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I have heard some weird things...but I heard one today that takes the cake.

A woman said to me:

"What about her grade 12? (she is 8, BTW) She will not be able to go on WELFARE as an adult if she does not have her grade 12". WTF???

How about you? What is the weirdest thing you have heard?

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I have heard some weird things...but I heard one today that takes the cake.

A woman said to me:

"What about her grade 12? (she is 8, BTW) She will not be able to go on WELFARE as an adult if she does not have her grade 12". WTF???

How about you? What is the weirdest thing you have heard?

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The first thing out of anyone's mouth is about how kids need the socialization at public school. Once I hear that, I basically just ignore the rest of whatever they say because clearly they are not knowledgable enough about homeschooling in this century.
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I heard one based on the socialization thing that really seemed very ridiculous to me. That playdates or co-op classes with other homeschooling kids won't help socialize children properly because they will all just get together and reinforce poor social skills.

I mean really, I just try to wrap my head around that. If my kids' social skills are that poor, wouldn't they just be the weird kid with poor social skills in a public school too? I mean, those kids do exist too! It isn't like everyone who goes to a public school is suddenly cool and has perfect social skills.

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I was told "They don't publicize it much, but, you know, since you're not on a bus route but you're more than two miles from the nearest school, the school district will give you a gas allowance to drive your kids to school. It can really add up. You should think it over."

I'd put my kids in school for gas money? :

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I have heard some weird things...but I heard one today that takes the cake.

A woman said to me:

"What about her grade 12? (she is 8, BTW) She will not be able to go on WELFARE as an adult if she does not have her grade 12". WTF???
and . That one truly makes no sense at all.

I haven't had any weird comments yet, but my DD's only 5. She, however, is good at giving people the : look when they ask her if she's going to school and the look as she tells them that she's homeschooled. (I hate when people ask if she's going to K -- it puts her in the position of being the weird kid, and I don't want her thinking that!!)

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That makes no sense. My kid sister was on welfare before she graduated high school (which she did at age 21 after going back, having dropped out in her sr. year at age 19).

And even if it were true, why would you PLAN for your kid to be on welfare ten years down the road???

As a former socially inept and awkward publically-schooled kid, I really don't think school is a good place to socialize children.

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You can be on welfare if you don't have grade 12, no? That makes no sense to me.
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Wait a minute... my DD wont be able to get on welfare!!!
quick, where is the nearest conscription tent- er... enrollment office??

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Recently ds15 was asked, "What grade are you in?" and he replied, "Well, if I was in school, I think I would be finishing up 9th grade, but my educational level is mostly way above that". Her response to that was, "I don't want to know how smart you are, but what grade you are in." then she looked at me, "Are you educating him with a goal for college, and how do you ensure he can get into college?” I reply with, "Well if he so chooses to go to college we have lots of options open, and of course we'll help him if he needs it, but if he chooses not to go to college, that's fine as well, as long as he's able to provide for himself and is happy, that's more important to us". "So, you wouldn't mind it if he was just a well educated garbage collector?" "No, I wouldn't mind, as long as that was his choice and he was happy with that choice". “So you wouldn’t mind if he didn’t go to college?” “No, I wouldn’t mind, as long as it was his choice and he was able to provide for himself and he was happy.” DS15 later said, “Wow, Mom, if I want to be a well educated burger flipper, I will!” LOLROFLMBO.

That whole conversation left me I'm still now sure where she was coming from or going with it.

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actually I'd bet half the burger flippers in the country are in college

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My husband was a "burger flipper" at a local restaurant for 16 years before starting our toy business! He loved being a burger flipper actually. It was a very upbeat, fun, job where we got to hang out with cool people he really enjoyed spending time with. He supported us all for years with that job!

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"But what about the PROM???":
"The senior year is so special- she'll miss out on that!"

Isn't the senior year special because they are happy to be getting out?!

I also was told by an obnoxious, competitive relative that PS made him who he is because he was motivated to be better than the rest of the class, especially after he was made fun of for years because of a speech problem.

Yeah, that made me want to send them to PS right away!!
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A neighbor asked me if homeschooling "counts." Yeah, it counts.

I had conversation with another mom yesterday. After I said I homeschool the kids, she asked, "Do you like doing that?" What possible answer is there except, 'Um...yes."

I am routinely asked, "Do you test the kids?" Boy, people love to have children tested!
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Dd won't even be 5 until next month, but has been getting asked if she's in school. She just says "I'm homeschooled".

