Is there anyone out there like me? Is there anything I can do to make it less painful? Any help would be great!!
I'm so sorry you've had such a hard time recovering, and sorry you're still in such pain. I second having a physical therapist take a look. Especially a PT with experience in women's health. You probably have adhesions... scar massage and u/s treatments can help with that. And there are stretching/toning exercises a PT can help with as well.
If you can't see a PT, the book Ending Female Pain is a great resource. Very well written, lots of pictures, easy to follow exercises. It helped me recover from the tear/repair and has continued to help me with the prolapse I acquired during that same birth.
Oh... the very birth supportive OBs I saw for my first vbac felt that belly dance, gentle yoga, and meditation outside/gardening to connect with nature were crucial activities for mamas who had suffered physical birth trauma (c/s, epi, tear). On the one hand, these are activities that increase blood flow to the pelvic region and provide gentle stretching to the muscles/tissue there as well. But they also felt that the body "shuts down" awareness of damaged areas as a sort of self defense mechanism and although this may help in the short term recovery, if a person doesn't work at re-integrating the pelvic region then there could be long term recovery issues.
Anyway, in addition to the scar massage/physical therapy/hydrotherapy techniques you may want to explore more holistic techniques like adding a gentle belly dance or yoga routine, meditating, tapping or EMDR.
I hope something helps... pelvic pain is so hard to discuss, and hard to recover from. There is a "vaginal birth after 4th degree tear" thread in the Birth trauma forum that might help in a BTDT way.
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I have also experience a 4th degree tear, my daughter is 15 months old and I also still struggle with pain as well as painful sex. Thanks so much for posting ideas on how to deal with it. The only advice my family dr. gave me was to use estrogen cream which I am very leary of using.
So I didn't have a 4th degree tear, but I did have an extremely long 2nd stage and lots of problems afterwards.... Turns out I have damage to the pudendal nerve, which is not something an ordinary obgyn is going to figure out. I'm not sure about a urogyn. Though I would agree to start with a (different!) regular ob but if they can't find anything you may want to try a pelvic pain specialist. Though PT did help so i you can get the regular doc to start you with that it might help.
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