|However, I feel there are some answers that could disturb children. For instance, I think the answer about daddy putting his penis in mommy could be a rather disturbing image for a young child. But that's a view that stems from all the psychology I've studied.
When my son was 3.5, this was a huge question for him. He was a very curious little guy who asked about everything under the sun, and wasn't satisfied with simple kid level answers, so I would say: "You grew in my tummy." He would say, "But isn't that where the food goes?" "Yes, you actually grew in a special part of my body called the uterus." "O.K. How did I get in there?" "Part of daddy and part of mommy came together in my uterus, and then you grew." "But how did the part of daddy get in there?" "Uh, he put it in there." "But how?" "A special way that grown ups know about." "What special way is that?" I would hem and haw. After a couple of weeks of this conversation, I said - Let's go to the book store, and buy a book about it, and we'll go through it together.
We went to the bookstore and got the book "A Child is Born" which has real, detailed pictures of the egg, the sperm, and the fetus growing at every stage of gestation. We poured over that book for days, and I did tell him how the sperm got into my vagina, etc. He was perfectly satisfied with that answer - and had not been satisfied prior to that, and would not drop the subject until he knew the real answer. Then, he went around and told everybody in very clear detail how babies are made :LOL . I mean neighbors, grandparents, doctors, the pharmacist - everybody! :LOL . Most were impressed that he was so articulate.
. He is a scientist by nature - super curious - and it did not disturb him at all.
When his sister was 3.5 and he was 5.5, she started asking these same questions, and he went and got the book out, and I found them sitting on our bedroom floor pouring over the book, and he told her the whole process - acurately, and as well as or better than I could have.
. She got the story satisfactorally, and never asked me about it again.
When my kids were 5.5 and 7.5, they were watching a documentary on wild animals, and saw animals mating. Ds asked about it, and I said that's how the female animal becomes pregnant (thinking he already knows all about it). And he said, "Oh, and how did you become pregnant?" And I said, "Oh, the same way. You remember that book....(etc.) don't you." His eyes grew so wide, and he said with not a little bit of disgust, "You and dad did THAT?!!!" "Well, yeah, that's how babies are made." :LOL
So, I learned from that that comfort levels about these things are different even in the same child at different ages. Now, he knows all about it, but doesn't ask anything about the process anymore. Dd has still never asked me anything about it, and I don't even know if she really knows or not. I figure she'll talk to me about it when she's ready - like she has done with everything else.
Mom to ds10, dd8