Homeborn!) Gideon 2.... chickens, ducks, cats and a dog
My youngest can be watched by either of the older 2 - but this is always voluntary. If she wants to come (which is the usual) she comes. If she does not want to come, but her brother or sister do not want to watch her - she comes. If she wants to stay home and her brother/sister are fine with watching her she stays home.
On really rare occasions I will insist one or the other babysits - but it is really rare.
For the most part I do not mind lugging children where-ever I go. I do not marathon shop, though, and frequent places I can get in and out of. I try to keep over stimulation levels in mind. Indeed, I overstimulate quite easily, so my kids rarely experience overstimulation as I am always ready to bail early on, lol
Now a days I bring my dd and the daycare babies with me when I run errands, including my doctor appointments. For working out I just usually exercise at home in the mornings. But when I did use a gym, it had free childcare for me cause I taught there. So I'd just drop the kids off in there.
Sometimes I have to do things at my college during the day and that gets tricky with a handful of kids. So I'll usually leave my dd with my mom and then take the babies. I have done all sorts of things at college with a baby worn on my back. Got to do, what you got to do!
I have social anxiety so it's actually easier for me to have kids with me when I'm out than it is to go alone.
Melaya (29) - Mom to Z (9) and soon to be I (due Nov 2013)
Birth mom to M (7), O (5), & C (2).
No family or partner, though, so those never happened.
Single mom to Rain (1/93) , grad student, and world traveler
Ds is 3.5 so I can't very well take him to a yoga class now (unless its mommy and me) or to my dr. appt, etc.
But once I have no kids under 6 or so I'll take them to everything except something like yoga or a spa.
If it's to the post office, or other quick errands I take them with... I will even grudgingly take them with to docs appts IF it's not a gyn issue that might require undressing. For grocery shopping, I wait till Thursday evening and leave the boys with hubby... that way I can have a posh coffee and an hour or so alone
Grocery shopping I take them about 1/2 the time and 1/2 the time I go early on a Saturday to avoid grocery store lines and to shop in peace. DH is with them then.
When I have meetings for DS' preschool (tonight), my dad has pizza and movie night with them. When I have meetings for scouts, a friend and I trade off watching one another's kids.
Dentist and doctor appointments for me are rare enough that I do them on the 1 afternoon/week that I have a sitter. Usually this is to help DH at his office, but 3 times a year I use it for dr. appts.
I think the key to juggling this stuff though is to have a routine for what kind of thing it is. IE--workout=childwatch; preschool meeting=night with grandpa; scouts=playdate with G. If that stuff moved around too much for who watches them when I think it would get confusing for me and them and the friends/family helping out.
DD 9 DS 7 yrs
Dh works evenings 4-midnight Mon to Fri. So, I can pretty easily leave the kiddos with him for things I don't want them around for (like pap smears like a previous poster LMAO! Or haircuts), or if I am a bit crabby and there is a high risk I might not be so patient with them like on a long grocery store trip. On Saturdays and Sundays dh will sometimes do the winding down for bed routine with them, so I can go have a bath or go out to a coffee shop myself. For working out, I have weights/kettlebells etc in my basement, and go and workout in the mornings before they get up generally. If they do come with me for things, we always pack a goodie bag like when they were toddlers...ds's Playmobile, sketchboard/markers for dd, picture search books, etc.
one thing we have found hard is home renovations. I have been sanding/wallprepping/painting for THREE freaking years now. My friends all laugh and ask what is taking so long, and I reply that it's not like my kids are out of the house for 6hrs a day in school!
Generally I try to take them though, as I think it is good for them to be in public learning social niceties like waiting in bank and grocery store lines! Just today I ran a few errands, and dd came with me; she chit chatted with some people in line about their babies, was thrilled to order the sushi we treated ourselves to, and made a purchase of a toy with her allowance. You know, real world stuff while the rest of kids her age are in school.
"Beware the lollipop of mediocracy...one lick and you suck forever!"
Otherwise I just bring them shopping, midwife, errands, ect...It is all part of learning about life
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I have dh, a friend or a paid sitter watch them for: dental apts, coffee with a friend, working out, yoga class, doc apts, hair cuts, oil changes
Midwife (CPM, LDM) and homeschooling mama to:
14yo ds 11yo dd 9yo ds and 7yo ds and 2yo ds
Homeschooling mom to four kids, ages 18, 18, 10, and 6.
Jackie and Rafael (4/15/04)
DS (4/25/05) my unschooled airbending pokemon wizard
DD (10/05/06) my spirited pixie, who weaned at 3 yrs 10 months
DD (7/27/09) my UC water baby - I mean toddler!
DS (2/21/12) UC #2! My littlest love
Groceries generally get done on the weekend after church w/ dh. I generally go out once a month w/ friends and leave the older 2 at home w/ dad. We make our dental appts/eye appts/blood donations together and take turns. I work out w/ family. Dh does our oil changes almost always- or I will go through the quick-lube place and we wait in the lobby. I don't do a lot of shopping usually- on Tues I will sometimes run some errands w/ the kids, sometimes dh will stop by places before or after work.
Ak Hippie mama Yamia DSD '03 DS '07 DS2 '09 & DS3 '12
The kids go with me 90% of the time and that's just part of their learning. They learn patience, social skills, manners, etc which are sadly lacking in many kids today.
It's a Delight-Filled Life.
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