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Portland mama's rocking in the New Year!--Reunited cause it feels so good

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Yaaaaaaahooooooooooo!!!
More cowbell! I need More cowbell!ore cowbell!!
 
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Tina, have you tried Calms Forte for Kids? It's homeopathic, so it's super easy to get kids to take it since they're essentially like sugar pills.
No, I haven't heard of that before. Can I get it at Wild Oats or Fred Meyer? If so I will have DH check at lunch or after work tomorrow. He works across the street from Wild Oats in Vancouver. Anything to help that child sleep! She is a bear to get up in the mornings as might be expected too...
 
#808 ·
Well... he's still awake. (So obviously, so am I) I have Jaden in the morning (and all this week) at 7:30am
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: I feel totally loony!

Tomorrow will be different, oh great cosmos... Tomorrow (technically today) will see us asleep before 11pm. Ya hear?!

But let me know the info on the HS skate thing. Maybe it is something we can make a plan for some other time!
 
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No, I haven't heard of that before. Can I get it at Wild Oats or Fred Meyer? If so I will have DH check at lunch or after work tomorrow. He works across the street from Wild Oats in Vancouver. Anything to help that child sleep! She is a bear to get up in the mornings as might be expected too...
yes. I get mine from fm. Carson knows them as his calming pills.
and will ask for them when he feels he's too hyper
 
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g*dd*m i hate my cat. so annoying.
Me too! We've vowed never to get any more after our two kick the bucket.

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Originally Posted by DreamsInDigital View Post
I made so much candy today. After scrubbing my kitchen and dining room floors on my hands and knees.
I made divinity, fudge, caramel, chocolate covered pretzels and chocolate covered gummy bears.
And I feel so sick now. Ugh.
Nesty nest nest nest

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sending lots of good no-nose-dripping, both-nostrils-opened-at-the-same-time, eyes-stop-watering, hives-on-roof-of-mouth-go-away, sleep-be-had vibes
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yes. I get mine from fm. Carson knows them as his calming pills.
and will ask for them when he feels he's too hyper


OMSI OMSI OMSI ZOO ZOO ZOO OMSI OMSI OMSI ZOO ZOO ZOO OMSI OMSI OMSI ZOO ZOO ZOO
Questions about OMSI/Zoo are in another thread.
 
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yes. I get mine from fm. Carson knows them as his calming pills.
and will ask for them when he feels he's too hyper
whats in them, and what do they do? Killian has moments where he could certainly use some "calming pills"


there are nights when it takes him forever to fall asleep, like 2+ hours. Do these help kids get to sleep faster then too?
 
#812 ·
6am. He did not fall asleep until 6am.

He fell asleep crying and hitting his face, trying to stay awake.

Then, an hour later woke up crying and I had to hold him until he dozed back off.

Now Jaden is on his way over for the day.

Oh, and I am sick.

Sometimes things just get so strange that it just isn't believable anymore!


Edited to add: Jaden's fam knows that I have the headcold - they think that I may have gotten it from him! I did just call and cancel for today, though, because I think that I am slightly warmer than "normal". Even a teeny tiny itty bitty fever is still a fever, and that is one of those lines I have etched in my mind when it comes to being around other people's children. What are y'alls feelings on this (just curious).
 
#813 ·
no clue what in it...well let me go grab them....the "formula from the side is: calcarea phosphorica 3x HPUS, chamomilla 3X HPUS, coffea cruda 3x HPUS, belladonna 3x hpus (0.0003% alkaloids) in a base of lactose N.F."

oh wait that's off the teething tablets, but if I remember correctly, it's the same thing.
 
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House porn is EXACTLY it. here's pics:

front room (my future yoga room i call it
)

this ceiling is off the hook!!!

even the porch supports are cool

i took mostly video--i don't why i didn't take more photos esp. of the yard...i was too excited, i guess
WOW, gorgous!

