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Jenna ~ mommy to Sophia Elise (1/06), Oliver Matthew (7/07) and Avery Michael (3/10)
Wading slowly and nervously into this homeschooling thing.
I know how you feel about feeling awkward posting in the traumatic births forum. I had what most would consider a "perfectly lovely" homebirth, which it really was, when I think about it logically, but my experience of DS shooting out of me really freaked me out and even 2 years later I was freaked out about going through all that again.
But anyway, on to your post. That sounds really horrid. I know in my homebirth, the vibe coming off the two assistants slowed down my labor and they weren't even being bossy or obnoxious like that. IMO, you have every right to be angry at this woman. I know I would have been. Have you talked to your main midwife about the situation? Just thought it might help to have someone who agreed with you or to give a different perspective, but I realize it's been a long time.
You know, the one good things I read about your story here are: your instincts were right now about both mw. You knew exactly which one was good for you and which one wasn't.
I am sorry you had to deal with such crap during labor. But don't forget that there was more to labor than just those incidences. Maybe it would help you to write down, what was good during this labor? For instance, your midwife protected you.
My last prenatal visit with my midwife was pretty ugly and it is still bothering me. She never made it to the hospital; I was there less than an hour before the baby was out. And I am kind of glad, and other parts I would just like to write her a letter telling her how much I was hurt by her.
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