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Well, here I am with my eldest just 5.5 yo and already I am burnt out from organizing homeschool/unschool happenings.
When my daughter was three-years-old and so many of her peers were heading to preschool, I put a lot of effort into organizing activities and events for us and other families who were on the homeschool path.
It was frustrating, to say the least.
I'm not someone who likes to feel obliged, but by agreeing to show up at the park/community centre/local farm/ice rink/community garden/beach at a specific time quickly started to feel like a burden and nuisance, particularly because people often said they'd come but wouldn't, or one of my kids (or myself) didn't feel like leaving the house, or folks who I didn't particularly like would show up.
Or there would be dynamics that were toxic, and as the 'leader' it fell to me to sort them out.
Not my cuppa.
People often said that they were interested, but I just didn't see it pan out, in continued attendance or quality of participation.
So, I've made a quiet decision to not be the point-person or organizer for anything that happens on a regular basis, but that I'll happily take names and money and a leadership role for one-off events, like a science workshop, telescope event, camping trips and the like.
As for the regular events/activities, I realized that I don't even LIKE regularly scheduled events, so clearly I should NOT be the one to take on the responsibility of organizing them.
I am, however, very supportive of people who are organizing regular events.
For example, we try our best to get to the weekly park meet-up, which is so valuable to recharging my energy and focus. I make a conscious effort to support the mama who organizes that, and take an active role in making sure that the group works.
Socializing is of zero concern to me, and so the only reason I have to go to such things is to build community, and so it has to feel good and be the right mix of people.
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