I have two boys, 4 and 6, and always have planned on homeschooling them. I love to be with them, and feel that they will have a much better education if they learn at home--not to mention no schedule imposed on us!
Lately, my 6yo says he wants to attend school. I know where the interest comes from. He has a fixation on Calvin and Hobbes (comic strip, but he has them in book form), and strives to be like Calvin. For those of you familiar with the strip, can you just imagine?! He dresses like Calvin, makes the same faces, tries to be like him in so many ways. And one of the ways is by attending school.
I always said I would respect the wishes of the children when it comes to homeschool/school, but it's hard when I know this is the reasoning behind it! I am dreading the loss of our (okay, my) homeschooling dreams...
Anybody have any experience with "trying out" public school? Any words of wisdom from all you brilliant ladies? What would you do?
maybe you could help your son get hooked on another cartoon?
Gently, Leslie in MD
I also let her ride the city bus for fun (she really wanted to ride the school bus) and she gets to go to school once a year with her grandma who is a teacher. She loves it because she is the class queen. She gets her fix but I have to remind her that real school is notlike that . I think he will get over it.
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So our compromise was to "play school". Starting Monday she wants me to pack her a lunch, and set up a "classroom". She also wants "homework". We've also been doing a lot of "experiments".
I would never send her to school over her asking me to bc she has no idea what she would be getting into.
Maybe a hs grp would feel enuf like school. I've been suggesting to dd that we get into one, but she already has so many activities like ballet, gymnastics ect where she has friends that she isn't that interested.
I think everyone gave great advice, this will pass I'm sure, but I dop cringe when I hear dd say it, esp. in public.
That said, I also believe strongly in "following the child's lead". Isn't that what homeschooling (or at least unschooling--what we were doing) is about? So how can I deny this burning desire of his? I have tried suggesting that we play school or sign him up for a class, but none of that will do. He has this curiousity nothing else will satisfy!
So we've made an appointment on Monday to go check out our neighborhood school. We can wander the halls, get a tour, meet with the principal. I will want to set up a time we can meet with the teacher and see the classroom as well. Ds and I can come up with a list of questions for the teacher. I am soooo hoping something will happen that will change his mind! But I don't think it will.
If he really wants to do this, I will send him off to school and hope he does well. And hope he changes his mind after a few weeks!
It's just so hard for me, watching him grow up, knowing he will be with somebody else for so many hours a day... I remember when he wouldn't even let anybody else hold him, or let me put him down! I will be a blubbering mess on that first day...
Well, I've gotta go make breakfast. More later!
remember that YOU are the parent! Children want many things, but that doesn't mean that it is good for them or that they should have their way.
IMHO I would cancel that tour of the public school, it is like showing candy that you don't want them to eat and looks good, but is unhealthy. I would take a hard look at where your son is getting the ideas about school. Maybe it is time to clear away some of those comics and turn off the TV. Calvin hates school & girls BTW, my oldest is a huge calvin and hobbes fan.
"That said, I also believe strongly in "following the child's lead". Isn't that what homeschooling (or at least unschooling--what we were doing) is about? So how can I deny this burning desire of his? I "
For our family, no that is not what homeschooling is about.
I am in charge of deciding what would meet my children's needs emotionally and intellectually best. Obviously, we take our kids wishes/desires into consideration, but ultimately I would not put the burden of making such an important choice on a child. I wish you the best of luck sorting this out.
mom of 4 wonderful kids 13, 7, 4, & 2
Thank you all for your opinions. It's obvious I'm not the only one who feels so strongly about homeschooling. But I just feel like I wouldn't be true to my son's spirit if I were to force it on him.
What I would really like to know is this: Has anyone's child tried school and gone back to homeschooling? This is what I'm really holding out for!
Good luck in making your decision.
After K we decided to do 1st grade. That lasted a little less than a month. LOL
We pulled him out and he on occassitions have wanted to go back. But a simple remind of what he can not do if he is in school keeps him home. I will respect his needs/wants if he wants to go back to school later (which at this point I doubt).
Yes you can put down your foot. You can give a tradition school a chance. But you can always pull out later. You know your rights that will help.
He might find he does not like the hurry up, get up, eat, and get out routine. My son mention this since I have been babysitting a friends kids before and after school. He mentions they have no time to do what they want or be with there mom.
Last summer, our daughter went for three weeks to a day camp at the private (religious) school she would be attending if we didn't HS. It was an interesting experience for all of us! I felt like we were much more accepted in "the community" while we were there, and for the short-term after that (I couldn't believe how many more people said 'hello' to me at religious services!). A serendipitously positive effect was that dd got very fed up with all the ridiculous rules that were required to keep a class of 12 "in line" that we don't have to deal with in hs'ing. Like how, during playground time, she wasn't allowed to bring a book out to read. And how they dealt with lunchtime and bathroom issues. While we didn't send her to camp so that she could see these issues, it did have a positive effect on our hs'ing b/c she was much more appreciative of all the flexibilty we have. So, maybe summer camp would help you?!
Also, I don't know if you mean you would send your son to school now or in the fall. If you do decide to send him to public school, I would def. think it best to wait til Fall, since coming into a class now could be very difficult socially.....Also, it buys you more time!