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♥ Handmade dress shop owner and mama of five - our littlest just born in December! ♥
We have lots of routines. I think that rather than starting out my trying to have your whole day have a rythm, it would be much easier to start out by having a morning and evening routine. Then add an after lunch routine. Perhaps a weekly plan (for activities that you only do once a week).
he likes to do some "paperwork"/"assignments" (like a math sheet, spelling tests, writing work, either on the computer or by hand(different things, imo)) Also, karate or other sports and weekly activities like skating matter a lot to him. He just thrives when he knows what to expect and "tweeks" when he doesn't!!
And of course, we do outings and such, but he is, by nature, one who wants more structure than out life often provides! So I strive to provide it, but sometimes don't.
We decided recently to make up a "plan" for every mth. and post it so we both can know what and when and make more of an effort to stick to it. (sometimes I feel so inadequate in that dept.
We are working on reading together every night(instead of just every few nights) and having a family game night. Both of which are sort of in limbo due to toddler demands(she tends to disrupt our games and interupt our reading; just being 2, not maliciously
But I have realized that he is a "high needs" child in this regard; (as is his sister). He demands a pretty high level of stimulation/one on one to thrive. (not "dev. disabled" but the opposite. Very bright, to the point that everyone remarks on it at first meeting. Nice in a way and of course I am happy for him/proud, but such kids really ARE far more demanding than "average." Of course, that is just the reason he was not satisfied by conventional schooling!)
I too think routine/ritual is important, as long as there is ample flexibility involved. A basic framework within which to explore and move and make changes as needed/desired. Not too much and not too little/none. A delicate balance. Gee, I think we should get a big ol' tax break for homeschooling, LOL! Kimberly, mom to Forest, 9 (going on 78 and Lily, 2 (well on her way to catching up!
My problem with ryhtym is my and dh work schedules are so crazy, It's hard to keep any consistency in the day. DS's first question almost e ery day is "are you going to work today" sometime's "where's daddy" is first because this Semester DH has to be at work at 7:00am 4 days a week, and DS doesn't wake up until after he's gone. Then there's my schedule 3 days a week. on Monday after DH get's home from his 7am class I leave for work from 11am-8pm then I worj on either Fri or Sat 9:30-5:30 and then Sun 1-5. It's hard to keep track of, let alone find a rythym to it.
I hope it is ok to jump in.
I will also testify to the usefullness of Seven Times The Sun and even add another wonderful book for Parents with children Birth to Seven Years, You Are Your Child's First Teacher by Rahima Baldwin.
My children are so wonderful when we follow each other's rythmn of the day. However, we do have many outside distractions. My three dd's and I are homeschooling. There seems to be so much more to do now that there older (dd's 6,6, & 5).
Thanks for alowing my 2 cents.
Enter dd. You could have set your clock by this child. She ate every three hours on the dot. Napped at precisely the same time every day (if she was up playing when her nap time rolled around she fall over where she was asleep). So we had a schedule, and I had to respect her schedule (ie get home for her nap or be somewhere here she could stay in er carseat or stroller for at least 1 1/2 hours) or I would pay for it all day. She also needs a schedule for school. As soon as she sees me in the morning (she gets up before me on most days) she asks Where are we going? (always dissapointed to hear no where ) When I mention oing focused school work she has to know what order we are doing it in, what the assignments are (as if I have some sort of plan : ) and what we will do as soon as we are finished for the rest of the day. It drives me crazy because I want to be that organized but can't.
Anyway, i will have to read that book. I have always wondered if I will feel better if I had more consistancy to my day but juyst haven't been able to get there.
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