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#31 of 52 Old 06-13-2007, 11:43 PM
 
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Why would they ask? Seriously. If you are there for a checkup of any kind, aside from getting a sports physical what would it have to do with the task at hand? Nosnark...genuine interest here.

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Why would they ask? Seriously. If you are there for a checkup of any kind, aside from getting a sports physical what would it have to do with the task at hand? Nosnark...genuine interest here.
Mine always end up trying to chat and make small talk, including "And when does Riley start preschool? So are you glad to be out of school for the summer Landen?" Then we tell them. I was so naive at first, thinking that we would receive a good reaction, "Hey that's great! Good for you!" But now I expect the eyebrow raise, the discreet note jotted down in the folder. Along with other notes I am sure. I got so irritated when this new young doc asked about Riley's sleeping habits, and I said she still comes in to sleep with us at some point in the night. And he turned to Riley and said, "Well we need to stop doing that, don't we!" Oh no we don't!
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The Osteopath I take my son to homeschools, as does my Chiropractor. The boys haven't even seen their "regular" pediatricion. He's just for emergancies, and I plan on a don't ask/don't tell policy.

BTW, even though the osteopath homeschools -- he asks my son about what he likes to study and what we are doing in school -- I guess they are more school-at-home types.
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she doesn't say much about it, but i get a very positive vibe from her.

i've also seen something in her waiting room that is arguably critical of traditional school.
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oh, now that i think of it, the way it came up for us, was when the whole damily went to the baby's 1 week check-up. dd1 was barely 5, and writing letters on paper. the ped actually asked us if she's homeschooling.
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We have a family dr (nurse practitioner to be exact, but she is called "Dr"). She thought it was great we were homeschooling and does ask how it's going (more out of moral support and knowing that it isn't always easy). She also is fine with our non-vax status (said it would only be a concern if they had to go to ps...but oh well). Homebirthing is common around here, so she doesn't blink at that...and she thought our fitted and pocket diapers were awesome!

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When I was inquiring about a developmental pedi beause of what I suspected was ADHD with dd1 (it's not, we were just having a challenging week behavior-wise)...she said, "why don't you just send her to school, so you can have a break?" She said that sometimes moms try to do too much and be matyrs...:

I think I'll just weear homeschooling advocacy t-shirts every time we have to go there from now on.
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Our ped knows we hs and hasn't said much at all about it. He asks some developmental questions but doesn't dig into how we school or why.
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Our family practitioner homeschooled her kids! (Well, her husband worked from home and did it. I'm not sure if they still are, or not)
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PLease...our family doc and two other peds that we used, only went off of the denver developmental check list and when i mentioned things that were not on it, they had no idea what to say. Sorry, but I have a much better understanding of development than any of the 3 docs we have seen. I expect my doc to do the check ears, nose throat type stuff and not much else.

But then again, I am pretty cynical.

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Wow, thanks for all of your responses!! It seems like most docs are perfectly fine with it, hopefully mine will be too!

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Our ped never has commented one way or another about homeschooling. My oldest (age 8) always accompanies me when the youngest (a toddler) has an appointment. Really the only thing our ped has said is to ask ds1 what he's reading because he always has such interesting sounding books.
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Hmmm, well ours thought it was the best option for school! HOw's that? She's also the only ped in the p ractice of three that believes in giving parents the choice on vaxing!
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Funny this thread should get bumped right now. One of my kids has been seeing some specialists for a metabolic disorder. One of them, a neurologist, is obsessed about the homeschooling. Every meeting with us she asks with this very annoying incredulity, "Is he still homeschooled?" The neuro. asked me to ask the developmental ped. (who coordinates the specialists and treats him for the disorder) if she thought we should do a psycho-social evaluation. My son had been very sick and is not "at grade level" so she freaked me out for a while - like maybe there really was something wrong with him developmentally on top of the metabolic stuff. My developmental ped (super high ranking specialist) smiled and, in a way that made clear she thought the neuro. was an idiot, said she saw no indication that was necessary. Well, the neuro. was very surprised the ped didn't order the testing. Now the neuro. mentions that the testing was nixed by the other doc and that my son is homeschooled in every single visit report even though both are entirely irrelevant to her treatment of him (for migraines). Just this week I decided to dump her. Her constant focus on and obvious disapproval of homeschooling both pisses me off and makes me fearful she might report us.

This intrusive medical model stuff is why I stopped using pediatricians as primary care providers long ago. Not that I would have a choice as not a single ped in my area will take non-vaxed kids. I use a family practitioner who I very rarely see because despite his saying that vaxing is none of his business (which is why I hired him), he is still very condescending toward me (though not toward my husband) when I insist on being actively involved in treatment decisions. So if my kids are seriously ill or injured, we go to the E.R. If they need a specialist, we find a specialist. If they have something I think needs antibiotics (which is maybe once every year or so), I bite the bullet and see the family doc.

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I would just cheerfully respond. "Oh, we aren't here for parenting advice. Thank you."

Oh, and a family practice physician seems to trust that the parent is the expert of their own child, more than any pediatrician that I have met. And I have met and interviewed many.


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I think our ped is jealous of our homeschooling and would like to join our family.

He is a strong advocate of going tv-free and was floored when I said we didn't have a tv. We talked about nutrition and again was shocked to find out that we don't drink soda (my kids just don't like it) and eat most of our meals at home. My dd actually said "broccoli!" when he asked her what her favorite food is.

I think he may ask me for my hand in marriage next time we see him.

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Our ped hasn't commented either way. She does think my kids are incredibly advanced, though, since at her 3 year checkup, she asked Rebecca to draw a circle, and she drew a smiley face instead. She said "wow, usually only 4 year olds can do that!" So in general, she seems pretty clueless about children and their "timetables", LOL. (Honestly, we chose her because she's also laid back about vaccines, and several ped's in the area have refused to take non-vaxing patients.)

My chiropractor, who does not vaccinate and whose wife breastfed each of their children for several years (and so who is very supportive of those things), said "hmmm... you know, they do have to be exposed to other people at some point." He said this as they were sitting on the floor playing quietly together, after chitchatting with them for a minute, and after they'd already talked to his assistant. Hrmmm....
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We see a holistic family doc. He homeschooled his four kids for a long time, so he is totally down with our decision. He is an awesome doc. He recommended a book to my dh called "How to Stay Healthy - Avoid Your Doctor." How many mds would do that?!

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Ours said she would do it with her DC if she wasn't a full time doctor! Her kids are in a private school, the last I knew.

I also go to two different holistic docs myself...one of them is a HS dad, the other is planning to put his son in private school (he's only 3 right now), but his wife said she wished that *I* could homeschool him for them.
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I'm curious what business is it of theirs if you are homeschooling or not?
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they're more concerned with my vaxing choice -- so homeschooling never gets much discussion there.

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