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I am a SAHM to a 4 yo boy and a 6 mo girl. Both children have always been at home with me.
I have been very challenged by the 4 yo, who is spirited and a real handful. Before he was born, DH and I said we would like to homeschool, but as I realized how difficult it was being with DS 24 hours a day, we began to think perhaps montessori school would be a good fit for us. We have DS enrolled for montessori preschool starting next month, but several recent financial disasters have made it clear that we may not be able to afford it. On one hand, I think perhaps this is the nudge I need to force me to give homeschooling a good try, but I also think that if I was miraculously handed $5000 for tuition, I'd honestly send him to preschool.
I should also add that we found ourselves rather unexpectedly pregnant last year, after my husband's vasectomy. So now I have a 6 month old baby to care for as well. I am coping well and finally getting in the swing of having two kids, but I'll admit that some days I feel totally overwhelmed.
I will say that I think the montessori school would be wonderful for my DS. He really likes it there and has been saying, "I like school!” when he normally says “NO!” to absolutely anything new. I don’t think of sending him to school as an opportunity to “send him away” or “get him out of my hair.” I truly want what’s best for him. Part of me thinks that sending him to this school will be great for him.
We do get out and do stuff a lot, but he’s so often bored at home while I am trying to take care of baby. We used to have a great network of other SAHM moms, but they’ve all had their kids in school for years now. I’m struggling not only to find him playmates, but also to keep sanity for myself. Some days I don’t talk to a grown-up all day and it’s really hard on me. Also, DS mopes around alot saying, "won't anyone play with me?" And I do try to play with him as much as possible.
Part of me thinks homeschooling would be great and lots of fun, and other times I feel so completely overwhelmed at the possibility of working with a 4 yo while trying to juggle a baby and household tasks. And I think he does need to be engaged and challenged more than he is now.
I have mentioned to my mama friends that we are thinking of having DS at home another year, and they all think I’m crazy. They are all scheming for me to send him to school, that I am crazy for even contemplating it.
So those of you who homeschool, how do you care for babies and keep the little ones engaged? How did you initially feel when you started homeschooling and how do you keep your sanity?