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#1 of 4 Old 05-26-2007, 04:20 AM - Thread Starter
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My son just turned 4 and I'm already really concerned about school for him next year. He has Aspergers and the public schools here are not an option in my mind, and the few private ones available just leave me unsure about what is best for him.

I have thought about HS, but I am a single WAHM and already feel stretched. However, I have a teaching credential, so I know I could do it if I chose to.

My biggest concerns are:
1. He loves the preschool he is in right now. He's only there 3 mornings a week for a couple of hours, and it's an integrated special ed situation. But, he loves it and I wonder if it's really good for him to be a school setting vs. at home.
2. I'm afraid that we may be dealing eventually with some learning issues such as dyslexia and comprehension problems and wonder if I can handle that.
3. RIght now, I really like having the small break a few mornings a week because he is a higher-needs child...always needing contact/stimulation and rarely giving me 5 minutes of quiet. (But of course this makes me feel guilty).

Just curious about others HS special needs kids....what made you make the decision, how is it going for you, etc.

I'm thinking that this summer when he is home from school, it might be a good time to do a test run and see if he/I can make it work.

Thanks in advance for any comments/insights!
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#2 of 4 Old 05-26-2007, 12:09 PM
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There is a great book by Olga Holland called "Teaching at Home" which is about how she brought her child with autism home out of the public school system.
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Well, my oldest son (5) has been seen by a behavior specialist who has suggested that he may have Asperger's. He, too, is in preschool right now, and loves it, but only because he has a teacher who is extremely sensitive to his needs, and who is very nurturing.
We decided to homeschool because of this. He learns academics quickly, but seems to have immense trouble learning the social rules that are so important in a formal school setting. We spent a lot of time touring schools and researching, and finally decided that if we went with the traditional school, we would have to struggle every year picking just the right teacher, and, even then, with 20+ students, a perfect teacher would not be able to give him the attention he needs. We also saw children like him being picked on, and teachers punishing them for not paying attention, or not being able to sit still for 20-40 minutes at a time (for kindergarten).
This is just not what we wanted for our son, so we chose to homeschool.
I have been told that if he is diagnosed, we could legally force the school to provide one-on-one attention for him, but, in reading the experiences of others who have tried, schools resist that (because they do not have the resources) and it can become a huge battle.
Honestly, I didn't want to go through that, nor did I want to put my son through that in his formative years. We did not want his self esteem and academic learning to suffer for his lack of social skill, and felt that his social learning would be better served by planned social activities where I could help him learn, as opposed to throwing him into a class with lots of kids he had no idea how to handle, and a teacher who is really too busy to help him, however much she/he may want to.
I hope this helps. Good luck, no matter what you decide.

Homeschooling mom of 2 rambunctious, loving, spectacular boys, wife to an incredible man who has been my best friend on this journey <3



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he has Asperger's. We use Alpha Omega Lifepacs with him. We also use one of those countdown timers. His writing has improved but it's still sloppy and big. He wouldn't do well in public school with all the busy work writing that has to be done. He's so smart; he's learning algebra even though he'd only be in 4th grade! So at home I work on all the maturity stuff with him like tying his shoes and doing a good job when he has a chore to do like vacuuming. I also work on him not talking all the time (he talks very loudly all the time and doesn't understand the social cues on how to havea conversation (you know the talking and then the listening parts of having a conversation). Also he tends to talk about only his subjects all the time.

It can be done. He does really well in occasional extra classes like the clay class he took with his sisters at our local art school (1 1/2 hour class on Saturdays) and a drama class at the local community college (2 1/2 hour Saturday class).

Debra, homeschooling mom of 4 ages 10 (AS), 9, 7, and 4 (HFA?)
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