We've only gotten the "socialization" questions, so far. This is a child that is friends with EVERYONE. Seriously...I have pics of her with 7 strangers she befriended on our recent trip to WA....ages 4-30+. She is doing just fine.
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Recently ds15 was asked, "What grade are you in?" and he replied, "Well, if I was in school, I think I would be finishing up 9th grade, but my educational level is mostly way above that". Her response to that was, "I don't want to know how smart you are, but what grade you are in." then she looked at me, "Are you educating him with a goal for college, and how do you ensure he can get into college?” I reply with, "Well if he so chooses to go to college we have lots of options open, and of course we'll help him if he needs it, but if he chooses not to go to college, that's fine as well, as long as he's able to provide for himself and is happy, that's more important to us". "So, you wouldn't mind it if he was just a well educated garbage collector?" "No, I wouldn't mind, as long as that was his choice and he was happy with that choice". “So you wouldn’t mind if he didn’t go to college?” “No, I wouldn’t mind, as long as it was his choice and he was able to provide for himself and he was happy.” DS15 later said, “Wow, Mom, if I want to be a well educated burger flipper, I will!” LOLROFLMBO.

That whole conversation left me I'm still now sure where she was coming from or going with it.
at this whole conversation and your DS's comments!!

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The worst I've ever heard was from a teacher. She said that she couldn't imagine anyone homeschooling. If she had to stay cooped up at home with her kids all day she would end up killing them like that lady in Texas did. She said this in front of her 12 year old daughter. I couldn't pick my jaw up off the floor fast enough to ask her how she feels cooped up all day every day with other people's kids!

Yep, makes me want to ship my daughter right off to school.
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[QUOTE=mom2ponygirl;7919634]The worst I've ever heard was from a teacher. She said that she couldn't imagine anyone homeschooling. If she had to stay cooped up at home with her kids all day she would end up killing them like that lady in Texas did. She said this in front of her 12 year old daughter. QUOTE]

Does anyone else find this ironic? She spends all day with others children, but couldn't stand to be with her own all day?

Makes me utterly sad to have a parent say this about their own child, and even moreso that it was said infront of that child. : :

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The worst I've ever heard was from a teacher. She said that she couldn't imagine anyone homeschooling. If she had to stay cooped up at home with her kids all day she would end up killing them like that lady in Texas did. She said this in front of her 12 year old daughter. QUOTE]

Does anyone else find this ironic? She spends all day with others children, but couldn't stand to be with her own all day?

Makes me utterly sad to have a parent say this about their own child, and even moreso that it was said infront of that child. : :
I'm a teacher now at a PS and will be hsing my three next year who will be 8, 5, and a baby . . . the worst naysayers are my coworkers - yes teachers - who tell me I am crazy (to teach my own kids instead of a class full of other people's kids????). An administrator laughed and told me just to go ahead and have my nervous breakdown now. This reaction really frustrates me because no amount of explanation on my part changes their mind, but it also makes me even more determined to make it work for us! I'm so excited to put more time and energy into my children's education!
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The worst I've ever heard was from a teacher. She said that she couldn't imagine anyone homeschooling. If she had to stay cooped up at home with her kids all day she would end up killing them like that lady in Texas did. She said this in front of her 12 year old daughter. QUOTE]

Does anyone else find this ironic? She spends all day with others children, but couldn't stand to be with her own all day?

Makes me utterly sad to have a parent say this about their own child, and even moreso that it was said infront of that child. : :
Ummmm I wouldn't want my child with the likes of her. :
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That's just horrific.

I know I've posted this before, but the craziest was from my FIL: "Homeschooling takes away from your real job of housework".
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I keep hearing about prom. Am I the only person who went to school where prom, even if you went (out of 1500 students only about 200 went to prom), wasn't that big of a deal. there were usually at least 3 or 4 large groups of kids who had other planned activities on prom night. the anti-prom we called it and we laughed when it rained on everyones dye-to-match shoes. most of us went to six flags because thats just what you did if you weren't into the bar scene in our town Hehe I am a little sad the girls won't have the anti-prom to participate in.

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"Homeschooling takes away from your real job of housework."
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That's just horrific.

I know I've posted this before, but the craziest was from my FIL: "Homeschooling takes away from your real job of housework".
I think you should make that your sig: "Homeschooling takes me away from my real job of housework."

Heck, I'd make it *my* sig, but that would be stealing your fire. So I'm just going to nudge you. Nudge, nudge, nudge.

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My own mom (who is normally very supportive of my decisions) asked me how I can know what my ds knows if I don't test him. Ummm, I'm with him all the time. Yeah, and he's only 6 so I think we're ok.
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1. is that legal?
2. why would you do THAT?
3. are your kids delayed?
4. the school has a 'clothes closet' and 'lunch program' if you are hurting financially...


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I heard one based on the socialization thing that really seemed very ridiculous to me. That playdates or co-op classes with other homeschooling kids won't help socialize children properly because they will all just get together and reinforce poor social skills.
Oh. my. goodness. Lunacy!!!!!
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um... how about my mil saying my dd is gifted and I am not smart enough to school her myself :
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I am routinely asked, "Do you test the kids?" Boy, people love to have children tested!
if anyone asks me if i will have my DD tested, I say, 'no, but I'm pretty sure she's a real girl'

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