Join Date: May 2002
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I have been reading a lot about homeschooling lately, and talking to other hs'ing moms and dads at a conference recently, and I am really wanting to hs my daughter. My dh, however, disagrees.
Our daughter is 4.5, and her birthday is before the cutoff-date for compulsory (sp?) Kindergarten in MD, where we will be moving this summer. So we are faced with 3 options (in my mind there are three, but only 1 in my dh's mind.) A - public school, B - private school like montessori, or C - homeschool. She goes to a small Montessori preschool now, and loves it.
My husband's first objection to montessori or homeschooling is money. Either we'd have to pay for montessori, or I'd have to quit my part time job to homeschool. As it is, my entire paycheck goes to her tuition now, so I know it wouldn't put us in WORSE financial straights than we are in now. But he wants to put her in public school and still have me work so that we can cut that expense out and still have my income. To some degree, I see his point. We could use the extra money. But I sort of don't feel that the money is worth putting her through public school.
Dh's next objection is the socialization issue. No matter how I try to explain to him about hs'ing coops and groups, he still is convinced that I'll be isolating her. One of the problems we have with this is that socialization is one of the biggest reasons that I want to homeschool! I don't like the lack of supervision, leading to bullying, teasing, and inappropriate behavior, nor do I like the forced artificial "social" grouping by age. I want her to have social contact with all age groups, and I want some control over who her influences are. And I just can't seem to convince him that I have absolutely no interest in isolating her (or myself!)
I've tried to get him to read material on homeschooling, but he says he doesn't want to, that his mind is made up without the information, and that all that material is going to be biased anyway, because it's written by hs'ing proponents. Not only that, but "public school did fine by us, so it's good enough for her." It did not do fine by us, IMHO, and it's also a lot worse than it was in our generation.
What do I say or do to convince him? I'm going to have her home with me for about 1.5 months in the summer, but then he wants me to cart her off to public school, and I just hate that thought.
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