My ds is in public school (French Immersion pgrm) Grade 2. He is a Dec. baby and is younger than everyone. He is very bright and is always first done with his work always 100% correct. When we do our weekly spelling test study, he gets them all after doing it once. Math just clicks....etc. Okay, enough bragging you get the point....he is going to be bored to tears in a couple years, if not sooner and his brightness will go to waist when he is goofing off. His school is good and he loves going. He likes his friends, etc. and the play time he gets ther.
A little background...dh was homeschooled from Gr. 1 to 7 and his side of the family are all homeschoolers. All the kids are so unique and most importantly...'kids'.
We also have 2 girls that will be entering school in a couple years.
btw...i tend to get long winded, lol
We are just looking at the world of homeschooling and it is all so overwhelming to me, because I was always taught in public school. There is a big convention coming up, which I will attend with dh to look at all the schools that provide pgrms. We want a structured curricilum (i can't spell...its late) with play groups.
i would also like to explore the Montessori route, since I attended Montessorri for a year growing up and flourished. I have been looking at Waldorf too....oh this is all so confusing.
Could you offer any advice?
We will start next year and he will be starting grade 3 ( he will be 7.5yrs old). My dd1 will be 3.5 and starting some preschool stuff as well. My baby will just draw during 'school' time.
I guess the #1 question you all receive is "What about their socializing skills". I know that homeschooling kids have enough exposure to other kids, etc. I am not too worried about that at all...but just other people's comments, etc.
Any input is going to be really appreciated here.
you learn how to handle negative remarks. in the beginning, when people would ask where dd was going to school next year, i would hem and haw and say "I'm not sure (long pause), we might be homeschooling". Now with increasing frequency I say we ARE homeschooling, but I still don't say it with the level of confidence that I will in a few years.
socialization questions don't fluster me because I don't believe that's an issue. I simply point out what I observed when my child had been in daycare - that her social skills became worse, and improved when I took her out. if you read john taylor gatto's book 'dumbing us down' you'll come away thinking that school interferes with socialization. after all, how can children who are engaging with the family and community all day be less socialized than children who are isolated in herds from the community?
i think as you become more comfortable with your decision you will feel less stress from negativity. of course, there is the issue of implicitly criticizing other people's choices when you announce that you homeschool - kind of like sahm vs. working out of the home mom (my dh believes that every good parent should want to homeschool and if they aren't doing it they should wish they could be - it's kind of extreme but i'm sure it comes through). i think a lot of negative comments probably are really a form of rationalization and a defense against the implication that the other person is not/was not as good a parent as you because they did not choose homeschooling. maybe if you think about the comments in that light they'll be easier to handle.
i have also wondered about the private school route, but as we are not rolling in money, i think about how many trips abroad the whole family could have for the cost of the tuition, and how traveling is a better form of education than the best school (imho).
your family will come around within a few years as the results prove their worries wrong. maybe even sooner than you think.
obviously, i tend to get long-winded, too...
The curriculums are very overwhelming. I've just asked around for this year but plan to use Waldorf next year. It seems that with your dh's experience and his family you could have some great resources. I did a lot of my exploring on the internet. I joined a homeschooling group through our local church. It's a very large group and while some members are way too religious for my taste there are many members that I really connect with.
It seems like you're ready to make your move. It's just hard to do it. Believe me, it took me so long to make that "final" decision! Once I did I never looked back.
If people say rude and hurtful things to you (they did to me) I just smile(d) and say "this is working really well for our family. I'm glad your situation is working for you".
Amy - Blessed wife to Jesse (the best dad in the world), mother of 10 on earth plus 8 in heaven. PROUD to be a Catholic! :
As for the negativity, I have not had to deal very much with my family in that way. They mind their own business for the most part and although for you it may be difficult you may have to put your foot down about negative comments (probably not more than once or twice though). It sounds like you do have opportunity for a good support network with DH's family so that is an option for the positive environment and there are wonderful homeschool associations in many towns.
Good luck with it! I am sure you will do GREAT!
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My son was like yours in Kindergarten...reading the teacher's manuel. I knew he was going to be bored in school and already the kids were teasing him because he was "different" (i.e. sensitive and able to read so well)
We decided to home school him and his older brother (2nd gr.) the following year. It was the hardest decision we have ever made....that was in 1987, and no one we knew homeschooled, we had to explain it to everyone!
It was the best decision we have ever made. Our sons are both in college now, and they are doing wonderfuly. They are well rounded intellegent young men.
We are still homschooling our younger children and loving it. I can't imagine any other lifestyle, and neither can they!