Need advice.. pulling kid out of school sooner than later. - Mothering Forums

Thread Tools
#1 of 7 Old 02-07-2011, 12:29 PM - Thread Starter
Lisa Lubner's Avatar
Join Date: Feb 2004
Location: under the stars
Posts: 2,772
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)



Due to a bullying issue at my son's school, I intend to pull him out and go back to homeschooling. I don't really blame the school, I think they've done about as much as they can do, and my two daughters are not having the same issue he has been. Problem is, it's really hurting him, and it's been an issue for a few years now. He is only 10. I have always thought he was better off being homeschooled, that it just suited his learning style and his personality better.


Problem is, I haven't done any homeschooling since he was 6 or so. He started public school in the second grade and is currently in 5th. I'm not really sure how to go about pulling him out of school mid-year, or how to put together a second semester curriculum. We've done sonlight in the past, but at this point I can't really afford it.


Thank you :)



Lisa Lubner is offline  
Sponsored Links
#2 of 7 Old 02-07-2011, 08:11 PM
LauraN's Avatar
Join Date: May 2004
Location: Abu Dhabi
Posts: 1,038
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
I'm not sure what state you're in, but to my knowledge, you can simply withdraw him (as you would if you were moving to another state) and then you have a grace period to file your intent to homeschool with the district.

You can figure out the homeschool curriculum after you've done those things, unless your state law requires that you file lesson plans. But be sure that you are complying with the LAW, not with random "requirements" the district may try to tack on.

As for homeschooling on a tight budget, many homeschoolers are in your shoes. My best suggestion is to use free online and library resources. Check out Math Mammoth (not free, but quite inexpensive) etc.

DS1: 2/02 ROTFLMAO.gif DD: 9/04 blahblah.gif DS2: 9/07jog.gif and EDD: 11/13 belly.gif

LauraN is offline  
#3 of 7 Old 02-08-2011, 09:24 AM
Join Date: Jan 2004
Posts: 4,867
Mentioned: 1 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 51 Post(s)

If bullying is the issue keep him home while you file the letter of intent and drop it off at the office where notifications go. I pulled my ds due to bullying in K,and I told the school he would not return while paperwork was processed due to the lack of safety.Ofcourse they ticked away the days as truant,but I had almost 2 weeks before he was officially truant.


You can pick up textbooks at the library,and there is plenty of material online.Look online to see a basic listing of curriculum material for your district or state. No need to overload him just get basics done.


You can look into online schooling if that is an interest,but I would not recommend second semester sign up because they start kids at the beginning of the year material!

sahli29 is offline  
#4 of 7 Old 02-08-2011, 09:28 AM
phathui5's Avatar
Join Date: Jan 2002
Location: Oregon
Posts: 17,021
Mentioned: 2 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 1 Post(s)

What does he think about it? Does he want to homeschool? If he wants to stop going to that school, I would certainly let him.

Midwife (CPM, LDM) and homeschooling mama to:
14yo ds   11yo dd  9yo ds and 7yo ds and 2yo ds  
phathui5 is offline  
#5 of 7 Old 02-08-2011, 10:18 AM - Thread Starter
Lisa Lubner's Avatar
Join Date: Feb 2004
Location: under the stars
Posts: 2,772
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)

He wants to homeschool. We talked about it towards the end of last year and agreed to finish the year and if he still wanted to homeschool, we would find a way to do it. Summer goes by, and he says he wants to try school again... it went well for a little while, but the issue has crept up again, and the last time we spoke about it, he vented his frustrations about it to me. How even if he tells the teacher when it happens, it doesn't change anything, etc.


I am hesitant to pull him and THEN figure out how to file because of issues I've had in the past with the state. (Long story, long past, pretty sure it's in my post history if anyone cares to look.) They already look at me funny any time one of my children is late to anything. I just want to make sure I have all my ducks in a row, so to speak.

