|I honestly am not trying to argue with you at all.....on the contrary...just trying to understand more about radical unschooling.
|I guess I didnt understand what you meant by necessary "no's".? can you give me examples of what kind of things you say no to?
Well, when I say that they are "necessary", I mean (like I said before) that they can't do them for reasons of legality, developmental ability, or safety. I'll add to that things I won't allow them to do because it makes things hard or unpleasant for others.
Anyway, sure. (Keep in mind that I usually try to phrase these things so that I don't actually have to use the word "no", although of course it is implied, and I usually follow up with other options. Keep in mind also that most of these are age-specific.)
-No you can't play in the laundry detergent.
-No you can't have turkey for lunch, we need to save it so that papa has something to take for lunch tomorrow.
-No you can't keep your seat belt unfastened, it's dangerous and we could get a ticket for it.
-No we can't go to Joe and Kate's house today, they are busy.
-No you can't play Sonic DX because I have a headache and you will not play quietly.
-No I can't take you on a walk down to the river right now, I need to get dinner started so we can eat before bedtime.
-No you can't play in the street.
-No you can't use my permanent markers to draw on the wall.
-No you can't use the X-acto knife.
-No you cannot all jump on the trampoline with the baby.
-No you cannot go over to the church to play alone.
-No you cannot run and yell in the library.
-No you cannot play on the library computer past your allotted time, even though it is a stupid rule.
-No you can't drive the car.
-No you cannot come hang out with me in the bathroom while I'm going poo.
-No you cannot eat the cookies that I've made to take to the potluck.
-No you can't drive grandpa's tractor by yourself, even if he thinks it's safe.
-No you can't go with me to the party, it's just for moms.
-No you can't have that mega-Lego set, we don't have the money right now.
-No you can't stay home alone.
-No you can't have the rest of my ice cream.
-No it's not okay to hit your brother even though he was being a jerk.
-No you can't go to work with papa.
-No I don't feel like playing UNO with you right now.
-No you can't watch Spongebob at top volume for three hours straight.
-No you can't play this game, it's a text game and you don't know how to read yet.
-No you can't go down the slide by yourself, it puts you in deep water and you can't swim yet.
I could go on and on and on...