Viola, you should definately be able to teach yourself fiddle! Piece of cake! http://alltabs.com
is a good site. They have lots of guitar and some fiddle tabs. All ranges of skills. Mostly intermediate level though.
I mostly play by ear. I was never taught to read notes. I taught myself about 10 years ago and got pretty good. Then I got married and had 4 kids and never got a chance to play. I too had the jealousy thing with my kids. I would be so frustrated I would want to cry. Now it's much better. I just kinda gave up for a while. I would get half way through a song and have had 5 interruptions. It drove me crazy! I have to relearn how to read notes again. I teach, so I'm learning with my students. I also have to learn music theory. I just instinctively know what works, but I can't tell you in words why it does!
My brother and I just got an offer to do a 30 min live set on local television. I think it would be awesome! A good way to get some publicity. We are playing for a local dance on the 13th too. Yippee!
If you can read notes, there's a great book called the Fiddler's Fakebook. It's got hundreds of songs.
My idol (well not really an idol, just can't think of a better word) and inspiration is Mark O'Connor. http://markoconnor.com
He's the best. I absolutely love his music. I'm in the process of learning a bunch of his songs.
Oh, and bluegrass ain't Country! I'm not a Country fan anymore at all. I listen to the likes of Mark O'Connor, Bela Fleck, Jerry Douglas, Chris Thile, Alison Krausse, etc etc etc! I also listen to Grateful Dead, Metallica and a whole lotta others but my coffee hasn't kicked in yet!
Can you tell I love music?
: Keep practicing mamas!