I had a productive weekend, I went to Fabric Depot... man, that place is CRAZY! I decided to sell (or trade) some of my capes so I got some really fun fabric for the insides. I know some of you mamas were asking, so PM me if you're still interested!

I got my snap press, although I don't have much use for it right now, it sure is fun! DH was snapping our dish clothes.
: I'm thinking about having a play date this week, I'll bribe anyone willing to come to Wilsonville with use of the press.
 
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And then certain ethnic looking dark haired women really do it for me. There was this one girl from the Yucatan I hired when I worked in the UCLA store. She showed up for her interview wearing a black leather jacket and red lipstick and my mouth almost dropped. She had this golden skin and these adorable freckles across her nose. I could hardly focus on what I was saying.
I knew I was going to hire her just based on her looks and I felt really guilty about that. Luckily she turned out to be a great employee. She used to stand with her body pressed up against me when I was training her, and I swear I thought my heart was gonna stop. I also had a crazy crush on this one girl at UCLA for the longest time. There is a certain MDC mom by the name of Pauline that reminds me so much of her.
I hope we can still come over and play. I promise I won't hit on you.


Phew, this has taken me all day! I wonder how much longer the thread is now!
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sure you can still come over and play . . .
 
#817 ·
i skimmed through the last few pages.

dh and i love 'house porn' too. there are so many cool houses in portland.

our ped is in the providence system. i have providence ppo too. kristin ell. she is at oregon pediatrics in the prov ptld medical services building next to the hospital. i don't know if she qualifies as your desire to get a very pro advocate bf/cosleeping person but i would just tell her how much i was bf and she knew we coslept and she just took it in as information and thought it was a-ok. she didn't have any alternate suggestions or negative comments or anything. but i also had a baby that was off the charts on the top end until age 1 so i don't know what she would suggest or want for a baby off the low end. anyway i like her a lot. she is NOT touchy feely in terms of bedside manner. very analytical and practical but great with isaac. she has kids. and she is very skinny so maybe she'd understand that some people are just meant to be skinny
 
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Ugghhh. Stupid MP3 player crashed the computer. (Cuz ya know you can't unload the dishwasher without musical accompaniment.)
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So i had this nice quoted reply all written out....
Embers:
Anyway,homeschool skate is for all ages and is the 2nd and 4th Mondays. They even have a little kids practice area with railings!

About sleep. You are such a gentle and giving mama. i have a bottle of Calms forte' that Nigel thinks is candy. Do you want it?

i would have screamed "MAMA NEEDS SLEEEEEEEP!" At this point. (oh wait, i have...
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What does Zion think about your need to sleep?

I am not a nice mama without my sleep. Raven knew this from an early age!


WEll, off to be ignored.
 
#819 ·
Good morning chatty chicks!

Embers, ug I feel for you. I hope that boy realizes the joy of sleep asap! I also have always felt that any fever=contagious (& was actually taught that in my 1st aid classes I took for my childcare license). I hope you have a peaceful, nap-filled day! Oh, and congratulations on freeing yourselves of cable TV!!

Allison
, trying to balance hsing with housework with socializing (for me & the kids) is my DAILY STRUGGLE. Every day, for years & years & years......
It's like, if I take the kids out for a playdate, we get home just in time for us to rush around & clean the house-- no time for hsing. If I spend a fabulous full morning of hsing, then go grocery shopping, the house is a disaster full of groceries by the time DP gets home. If I spend a fantastic couple hours in the morning online or phone catching up with my friends, then I've cut into the hours we could have gotten schooling/cleaning/errands done. It's neverending!

Was that helpful at all???


One thing that makes a hugemongus difference, & is much easier said than done, is trying to stay on top of things. Like, if I can manage to get the kitchen clean after dinner, so we wake up to a perfectly organized kitchen, then I don't have to waste precious morning hours cleaning the stupid kitchen. Or, if I can fold each load of laundry as I take it out of the dryer instead of piling up 6 loads of laundry & spending 2 hours sorting through it, that's sooo much better. Also, I make my kids clean a lot. Not as much as I think I should be... but I'm working on that. It's all a constant battle. Wheeeee!

