Hi, GG. I guess this thread is getting old but here's my two cents. I do similar to what JP does but I do give allowances because it's how we learn about money and management of it. It sinks in alot more when it's their money. If someone has been whiney and grumpy about doing their chores that week, they don't get their allowance, even though they still have to do their chores or suffer natural consequences. They understand this, and it rarely happens. My kids (6 and 12) only have to make beds daily, but otherwise don't have to keep her room neat and clean everyday. However, they can have a friend over when it's picked up, so there's an incentive to stay on top of it. I also try to give them a lot of positive feedback for doing chores, so they realize what a help they are to me. For instance, my 12 year old son recently took on the task of doing the dinner dishes in the evening. This has been a real blessing for me and I continue to let him know it; he's very pleased to think he's helping shoulder some of the work of the home.