I don't think you're crazy... but I do have trouble understanding how you'd want a MW that avoided you when you needed her most. I would have trouble trusting that person again. I do think in the end though, it's about what you feel most comfortable with. However, I also think it's important that you take your DP's wishes into consideration as well as get some closure & explanation from your MW as to why she abandoned you.
I agree with the pp too that you may want to consider whether you're trying to get a redo. For quite a while after my son's birth I wanted BADLY to have another one right away. I wanted the same OB and the same hospital but I wanted everything to go RIGHT the second time around. I have more recently come to realize that while yes, I do want another baby in the near future, a lot of my urgency & strong feelings was coming from wanting to redo & therefore undo the trauma of DS's birth. I finally realized that no matter how many kids I have and where I give birth & who attends and whether those births go well or badly, I will never get to "fix" DS's birth. I will never get to give him & myself the experience I had hoped for & dreamed of & so badly wanted for us both. That was at once both a terrifyingly dismal but incredibly freeing realization.
May or may not be the case for you, just something I'm throwing out there for you to consider.
Co-sleeping is really wonderful when your child actually SLEEPS!!