Mama nomad, I LOVE that awesome window in that house! Oh how I love huge windows with views of trees......


Lisa, that is so funny about the change in the lawn!
Brilliant!! I feel the same way about my dd's birth, I'd hate to even write it out because I was young & clueless. The whole story would go "First the dr. did this to me, then they did that to me, then the nurse made me do this, then the other nurse was mean to me & told that 'this is what I asked for, getting pregnant as a teenager', then they forced me to do this...." on & on. It really was bad. But I was SOOOooO happy to be a mama. I cried with joy when my baby came out just like any mama.


Emily/sadkitty, I'd happily accept your lovely waffle maker if you really don't use it! Thanks for the offer!

I had such a superb weekend. We took a long drive out into the boonies & ended up in Vernonia. I am like an old person now, I LOVE going for drives in the country, seeing the farms & trees & scenery. I remember when my parents would 'go for drives', I thought it was the stupidest most boring activity ever!! I just can't get enough of that delicious farm land. We will have a piece of it ourselves one day, & I will have to try not to drop dead from overwhelming happiness.

I have this perfect picture of me & Timothy as old people. We will be such hippies, we'll have longlong gray hair. I will find neverending joy in standing on my land in long dresses, feeding my chickens by hand, while Timothy, covered in mud, works in our organic garden. OMG I have more fun fantasizing about that than any sexual fantasy!!
So that's what we did, drove through farmland & fantasized together.
 
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on the house front: could not get a flight to pdx, so i braved the pass alone (not bad, heavy rain, no ice) and saw 10 house in 2 days with our agent. i knew what one i wanted so we looked at it first: an A-frame in SE on .43 acres. it was even BETTER than i hoped!!!!! a mess, but we are willing to do the work. the house seemed even better after looking at all the others. so we put in an offer. the problem: it is a divorce sale and the couple are not speaking to each other.......one wants to move on, the other wants to stay until the end of feb...whatever. we can wait but they still have not offically accepted the offer presented wednesday. we are supposed to hear tomorrow. i am so attached to the house already..........
the drive back was sketchy, snowing over the pass, drove 30mph for about an hour then things cleared up. i love my husband that he let ME pick the house, total trust, sight unseen. he knows it's my mama domain--for me it comes down to 2 things: the kitchen and the layout. this house will be soooooo dope when we are done with it. that is if the kiddie baby whiners ever come to a decision. actually i feel for the couple, moving on must be painfully difficult. if we get it we will sage the F out of it and fill it with our sweet magical family love!!!!!!

i look forward to meeting you mamas and hearing more.....
ooooooh i really hope you get the dream house. and glad you got here and back home safely. what a scary drive!

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so nice to hear--and so glad i asked before i send out my rant! i will go edit it into a friendly and thankful note.....

here is what i sent:
I am about to move to Portland from Bend Oregon, and I've been told that New Seasons is THE place to shop for me as a mama who cooks every meal from scratch using the best organic ingredients....

But I just heard a surprising story--- a CUSTOMER SERVICE MANAGER requested a breast feeding women to move or cover herself at your establishment? Before I wrote an angry email, I obtained the rest of the story and I am VERY happy to hear that you set things right. Breast-feeding-friendly establishments will always have a passionate, strong, influencial army of mothers backing them.

I look forward to shopping at your reputable business with my family.

Sincerely,

Leah Perlingieri

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AddysMama btw-- i thought your speech you gave the guy during the incident was AWESOME and i hope that if i was ever in that situaution i would have the balls and mind to go off on the misguided soul

great letter. did you send it to Claudia?
i mean at NS not our lovely Turbo Claudia.

and thanks. at first i was in shock that it was actually happening it felt SO surreal, then my mama bear took over and, BAM that ignorant guy didnt know what hit him! maybe he will think twice next time he wants to be a dillweed.

