Below, where the *s start, I've copied and pasted what I think has to be the best defense I've found for those who seem to "know" what's better for our children in terms of socialization. This excerpt is biblically based, I'm a Christian so it applies to me completely though it can also apply to anyone who doesn't want the rest of the world raising their children.
I think children who aren't constantly around other children have an easier time becoming who they are truly meant to be without the pressures of other people telling them who they "should" be. There's nothing wrong with children being around adults regularly. In my experience, they seem to mature (in a good way) quicker than those who are around children on a regular basis. I am in no way against socializing, I do enjoy being around others and watching my children play with other children. I just don't think daily socialization with other children is necessary. We are involved in our church, including our children with children's church activities.
My oldest daughter is on the shy side, she's more like me about friends being more comfortable with a few at a time and she enjoys hanging out with the 14 year old girl down the street (who is also their babysitter when dh and I actually get to go out). My younger daughter is more like her dad and will carry on a conversation with anyone and everyone...and the girl can TALK TALK TALK til your ears go numb.
: Still looking forward to learning more about who my baby boy is going to take after.
I was raised in public schools, very socialized, had many "friends" growing up but discovered as an adult that I am more of a "few friends are better" kind of person. Also, I totally slap myself in the head
when thinking back at some of the ways I acted just to be more like my "friends."
I was such a dork
Other children can also be so harsh and I know being a victim of that cruelty can affect a person for their entire lives. I still second guess myself many times just because of 2 girls in my 5th grade class (I was the new girl) who tormented me endlessly (and that was almost 20 years ago). I'm not in therapy or anything, LOL...but I still have those looming "I'm not good enough, they don't like me" thoughts that go through the back of my mind because of that. I want to make sure my children can stand their ground against that kind of attack better than I could.
Wow...I think this is my longest post, lol....anyways...you just raise that little man the way only you, as his mama, know how. Do not let others influence your decisions when you are the one who knows him best.
And finally...here's that excerpt I mentioned in my first line:
****Featured Topic: Socialization
Chances are you have been asked the question, "what about socialization?" or felt the condemnation of a friend, family member or even a stranger regarding the issue. But research has shown that regardless of what the critics may think, Homeschoolers are functioning effectively, productively, and successfully in society.
Homeschoolers are proudly "unsocialized" when socialization is designed to teach conformity to the values of one's society or peer group. Instead of a humanistic worldview with peer imposed values, they are trained to respect and conform to a Biblical worldview with God imposed values. The following resources are designed to make a statement, provoke discussion, and provide fact based information to intelligently to answer the question, "what about socialization?".
excerpt from: http://www.pennywiselearning.com/