|View Poll Results: Were you popular in school?|
|I was a popular kid||48||100.00%|
|I was a pretty unobtrusive kid||87||100.00%|
|I was the class punching bag||32||100.00%|
|Other ( please elaborate)||29||100.00%|
|Multiple Choice Poll. Voters: 4. You may not vote on this poll|
What do you think?
Anyway I voted other and popular. I was relatively popular, but not exactly cheerleading material. I didn't get invited to the really popular parties. But I was included by the super popular kids at school events. Everyone knew who I was and was willing to be seen talking with me.
After that, I was pretty invisible.
I don't think that only nonpopular people want to homeschool, though. After all, the reason I want to homeschool really has nothing to do with social reasons. It is more to do with providing the optimal education for my kids.
Amy - Blessed wife to Jesse (the best dad in the world), mother of 10 on earth plus 8 in heaven. PROUD to be a Catholic! :
In retrospect (gosh it was a long time ago - my 25th year high school reunion will be 2006 ) I'd say because I went to so many different schools, I really got a chance to see how the social group works (or doesn't) in school settings. Those experiences really instilled in me a sense that it's sort of the luck of the draw for kids and it can really suck when luck doesn't fall on one's side. Also, I really just glided through public hs without having to work very hard at all - and got great grades, but once I got to college, I realized that I didn't know how to study and I didn't have any idea at all what I was interested in. It has taken years for me to figure out who I am (I'm still figuring).
But, in regards to this poll, I wasn't bullied in high school (but was some in elementary school). I'd say seeing how socialization in schools was so dysfunctional (especially for a sensitive kid), and the sense that I could provide a much better quality of education (i.e. more child led learning, intrinsic motivation, creativity and individuality honoroed and all the other great stuff hsing allows) were the main determining factors in hsing our son.
I was popular, and I absolutely loved school. From kindergarten through senior year (and definitely college), I just loved school.
I don't choose homeshooling for my children because I think the alternatives bite; I choose homeschooling because it is a fantastic educational option, period.
I had my share of bullying, and it sucked and I wouldn' want my kids to go through it. More than that though I wouldn't want my kids to go through it and not have any real good options about how to deal with it...and the schools around here (which are the same schools I attended as a kid) are famous for their apathy regarding harrasment and bullying. I feel that my kids should have the same tools available to them that I do for handling harrasment, and as unschoolers they have it. It's not our only reason for HS'ing but it factors in no question.
Embrace the learning that is happening within the things that are actually happening!
I have kids who school and kids who hs. I am open to what is right for an individual child. I love hsing, though, as it offers a wonderful and intoxicating freedom. I think i would have appreciated this very much as a child. I hope never to send my hs kids to school again. I also hope my 11 yr old changes his mind and chooses to hs again next year.
So anyway- I don't see my decision to homeschool as a way of protecting my kids from something I fear they might have to endure... rather I see that my social independance has been a lifelong trait that allows me to make my own decisions- including not putting my kids into an age segregated institution of just because the majority does or expects me to.
I was pretty much of the didn't-give-a-crap crowd - a couple lax players, a few theater nerds, some "stoners"... a pretty odd, philosophical group. Very "Breakfast Club".
Originally Posted by Cenote
I'm totally intrigued - care to elaborate on your "famous" status???
And then I found Drama and things sort of got better, but that's just another type of not fitting in, isn't it? Plus, the drama people were big drinkers and partiers, and I didn't fit in there, either.
I had lots of friends, but I always wished I had different friends, which is just sad IMO.
People knew me, knew my family, and I simply wanted to get out of there asap.
I was a good student, but I would have appreciated being informed of my options such as graduating early by taking the CHSPT which I found out about for my own children...no one in the school told my children that either.
The counselors in school cannot let you graduate early because they make $$$ w/ the DAA from the state.
DH was popular. Not in the preppy, football jock sort of way (though his sisters were cheerleaders), but he's always had lots of friends. He liked school and had a happy childhood (two things that are totally foreign to me). The main reason we are homeschooling is because of how terrible our public schools are where we live.
I just want my children to have the best education they can, they do not receive that at our public school, I cannot afford private....so that leaves me with homeschooling.
breastfeeding, babywearing, homeschooling Heathen parent to my little Wanderer, 7 1/2 , and baby Elf-stone, 3/11!
Now if someone would say-"well I bet you'd say that since you were popular" I don't think I was really but here's me:
I was popular thru jr high then a "small fish in a big pond" in high school most of the time. Though I had my moments of "being known" since I dated the football captain all thru school (sounds funny now) and was the basketball manager which was high profile sometimes since we had a really good team-this got me all types of privleges
I worked a lot outside of school though (had to pay for own college and many expenses since dad was laid off for yrs) and graduated early so that limited my opportunities to become popular I guess. Most of the time I was in the wings I'd say.
just my .02
I think the fact that I was very introverted and quiet in school I sometimes got forgotten or ignored. I think my dd being an introverted child does lead me to think she'll get a better educational experience being homeschooled.
It isn't so much bullying or socialization with peers but the thought that my dd might fall through the cracks if a teacher is busy with the rowdier or more outgoing (popular) students.
Kim ~mom to one awesome dd (12)
I'm certainly not homeschooling based on my own social issues, though.
My school experience isn't really informing our homeschooling. In fact, I'd say it's a non-issue as far as homeschooling is concerned.
I hated school and the way learning was approached. DD's would have floundered. I see me in them and I realize that the best thing for them is me. We are very hands-on, visual learners, so that is what we do. We have a lot of fun as well! I 'teach' in several different ways, so our DD's remember things to a greater extent.
Originally Posted by annettemarie
I wonder if a common denominator would be that we were all bright students who felt squashed by the school system.