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Originally Posted by DreamsInDigital View Post
I made so much candy today. After scrubbing my kitchen and dining room floors on my hands and knees.
I made divinity, fudge, caramel, chocolate covered pretzels and chocolate covered gummy bears.
And I feel so sick now. Ugh.
somebody's NESTING!!!!!!
mmmmmmmmm fudge.
yummo.
got a recipe???

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I have the headcold from hell. Seriously, this is just awful. Please send me good, no-nose-dripping, both-nostrils-opened-at-the-same-time, eyes-stop-watering, hives-on-roof-of-mouth-go-away, sleep-be-had vibes.
that head cold is NASTAY. its naking its rounds back to us again.

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House porn is EXACTLY it. here's pics:

front room (my future yoga room i call it
)

this ceiling is off the hook!!!

even the porch supports are cool

i took mostly video--i don't why i didn't take more photos esp. of the yard...i was too excited, i guess
mmmmmmm totally house porn. you have GOT to host a yoga potluck when you guys get settled.

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Okay - the sleep thing is getting ridiculous. I am exhausted. We even tried a car ride tonight... He dozed until the second the car turned off and was wide awake again. We are talking NO naps, and up 18 plus hours in a row - sometimes more. What the HELL is going on here?! No new changes, our life is loving and easy, he does not seem upset or anything... nothing new in the diet, no sugars or dyes...

AGGGGGGGGG!!!!
i second the suggestion for Calms Forte for kids. it works SO well for Addy. unfortunately we have run out.
but she is getting to sleep fairly well now. she was acting like Zion for a bit tho NOT wanting to sleep at all.
has he had any bad dreams lately????

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6am. He did not fall asleep until 6am.

He fell asleep crying and hitting his face, trying to stay awake.

Then, an hour later woke up crying and I had to hold him until he dozed back off.

Now Jaden is on his way over for the day.

Oh, and I am sick.

Sometimes things just get so strange that it just isn't believable anymore!


Edited to add: Jaden's fam knows that I have the headcold - they think that I may have gotten it from him! I did just call and cancel for today, though, because I think that I am slightly warmer than "normal". Even a teeny tiny itty bitty fever is still a fever, and that is one of those lines I have etched in my mind when it comes to being around other people's children. What are y'alls feelings on this (just curious).
i have called for sick days before. when Addy had pink eye, and once when i was PUKING hardcore. i think that if you cannot function properly and cant take care of their child to your capability because of being sick, or if the child is at risk of getting the bug from you and that would mean they couldnt come to your house (i have a no puking runs fever over 101 policy) then they need to stay home til you are well enough to take care of them, or til you arent contagious. kwim?
dont feel badly for not being able to work. everyone else gets sick days, why cant we? and our jobs involve the lives of small children we NEED sick days.
:
: i have been thinking of writing up a lil contract stating my sick policy and such. we shall see.

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WOW, gorgous!

I had a productive weekend, I went to Fabric Depot... man, that place is CRAZY! I decided to sell (or trade) some of my capes so I got some really fun fabric for the insides. I know some of you mamas were asking, so PM me if you're still interested!

I got my snap press, although I don't have much use for it right now, it sure is fun! DH was snapping our dish clothes.
: I'm thinking about having a play date this week, I'll bribe anyone willing to come to Wilsonville with use of the press.

ummmm play date!!!!
wait no i cant! damn.
my only day off i am heading down to Salem. to see the wonderful voodoo donut hoarding pamela (i am only mildly bitter you didnt bring me any) for my second appt. then we have some shopping to do for the party.
 
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I had such a superb weekend. We took a long drive out into the boonies & ended up in Vernonia. I am like an old person now, I LOVE going for drives in the country, seeing the farms & trees & scenery. I remember when my parents would 'go for drives', I thought it was the stupidest most boring activity ever!! I just can't get enough of that delicious farm land. We will have a piece of it ourselves one day, & I will have to try not to drop dead from overwhelming happiness.

