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if someone asks me if I have kids, or where I work, or what country I come from, or where I bought my baby carrier, or how many ounces of formula my baby eats, or even if he sleeps through the night, I answer them without finding it irritating, even if I've heard the question a thousand times before. I guess it just doesn't irritate me to answer small talk the way it does some people.
|I don't expect anyone to babysit me, but I have to say that I have been profoundly grateful to those who took the time to answer my questions about homeschooling as I made that decision.|
Yes, sure kids didn't go to school a hundred years ago or whatever, they stayed home all day. Well we also didn't have television, electricity, telephones, computers, etc at some point in time and everyone made it without all that. Just because schools are offered in this day and time doesn't make them bad and I don't feel that kids are "supposed" to be homeschooled and that it's the natural thing to do.
And again, why can't the majority of homeschoolers just accept the fact that homeschooling is not necessarily the best option out there and not ALL children do best in that environment, especially if a child is forced by their parents to homeschool since birth and never actually been outside the home to school to even try it out for themselves. It's not really fair to say they are set up to homeschool only.
And as far as grade levels go, you just never know when something may happen, an emergency of any sort, that will make it so that your child has to go to a school outside the home. I'd hate to think they wouldn't be prepared. I remember when I DID in fact homeschool, if we sent our kids to any classes or special trips outside the home at museums or other places then they would classify the children as far as their grade levels. They did in fact have it listed for grades K-2, 3-5, 6-8 and so on. The parents I knew didn't have a problem with that for the most part......
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actually YOU'VE opted them out at this point. There still may come a day where one or all of your children want to go to a school and may even beg you. What then? They DO grow up and take on a mind of their own.
|You do seem very irritated by the tone of your responses in this thread.|
|Just because schools are offered in this day and time doesn't make them bad and I don't feel that kids are "supposed" to be homeschooled and that it's the natural thing to do.|
|And again, why can't the majority of homeschoolers just accept the fact that homeschooling is not necessarily the best option out there and not ALL children do best in that environment|
|....especially if a child is forced by their parents to homeschool since birth and never actually been outside the home to school to even try it out for themselves. It's not really fair to say they are set up to homeschool only.|
|And as far as grade levels go, you just never know when something may happen, an emergency of any sort, that will make it so that your child has to go to a school outside the home. I'd hate to think they wouldn't be prepared.|
|I remember when I DID in fact homeschool, if we sent our kids to any classes or special trips outside the home at museums or other places then they would classify the children as far as their grade levels. They did in fact have it listed for grades K-2, 3-5, 6-8 and so on. The parents I knew didn't have a problem with that for the most part......|
|But when it came to field trips and classes outside the home, there were the select few homeschool parents that demanded their 5 yr old be with their 8 yr old in a class designed for grades 3-5 for instance and it totally mucked up the class for the older kids to have a whiney, chatty kindergartner in the room and got them behind. :|
|Things like that did tend to irritate me about homeschoolers. They are so against *anyone* telling them that their child needs to do something outside their realm of thinking. They are very hard to please. I was never like that when I homeschooled, never.|
|But there are many out there that I've met who just aren't normal and they don't know how to be flexible when it comes to their own children. That could hurt their children in the long run.|
Maybe it's because I came in contact with so many self-righteous, know-it-all homeschool parents that I have issues with all of them in general and I really don't mean to come across that way because I do have friends that still homeschool and have done so for the long haul. In fact, my best friend has an 18 y o and a 15 y o and they've always been homeschooled, and she's great. But there are many out there that I've met who just aren't normal and they don't know how to be flexible when it comes to their own children. That could hurt their children in the long run.
Why doesn't it make sense for children to go to school in a mixed-age classroom? Who defines what is an age-appropriate grade level? Children are all so different and just because they share the same birth year does not mean that their needs are equally met in the same grade. Some are always "ahead", "on track" or "behind". I think it would make much more sense to just place children where their needs are best met...that would mean that all 8 year olds would not be in the same grade. That's why the grade concept is weird to many people. We don't all believe grades are age-appropriate fits. Since a reference was made to college, not all college juniors are the same age. Not all first year graduate students are the same age. If it's this way for adults, why can't children's individual needs also be met as such, rather than organizing them by birth year? Who does this keep things in order for? It certainly doesn't keep things in order for all children, as so many don't have their needs met this way. This is why the "grade" concept is awkward for many homeschoolers. I know that my own child is at multiple "grade" levels. If he were in school he would be a kindergartener. But we don't use a kindergarten curriculum at home. He's not a kindergartener to me. He has an individually tailored curriculum that runs across numerous grade levels (some ahead, some behind, and some at K level).
Britishmum: I can't help wondering if your experience with the 15 year old's father might have to do with the age of your children. Around here, *lots* of people talk about homeschooling their 3, 4, 5 year olds. Then, the kindergarten year comes around and they go off to school.
I know that this year, when dd1 would have been in either k or 1st, our relationships with homeschoolers have deepened, as people feel like we might "stick around." I think people sometimes end up feeling a bit used when they answer a lot of questions, invite people to park day, etc. and the family enrolls the first day of school.
No, I do not buy innocent curiousity all the time either. People are curious, but they are also threatened by change....by people who they view as "different". My children shouldn't have to explain why they are at the grocery store at noon.
|Top 10 Answers You Should NEVER Give to the Question "What?! No School Today?"
10. Well, normally yes, but this time of year I need help with the planting and plowing.
9. Goodness, no!!! I graduated 18 years ago, but thanks for the compliment!
8. No, we homeschool. We're just out to pick up a bag of pork rinds and some Mountain Dew, then we gotta hurry home to catch our soaps.
7. What?! Where did you guys come from?! I thought I told you to stay at school! I'm sorry. This happens all the time. (sigh)
6. There isn't? Why, you'd think we'd see more kids out then, don't you?
5. We're on a field trip studying human nature's intrusive and assumptive tactics of displaying ignorance and implied superiority. Thanks for the peek!
4. On our planet we have different methods of education. (Shhh! No, I didn't give it away...keep your antennae down!)
3. Oh my goodness! I thought that today was Saturday...come on kids, hurry!
2. Noooooope. Me 'n Bubba jes' learns 'em at home. Werks reel good!
And the number one answer we should NEVER give to the question: "What? No school today?"
1. "What? No Bingo today?"
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