my son is 6.5 months old. i had a completely natural vaginal birth; he was posterior forever and i think his shoulder got stuck -- i ended up with a 2nd degree tear and needed stitches. he was 9 lbs 4.5 oz and my first baby.
at my 8 wk pp visit my midwife said my stitches had all healed but there was one little spot that she described as like "raw skin" that would still need to heal. she said she could use silver nitrate on it to seal it or just wait it out -- she recommended waiting because the silver nitrate "hurt like the devil."
every time (and granted, this hasn't been often because opportunities are far and in between) and DH and i try to have sex i have to stop because it hurts soo bad. it just burns like crazy. it's where that little raw spot was. the other day we tried to DTD and afterward it just stung so bad. it feels like losing my virginity all over again, only more painful.
my husband is understandably sad and a little antsy, although very patient. i am very sad, too. will i ever be normal again down there?
i've thought about making an appointment with my m/w to see if that little raw spot has healed or if she can recommend anything. has anyone had a similar situation and did it just resolve itself with time?
i know that breastfeeding makes me dry so we use lots and lots of lube. but i think part of it is pyschological. like i can't shut off mommy brain and focus on something else. i think that if i had enough time for some really good adequate foreplay things would go easier but these days sex is kind of "ok the babe is asleep HURRY BEFORE HE WAKES UP!!!!" and i am having a hard time "switching" to sex mode in the 15 minutes before he wakes up again, kwim? plus i just lie there listening for him to wake up.
i just feel really bad for my husband. he's got needs, too, you know? and we do "other stuff" but i think he would really like penetration...which hurts like the dickens right now. and when i am like "ow, please stop" he of course stops because he doesn't want to hurt me but i can tell he is said and a bit blue-balled. haha.
any advice? sorry for the rambles...
at my 8 wk pp visit my midwife said my stitches had all healed but there was one little spot that she described as like "raw skin" that would still need to heal. she said she could use silver nitrate on it to seal it or just wait it out -- she recommended waiting because the silver nitrate "hurt like the devil."
every time (and granted, this hasn't been often because opportunities are far and in between) and DH and i try to have sex i have to stop because it hurts soo bad. it just burns like crazy. it's where that little raw spot was. the other day we tried to DTD and afterward it just stung so bad. it feels like losing my virginity all over again, only more painful.
my husband is understandably sad and a little antsy, although very patient. i am very sad, too. will i ever be normal again down there?
i've thought about making an appointment with my m/w to see if that little raw spot has healed or if she can recommend anything. has anyone had a similar situation and did it just resolve itself with time?
i know that breastfeeding makes me dry so we use lots and lots of lube. but i think part of it is pyschological. like i can't shut off mommy brain and focus on something else. i think that if i had enough time for some really good adequate foreplay things would go easier but these days sex is kind of "ok the babe is asleep HURRY BEFORE HE WAKES UP!!!!" and i am having a hard time "switching" to sex mode in the 15 minutes before he wakes up again, kwim? plus i just lie there listening for him to wake up.
i just feel really bad for my husband. he's got needs, too, you know? and we do "other stuff" but i think he would really like penetration...which hurts like the dickens right now. and when i am like "ow, please stop" he of course stops because he doesn't want to hurt me but i can tell he is said and a bit blue-balled. haha.
any advice? sorry for the rambles...