I have this perfect picture of me & Timothy as old people. We will be such hippies, we'll have longlong gray hair. I will find neverending joy in standing on my land in long dresses, feeding my chickens by hand, while Timothy, covered in mud, works in our organic garden. OMG I have more fun fantasizing about that than any sexual fantasy!!
So that's what we did, drove through farmland & fantasized together.

how much do you love the drive to vernonia?! did you see the hippie house on the left hand side of the road on your way there? in Sept they had out huge tiedyes tapestries n such. my dream plot.
we too fanasize about owning land, raising animals, n food, and being old and wrinkly and happy land livers!
and isnt vernonia CUTE?! we have been going out there since we were little. LOVE it. so tiny and quaint and sweet.
 
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yes, I know. But I do LOVE food. I would be vegan if someone would cook for me. I have a strong belief that I could do without dairy and meat if I just had a better desire to actually COOK. sadly, my desire for veganism has little to do with animals and more to do with health. i know i'd end up being a processed food but-no-animal-stuffs-type-of-vegan if i tried. i just don't like cooking that much.

and, I have to admit I had the weinerschnitzel at the Rhine. It's true. Baby cow. Normally I don't eat cows at all (most know about my pork-only policy)!

I got some new lube at IMP...silicone stuff that was very nice! My other stuff has glycerin in it. Can you say itchy cootchie?

And, I have long discovered that those little powerful battery operated 2" vibes (are they only an inch and a half?) make little kids very happy. Just so you know. Take one fussy kid and give them a vibe....they are THRILLED for hours.
Oh my... that's hilarious about kids and vibrators. I suppose it'd be best not to give them one that looks like a penis?

And yuck-o about the Rhine
In your next life you will be a vegan chef.

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That is so beautiful, Lee. I had mine done for a ritual I was in, but it was no work of art LOL.
http://www.geekforever.com/images/ga-lisa.jpg
Wow, I love what you're wearing! It makes you look like a pregnant goddess. Beautiful!

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My favorite tip along these lines came from a guy I used to work with. He was military and would be gone from home for long stretches. While he was gone, mom would keep a change jar. When he got back, they would throw the change all over the backyard and let the kids hunt for it. They would be out there for hours sometimes...
Lol, this is a GREAT idea!!! Now I just need to wait until Jake is old enough to walk and not put the coins in his mouth...

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I had a productive weekend, I went to Fabric Depot... man, that place is CRAZY! I decided to sell (or trade) some of my capes so I got some really fun fabric for the insides. I know some of you mamas were asking, so PM me if you're still interested!
Me! Me! Okay, PM'ing you now...
 
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how much do you love the drive to vernonia?! did you see the hippie house on the left hand side of the road on your way there? in Sept they had out huge tiedyes tapestries n such. my dream plot.
we too fanasize about owning land, raising animals, n food, and being old and wrinkly and happy land livers!
and isnt vernonia CUTE?! we have been going out there since we were little. LOVE it. so tiny and quaint and sweet.
Oh man, I must've missed the hippie house. It makes me so happy to hear you guys have the same fantasies! Vernonia was awesome. So um, when we're old, I'll trade ya some fresh homemade sheep cheese for some of your tasty organic broccoli, K? Or maybe some homemade bread for some of your honey??
Ooooooooh, you know what else I will love soooooo much, is having a party around a big ol' bonfire on my land. OMG how dreamy. Aren't you so happy that you found a man that shares in your land loving hippie ways??
 
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Originally Posted by embers View Post
6am. He did not fall asleep until 6am.

He fell asleep crying and hitting his face, trying to stay awake.

Then, an hour later woke up crying and I had to hold him until he dozed back off.

Now Jaden is on his way over for the day.

Oh, and I am sick.

Sometimes things just get so strange that it just isn't believable anymore!

I'm so sorry you and Zion are having a rough time. It sounds terrible and I would be an insanely crazy madwoman at this point.

Is it possible there's something physically wrong with him like an ear infection or UTI? Just a thought that you've already had like a thousand times. Maybe just a case of way over tired.

