For me I had to turn it around and look at is as we are all warriors and even the best end up with scars from our battles.
Lisa, lucky mama of Kelly (3/93) , Emma (5/03) , Evan (7/05) , & Jenna (6/09)
Loving my amazing dh, James & forever missing Aaron Ambrose (11/07)
Actually, the WHO's goal is a maximum of 10% for community hospitals, but up to 15% for special high-risk care centers which get a large number of complicated pregnancies. If you trust the WHO on this, it would mean up to a third of CS's in the United States are necessary, not half. Since birth outcomes have not improved significantly since the CS rate was well under 10%, and since some birthing centers and home birth practices produce good outcomes with even lower CS rates, you could argue that something closer to 20% of hospital CS's are actually necessary.
BTW--I had problems with my incision healing this time. It was strange because apparently it's something that mostly happens to larger women (I'm thin--more so from 34 weeks of nasty hyperemesis with pregnancy #2), and DH ended up wet packing the part that didn't close with gauze for about a week and half. But, I don't consider that traumatic either. It's closed now and I'm chalking it up to "another thing that my body apparently doesn't like about pregnancy" because it didn't react well to the first pregnancy, and it reacted even more poorly to this one. (Happily, my body loves to BF and we don't have any issues there!)
I did have a difficult time recovering from my C, but I was also recovering from preeclampsia. But I emotionally, I felt it was necessary and even though my daughter had to be in the NICU, I felt we bonded well.
That said, I had a worse time recovering from my first VBAC.
I was physically worse off from that birth for months, not to mention the postpartum psychosis following.
Luckily, I was able to have another birth with no ill effects at all!
I hope your recovery goes well, and speedily.
I was walking well, baby mostly in stroller or carried by DH by 3 weeks after. I was carrying her by 6 weeks after. Did a full day hike probably 7 months later. About 1 year after my c, I felt 90% healed, mild numbness in a few spots. By 2 years after, I felt 100% healed. I don't have numbness or any lingering pain.
Texmati-- Knitter, Hindu, vegetarian, WOHM. Wife to superdad and mom to DS 24 months, and DD 8 months! .
Does a c section ALWAYS indicate a traumatic birth?
I am feeling currently traumatized by my c section- mostly just physically so.
and I am wondering- does anyone ever have a c section and not feel traumatized by it? If so- please share!
I would love to hear about that perspective.
I felt traumatized after my c-section, but it was not the physical aspect. I truly believe my c-section was necessary, and I was up, walking, and released from the hospital 30 hours after my DD was born. After about 12 months, I no longer had the twangs and pulls in my incision area. Things don't feel "tight" or "off" anymore (15 mos. PP). I can think about the birth without flashbacks of, I don't know, fear and anxiety. They were intense for a while.
The pain was nothing compared to my fear for my daughter--long story short, she didn't eat or pee for 24 hrs.; airlifted to NICU 4 hrs. away; spinal tap; ng tube; npo for 4 days; 3 wk. NICU stay.... That's the birth stuff that was traumatic. I pulled a stitch the second day and didn't notice. DD was/is fine, thank God, but the not knowing and the separation were traumatic. I cried every night for three weeks because I wanted my baby....
But that was just me.
There was one non-c-section painful aspect for me around that time. A few weeks before DD was born, I broke my foot. I kept telling the doctor that I thought I broke my foot and by the time I had to go into the hospital, my foot was swollen beyond recognition and I could barely walk. I was told repeatedly that it was "pregnancy swelling." I went to a podiatrist the same week DD was born and he confirmed that my foot was broken. I was in a cast for three months following DD's birth. That irritated me a lot because I was so used to being self-sufficient and "able-bodied", and because of that temporary disability, I probably spent a lot less time thinking about the c-section. We don't have a car, so I had to walk everywhere in the cast along with DD in the sling. It is water under the bridge now. Wish I had been a little more proactive but was so wrapped up mentally in the arrival of DD.
|I suppose it depends on what you mean by "physically traumatized." Obviously, having your abdomen cut open has to be a physical trauma, by definition. It is painful and requires time to heal from. Women seem to differ greatly in how much post-surgery pain they suffer and how long they take to recover, even when there are no longer term effects. I think we need to give ourselves more time and TLC than we sometimes do. I took almost two months to feel okay again after my CS, and I got some mild criticism from women who were up and around in a week.|
I had an emergency section, and while I don't feel physically or emotionally traumatized by it, that doesn't mean I don't sometimes ache. Several of my abdominal muscles were cut. It's been seven and a half months and they're still not back at 100% and I am still terrible at remembering that. I push myself harder than I should and then I pay for it. My new limitations aggravate and frustrate me. My body is different than it was before and I don't always like the changes.
Four weeks post-section though, I didn't have all this perspective. I felt like I'd been hit by a truck, I distrusted my body (not because of the surgery, but because of the circumstances that required the surgery - I felt like my body had pretended to be my friend and then lured me into an alley for a beating), I was exhausted and hormonal and not taking enough pain medication.
I credit both to communication, communication, communication.
With my first I had a wonderful doctor who knew me well and I trusted. Each intervention that we tried was 100% my decision. The doctor would explain why she thought an intervention was necessary. We'd talk about the options and I would make a decision. Even when it came time to opt. for the c-section it was my decision. She respectfully explained that she thought it was time to go that path and why. But she also gave me the option of laboring longer and assured me that I either decision I made was fine. I opted for the c-section and have never regretted it. It was my decision.
With the second, I feel a tinge of regret, but I didn't feel traumatized. I chose to have a repeat c-section instead of a VBAC. Then during and before my c-section I spoke up about what I wanted and worked with my doctor to make it the best experience it could be.
I feel I was communicated with appropriately and that I made the ultimate decisions.
I initially answered before I saw you were asking about the physical aspects. Yes I found the first one physically traumatizing. I hurt so bad afterward. I did heal pretty quickly and was doing well within a couple of weeks of the c-section. But the initial pain was bad.
The second c-section recovery was no where near as physically painful. In comparison to my first one I felt fantastic.
The first one involved 24 hours of hard labor and progressing to 10cm dilated before going to c-section. The second involved a couple of hours of light contractions and then on to the planned c-section. I just figure my body had alot more to recover from in the first c-section.
All that said, I am still going to attempt a VBA2C. Those first 24 hours after a c-section suck and I would prefer not to go through them.
It's not the ideal situation, but I was far more traumatized by my babies spending 4 weeks in the NICU, than by how they arrived.
C-section due to pre-eclampsia and HELLP:
I can't control everything. I just will not be sad about something I couldn't help or change, or about making the best choice I could at the time. What happens, happens. It probably also helps that soon after that, my daughter had other health issues I had to think about so there was no real time for me to beat myself up about it.