Lisa Lubner is offline  
#6 of 7 Old 02-08-2011, 11:14 AM
purslaine's Avatar
Join Date: Feb 2006
Location: Canada
Posts: 6,771
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)

File first then.  You can do it.  smile.gif


I think lots of kids hem and haw on whether to go to school or not.  It is a huge decision - and maybe one that is too large for some of them?  Bullying that cannot be resolved is a good reason to HS, even enough of a reason to insist someone HS, IMHO.

purslaine is offline  
#7 of 7 Old 02-09-2011, 07:30 PM
AAK's Avatar
Join Date: Aug 2004
Location: Eastern Washington
Posts: 3,129
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 24 Post(s)

Depending on what materials your school uses, you might get a bunch of curriculum when you clean out his desk.  Our school district is the opposite of green.  They used disposable workbooks for just about every subject.  They came home with my dd when I wd her mid year in third grade.  We are now doing fifth grade and you don't (I repeat DON'T) need a lot of $$$.  Find out from his teacher (if you can) where they left off with social studies and science and what was left to cover.  In our district they rotated the subjects, so when I pulled my dd out, they were technically done with science for the year.  We still did science, but I wouldn't have felt guilty skipping it if it was a subject she hated. 



Mom to three very active girls Anna (14), Kayla (12), Maya (8). 
AAK is offline  

User Tag List

Thread Tools
Show Printable Version Show Printable Version
Email this Page Email this Page

Posting Rules  
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off

Online Users: 16,846

172 members and 16,674 guests
acardone1702 , agentofchaos , americanjuly , angeebaby , annaconda , annbe , apeydef , atremag , bananabee , Bean888 , blessedwithboys , bluefaery , brennatsi , Brittee , carnelianlight , chickabiddy , chiefmir , Cindy2015 , Citymomx3 , cloverrah , Crazybean , Cricket VS , Crimson8 , Daisy88 , Dakotacakes , Dandhi , dani2015 , Dawn's mom , easttowest , Emanresu , emmy526 , EMRguy , fallingtreestars , fljen , floss&ferd , forestfoster , frugalmama , fruitfulmomma , funfunkyfantastic , FyerFly , gipaoshao , girlie1125 , Grace Wisdom , greenemami , guerrabug45 , happydaze , hikingfortruth , hillymum , Holland73 , ian'smommaya , inthespring , itsnat , japonica , Jessica765 , JillBFit , joycef , joyniss , K703 , katelove , Katherine73 , kathymuggle , kijip , KosmicMama , krickets , lalalovely , Letitia , lilacvioletiris , lilmissgiggles , LiLStar , Linda on the move , lmh2 , lotus_j , mama24-7 , mamamargo , mariamadly , marilyn612 , mckenke5 , mearph , MeepyCat , MegaMama1 , Michelle42 , midstreammama , Milk8shake , Mirzam , MissMuffet , MN BabyDust , mom_to_ben5 , monkeyscience , moominmamma , muddie , my3beasties , MylittleTiger , newmamalizzy , nwlove , oaksie68 , oasis84 , orangemomma , Pickles0732 , Piskito , PitBullMom , pokeyac , Polliwog , quantumleap , Ragana , rcb215 , rocky , RollerCoasterMama , SaffronMama , samaxtics , SandiMae , sarafl , saraverga , SecondtimeMama , Serafina33 , shantimama , Shmootzi , sidrajedi , sillysapling , simplemama32 , sofreshsoclean , SplashingPuddle , Springshowers , stardogs , SummerStorm22 , sweetjasmine , t2009 , Teles , thebeesknees , TheBugsMomma , ThreeTwoFive , thtr4me , Tigerle , tiqa , TrishWSU , Turner58800 , tyness , typebug , VanessaRocks , verticalscope , Voondrop , wassernixe , yvonnecqh , zoeyzoo
Most users ever online was 449,755, 06-25-2014 at 12:21 PM.