On a Benadryl note, dh and I brought a bottle with us to Puerto Rico but never had to use it. I had fully intended to though if dd was miserable.
 
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Oh man, I must've missed the hippie house. It makes me so happy to hear you guys have the same fantasies! Vernonia was awesome. So um, when we're old, I'll trade ya some fresh homemade sheep cheese for some of your tasty organic broccoli, K? Or maybe some homemade bread for some of your honey??
Ooooooooh, you know what else I will love soooooo much, is having a party around a big ol' bonfire on my land. OMG how dreamy. Aren't you so happy that you found a man that shares in your land loving hippie ways??

oh hell yes. we can trade milk for eggs. and kale for carrots.


we have to both live in the boonies but within a mile of eachother, so its just a short walk to the neighbors. lol.
OR in 10 years we can go halfsies on a big plot of land and just share the chores! two houses, one huge garden.
*drool* dammit!
and yes i am so glad i have a partner that shares my dream.
i have the dream of dancing naked under the full moon around my bonfire when i am like 60. saggy baggy tiffy.


ok i want egg salad so bad. how odd is that? off to boil a dozen eggs, some for salad some for munching.
 
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Still needing to go back and read from page 21 on.... hopefully later tonight, but checking in quickly...

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Originally Posted by TurboClaudia View Post
lisa: that pic of you and your henna belly is awesome. what kind of ritual was it? you look beautiful.

Thanks Claudia.
It was the Summer Solstice Ritual for the UU GA in Long Beach. I think there are more pictures online somewhere. I will try to look later.

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update is just one post above yours. it is nice to know someone understands this-- i LOVE seeing homes, and there are some that i have seen that have affected me and i will probably think of for a long time (like the Rummer in Oaks hills waaaaaaayyy out of budget).
Haha what a dork I am! Yeah, I used to just be itching to get out on the road on Sundays and go look at Open Houses. Ron thinks I am crazy. I was pretty good about not lusting for expensive homes. It was the ones we could afford and lost that made me really sad.
There was this one that had a wooden walkway out to a covered spa amidst pines. Sigh.

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Originally Posted by embers View Post
I have the headcold from hell. Seriously, this is just awful. Please send me good, no-nose-dripping, both-nostrils-opened-at-the-same-time, eyes-stop-watering, hives-on-roof-of-mouth-go-away, sleep-be-had vibes.
Hope you are feeling better. I didn't have time to read everything going on with Zion, but I will soon. Have you considered melatonin? I know it is controversial, but some people swear by it. I don't know enough to make a rec.

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sure you can still come over and play . . .
Yay! We will have to set something up soon. Are you home most days? I know Kristin was also thinking about visiting on Wed, but that is Steph's open house day. Are you thinking about taking it off this week Steph?
 
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Eye testing: I need to get Naia's eyes checked. DH's whole family has horrible eyesight. Naia has made some comments about seeing shadows moving that made DH think she has floaters. I don't even know what that is. Anyway, must get that done! I just hope she'll cooperate with the test. She seems to be quite the rebel, and only wants to do things if it is her idea.

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Now.....for my question. Do any of you mamas have experience with this:

Rowan has been eating little bits of food here and there for a while. Never a lot.....she would have a little toast or some fruit for breakfast, a little lunch, and maybe some chicken and veggies for dinner, but all pretty small amounts. and....she would snack throughout the day, usually she just wanted whatever anyone else was eating. i was actually worried at a point that she was eating too much, cause she liked to snack so much. well, she got sick last week, and hasn't eaten since. its been almost a week, and all she has eaten maybe would work out to a teaspoon a day. something like 10 pieces of corn, or 6 cheerios total for the day...not very much at all. i assumed she would go back to eating normal once her cold was gone, but it is...and shes not. now...she does still nurse at least every 2 hours, day and night, so i am not really worried....just wondering if it is a phase that they go through (at almost 1 year)? maybe its related to the tooth she is working on? any ideas mamas?
Janna, I would think Rowan's fine as long as she's getting as much breastmilk as she wants and isn't acting hungry, and has enough dirty/wet diapers. Josephine is almost 9 mo old and she isn't eating hardly anything ever. She wants to eat, but the only thing she reliably won't choke on is tiny bits of avocado. When I try giving her baby food, she isn't very interested and will get a few bites down and then starts gagging, or just doesn't swallow it or stops opening her mouth. It's kind of frustrating because it makes our mealtimes hard too. She wants everything, but she even chokes on banana. I guess she isn't ready but she wants to be. Sorry I went into my own rant there. I wonder if Rowan is needing the extra goodness from your breastmilk to recover from her sick time?

MamaNomad, I love the house pics! It looks so peaceful. I bet you won't have that big dead elk head on the wall when you live there either.
i
RMLS too
 
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Amen to that.

I never post on any of the other non-local threads because honestly, I don't want my booty kicked over some "crunchier-than-thou" snark people might choose to throw my way. I read more on MDC while I was pregnant than I do now, partially because I actually had (gasp) free time then, but also because the derisive attitudes scared me and actually made me feel like motherhood was some sort contest to see who could do things the "right" way. I still cringe when people put laundry lists of "I do x, y, and z" up as if to boost their MDC street cred, or see people constantly take pot-shots at the mainstream (frustrating though it may be). I feel like, dang, being a mom is such hard frustrating work sometimes ... the last thing we need to be doing is tearing each other down while we are really just trying to do the best we can every day, even if my "best" is your "no way would I do that", ya know?

Plastic meat toys forever, baby! (Janna, I look forward to meeting you!)

And now hubby is home which means I can take a shower sans screaming baby! Whoooooo-hoo!
I know all of these are going to be really late cause of my dang computer but I wanted to comment so here I go


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I really love that you posted this. I struggle with the feelings of not being "crunchy" enough for this crowd sometimes. not necessarily about my childrens births (which were in hospitals) but about day to day things. I eat meat, shop at Winco, let my kids have loud plastic toys, drive my car everywhere, use sposies (although we tried cloth, and I loved it, sadly...rowan wasnt as keen on it as I was), and i dont know what nasty chemicals are in my makeup or bath products. BUT i do feel that we have a lot in common here too, breastfeeding, co-sleeping, babywearing, and the like. but i have to admit, sometimes i worry that someone will deem me not crunchy enough to hang out with, and that would make me really sad.

I want to add that there is NOTHING that any PDX mama's have said or done to make me feel excluded, or not "cool" enough
sometimes when lurking on other forums here at MDC, mamas can get pretty snarky about these things, and then i have the worry in the back of my mind that someone IRL might think the same, and not get to know me....instead judging me about my plastic meat toys (heh heh....if anyone remembers that from my intro).

one of the things that i like most about this PDX group is that everyone I have met IS really open minded, and recognizes that even though we may all do things differently day to day, at the core, we are all very similar. i like to think that its the kind of person you are, not where you buy your groceries, that matters the most
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I know exactly how you feel, Im so glad that we are all not the same but that we all have the same general idea so that we can learn from each other. And I learn everyday from all of you mamas and it makes me so happy
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I'm WAY behind, so sorry if I missed important stuff -I'm not so sick anymore (yay!) but I must clean my house so not much time to read/post...

My experience is that my milk was diminished during pregnancy, but it never dried up. I've nursed toddlers throughout pregnanacies twice now, and while I did see an increase in their table food comsumption (no bottles or supplements were used), there was always milk and they continued nursing with no problems whatsoever during pregnancy and, in my son's case, for 2 years beyond (I've tandemmed twice as well)...for me it's always been true supply and demand, when I was feeding my 2 and 4 year old children there was always enough milk available, and my body seeme to think that when I'm only nursing one child, it's time to get pregnant
my daughter only had my pregnancy to nurse solo - after her older brother weaned and before her little brother joined her.
Emily- Im 19 weeks now and it feels like my milk is gone, but we continue to nurse cause Oats wants it and I love it that he does! But I was wondering I am so so sore, nipples feel like they are going to crack and bleed and then fall off, did you feel the same way? i guess it doesnt help that he is teething hardcore and so its non stop nursies all night long, ahh

