We're on the unschooling spectrum as well. Unschooling is the philosophy that children want to learn and will learn what they need when they are ready. Essentially you just provide opportunities and supplies for your child and they will engage when and where they are ready. There's a wide array of ways that folks actualize that, but it sounds like you're a bit on that path if you don't want to make them learn what they aren't ready for.
We are involved with a really active homeschooling group. We are often away from home doing something with the group. Every day my kids have "responsibilities." My 8year old does www.reflexmath.com
and reads to me for about 15 minutes. My 6 year old and I do a spatial activity and a fine motor activity then I read to her. Once we are done with those we have a jar with a bunch of white slips of paper. On each slip is something for us to do together...play a game, play a specific game, do a puzzle, etc. They really get excited about what we will be doing together. We don't do that every day as we sometimes just don't have time.
Most importantly, they just play together or independently. Non-directed play is the most important thing young children can do. This book is amazing, it has lots of research, but the bottom line is young kids just need to play.
Or here is a short article that says the same thing: http://www.npr.org/blogs/ed/2014/08/...ntent=20140806
So, I look to just have fun, educational stuff around the house.
I agree with the www.sonlight.com
books. We are not religious, but I have been going to their site for years looking for good book ideas. (I just avoid the religious ones.) I usually get them at the library or used.
I'm not a crafty person so I don't do many crafts with my kids. We do have a big craft center and they pull out stuff that they want to do.
We have games, most are cooperative games. This is a good one for younger kids:
This is great for spatial concepts:
So is this:
Both of my kids loved this (we have the plane and the crane):
For fine motor this:
If you want to read more about unschooling, this is my favorite book. It is how people like Teddy Roosevelt, Thomas Edison, The Wright Brothers, and more were unschooled. It was a bit different from how some unschoolers do it now, and the term certainly didn't exist back then. But it's still my favorite book: