I just posted this over in Special Needs.. I needed this thread, too:
I don't know if I should post here, or what I should say even.
My daughter was super intense, from birth. The loudest baby in the hospital. I thought it was due to being born via C-section.
For months, it took hours to nurse her. She would literally scream at the breast after every gulp. She was my first; now that I have more experience BFing I think perhaps my letdown was either too slow or too fast, or maybe the milk tasted funny. I can't believe I nursed her for nearly 2 years! I'm so glad that I did, though, because I know that without the feel-good hormones I received from BFing I'd have lost my mind.
She can't take loud noises - scared to death of the toilet flushing in public bathrooms, her younger brother humming to himself in the car sends her into outerspace. She'll scream and cry.
She is now 4.
She has a hard time understanding verbal directions. She took a gymnastics class, and that's when another mom asked me if she had Sensory Integration Disfunction or disorder... I made an appointment with her (holistic) ped who referred us to an occupational therapist. In the time between the referral and her first evaluation, she entered preschool and has made leaps and bounds.
I just got her report.
She's actually doing quite well but has some problems with proprioception - knowing where her body is in space? Also, her visual muscles aren't so good, she can't "track"; she has trouble sitting cross-legged; she has problems understanding directions; she has less fine motor coordination than most kids her age.
I have gotten so frustrated with her sometimes... I thought she just wasn't listening to me... I knew something wasn't quite right... But she's so crazy intellectual and verbal that I thought maybe she'd "get over it"...
I'm having a hard time being patient with her... I feel like a bad mama because I've been depressed lately (very rare for me!) and haven't been as tolerant as I should be...
The OT says Abi is actually borderline with this, that they think they can get her on track to within "normal parameters" quickly because her symptoms are so mild...
I was so stressed during my pregnancy with her... she was stewed in stress hormones. I feel sure that's part of the problem. We tried to conceive for over a year and when I got pg with her I was a total nutcase.
I'm sorry to be all over the place with this post, I'm sort of floored and not doing so great right now anyway so I'm a bit scattered.
Any words of advice or things I can do to help her cope would be welcome. A few months ago I tossed noisy and plasticy stuff out of the house, now we're all wood/organic/natural, with themed play areas scattered through the house. It seems to help, having less, and having things organized - she wouldn't play before that, it was like she was overwhelmed. Now she'll play with her wood kitchen and has just started loving dolls! (If you have a myspace account you can see her and her brother playing with those things by clicking on my siggy "mama" link). I can't tell you how happy I am to see her play.
Anyway, thanks for letting me ramble like this...