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Angie, I think it is HEALTHY to be asking these questions! One of my teachers that I admire a lot talks about love this way:
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Do you love me?
When?
What do you mean when?
Well, do you mean right now do I feel love for you?
Yes, I guess so..
well, then No. Right now I am not feeling love for you, check back later.

that is kind of silly but the truth to me is: What is love, how do we personally define it? How can we feel love for another human being all the time? That is impossible in my estimation. Love is an emotion and our emotions change constantly as human beings. We can choose to create a relationship with another person based on particular commitments and agreements and yes, the emotions of deep love.
I like what Claudia said about not expecting our partners to be our ideal and fulfill us or make us complete.
I am most able to be in mature relationship with my partner when I am already complete in myself, clear about my agreements with him and not in fantasy land about romantic love. This is what I am personally working towards as a person. It is hard b/c we have so much media, cultural pressure around "love" and what relationships SHOULD be like...and even better, what our partners SHOULD be like and what we SHOULD be like. No wonder so many relationships are in crisis...

Savannah- Thank you for posting this, I know that these feelings are normal and the great thing is once that I realize them and process them things for dh and I get better. We actually connected physically this weekend which hasnt happened in awhile, I cant connect physically if Im not connected emotionally and mentally so we are working on it, he is a great guy and I am lucky and so is he.

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I have felt those feelings, often, over the years, usually during my period, pregnancy, and postpartum. I have fantasized about divorce, because although I love my dh very much, it's more like a brotherly love, we have been friends for about 22 years now (married for 8.5 years), and we are parents together and always will be, but marriage is HARD work, and single parenthood sometimes seems so much easier (WAS easier) and my single mom friends get BREAKS from their kids and go out and have fun...

I really liked what Claudia said, about getting our needs met from our whole tribe of people, but I don't really have a tribe as I have no parents or siblings, and my good friends are busy raising their young families and I just want my marriage to be FUN and ROMANTIC and SPONTANEOUS and it's just really not that fun, and I know, it's just the "season of kids" in our marriage, where we aren't even sharing a bed right now and we are really busy just feeding and clothing and entertaining them each day, and keeping the kids healthy and somewhat emotionally stable
and it's a LOT of work and strain on a couple, and maybe we'll get it back, that IN LOVE thing, and maybe we won't, but we won't really know until the kids are older and we have space to breathe and look at our lives and have time alone to reflect, etc. I guess I'm babbling here, I just want you to know that you're not alone and there's really no advice i can give you. Maybe your relationship is not the right one for you, and you should leave (people do make mistakes), and maybe it is right and you should stay, but it will take a bit longer to find out, and no matter what you will always be connected to each other through your children, so might as well work on building a healthy relationship with healthy communication now, because you'll sure need that foundation no matter what happens.

Sending LOVE,
Alrighty.... all of you mamas are so inspirational, it helps to know that I am not alone, although it doesnt make me happy that others have been there but it does make me feel less lonely. Im thankful that I have such a safe place to post/.

Emily- I hope that it comes around again for you too, I look up to you as a woman and as a mother, you have so much wisdom to share and you have been through so much, I to agree that claudia said it great, I actually read what she said to dh and he agreed, we know that we arnt each others everything but we are each others something. It just has sucked for me cause my momma was my go to girl, she was my best friend and I lost that
: , I still have her to talk to in my heart I just have to listen so much harder for what she tells me


Also Arwyn, I couldnt find what you said but I loved what you said about fighting and then reconnecting. I am working very hard on that.

Oh yeah and Im pregnant so those hormones, they are fun


Things have been great though, I think for me it has to come to a head and I have to process it and you have all helped me to do that. thank you
 
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