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Someting I have been thinking about is the babymoon. The actual rest period, lying-in with baby for a full 6 weeks. I know how hard that is with our modern society, distant relatives (both physically and emotionally), multiple children, moms back to work soon PP...the list goes on. BUT this is fundamental to propper physical healing. And I can't help but draw a correlation between our lack of propper after-care (in some Euro countries the mom has massages at her home, nursing/baby help, house help standard, covered by the health care system-they really value families!) and pelvic organ prolapse, postpartum depression and low breastfeeding rates.

We all know a well taken care of mom is a mom that is able to take good care of her babe.
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Zoo Loo, I very much agree. I have a good friend who is Vietnamese and they have the 40 days in bed and since she is quite americanized she and her husband fought the relatives and said screw it... they talk about how ridiculous it is and how it would drive a woman crazy... and I just wish I'd had the opportunity! I think my POP is directly related to a severe cough I developed about 2 weeks PP, which lasted and lasted and was a very violent cough... I was feeling so *good* before that and then BLAM my guts were falling out. I'm sure it didn't help the diastasis either. YUCKO. ah well.
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Zoo Loo, I very much agree. I have a good friend who is Vietnamese and they have the 40 days in bed and since she is quite americanized she and her husband fought the relatives and said screw it... they talk about how ridiculous it is and how it would drive a woman crazy... and I just wish I'd had the opportunity! I think my POP is directly related to a severe cough I developed about 2 weeks PP, which lasted and lasted and was a very violent cough... I was feeling so *good* before that and then BLAM my guts were falling out. I'm sure it didn't help the diastasis either. YUCKO. ah well.
I totally agree w/you. I sooooooo wanted/needed more time in bed to recuperate. With 4 kids, that just wasn't happening. I rested when I could, but do not think I got nearly enough.

It's funny that you should mention the cough - that is exactly what set mine off too. By 2-3 months pp I felt pretty well, no more stress incontinence. Then about 8 months later I got a hacking cough and it all came back worse than ever. Ahhh, the world of POP..........

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Someting I have been thinking about is the babymoon. The actual rest period, lying-in with baby for a full 6 weeks. I know how hard that is with our modern society, distant relatives (both physically and emotionally), multiple children, moms back to work soon PP...the list goes on. BUT this is fundamental to propper physical healing. And I can't help but draw a correlation between our lack of propper after-care (in some Euro countries the mom has massages at her home, nursing/baby help, house help standard, covered by the health care system-they really value families!) and pelvic organ prolapse, postpartum depression and low breastfeeding rates.

We all know a well taken care of mom is a mom that is able to take good care of her babe.
You've made an excellent point. We should lobby our insurance companies for them to cover pp recovery up to at least 6 weeks. Nannies, housekeeper, he!! even a personal chef would be wonderful!!! If we received that kind of pp care: POP would be very rare!

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Smokers who have never had babies experience POP because their coughing so hard all the time. Same with sneezing, I use to hold my sneezes in b/c I didn't want to spray germs everywhere. PT says its harmful to do that. The force of a sneeze is equivalent to 70 mph wind. You hold that in, it'll blow your insides out!

My POP didn't get really bad until 7wks pp when I had a UTI. The burn from peeing sent my body into an involuntary pushing mode. I could not control it. I was literally pushing my bladder out of my body! I did get a anti-spazmotic drug which calmed down the uncontrollable urge to bare down. That was the breaking point for me.:
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I have the Interstitial Cystitis and the vaginal/rectum cystocele. Years ago my mom used Sepia homeopathics, and the next Dr visit, the OB swore she had surgery since her uterus have moved up so much. I haven't tried that yet. I practice Pelvic floor kegels and certin special tummy exercises that don't push out the uterus, like regular crunches can. Caffine makes it so much worse for me, but I need : in the morning.

http://evenbetternow.com/ This explains the book for interstitial cystitis. This book was found by my mom an HHP, and seemed very cool.

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WOW, thanks for the link! It has so much great info

I have IC and I'm so glad to have found this link!!!

Its great to hear the Sepia worked for your mother. My cervix has gone way up too and I've taked sepia. Maybe its the thing that helped. Glad to hear someone else had the same luck. Birth&Bunnies Its great to meet you!
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Hi everybody. Feeling better today, physically and mentally.
I saw a new OB/GYN today who was very reassuring.
He said to not even think of the future or surgery right now. His feeling was that until I stop breastfeeding and menstruate again, there is no way to say what will happen. He said he has seen women with severe prolapses completely resolve after a year or so- mentioned "not even being able to find them". Again, he explained that nursing blocks the circulation of estrogen, which is vital to vaginal healing and restoration. He said that this was not a reason to stop nursing, but important to keep in mind when I feel frustrated.
He also said that if a very thorough exam is done on all women after delivering vaginally, you could find some type of pelvic prolapse in 75% of women in the first 6 months post partum! this makes the condition seem so much more "normal". He did add that they are usually grade 1-2, and mine is a 3, but I still felt reassured.
He doesn't want to see me back until I have stopped breastfeeding for 3 months, and then would like to take a look.
(I am 10 wks PP now.)

thanks for the support!
Hello! I'm also part of the prolapse clan. I am 7 months pp. I have a grade 1 uterine prolapse and sometimes I feel "normal," but like other pp's, sometimes it bothers me and gives me that low tampon feeling in my vagina. I'm hoping that time will still help me heal.

I think I got my prolapse when I was pushing during birth. I only pushed for about an hour, but for some reason, in between pushing, I was holding (flexing) my kegal muscles because I didn't want to lose the progress I'd made and have the baby come back inside (similar to pushing out a BM that takes some effort... sorry). At the time, I thought, "I'm the strongest lady ever - able to focus, push and then keep holding in between!" In hindsight, not a good idea. Also, I was so amazed by how awesome and not tired I felt after giving birth, that on day two, I was up making homemade vegetable soup and was probably on my feet longer than I should be. I agree with what pp's have said - midwives need to warn about this more. You hear, "Take it easy," but not, "...because if you don't, your cervix might fall out of your body." I noticed my prolapse about a week after giving birth. My cervix was poking out of my vagina just a tiny bit and I kept thinking it was a clot that needed to come out. (this might be TMI...) I even tugged at it a little bit because I thought I could help the "clot" out, but then I realized it looked like real tissue.

My midwife referred me to a great PT, who I saw for about a month, but aside from being an hour away, it was really expensive too and my insurance didn't cover it (isn't insurance great?). I went enough times to get some good take home exercises out of it, but I wish I could've kept up with it. We did a lot of pilates work on a reformed and mostly mat work. I have not kept up with the exercises at home because at the end of a long, busy day, the last thing I want to do is pelvic floor exercises! But, since it's been bugging me a bit more the past few days, I need to make it a priority.

Like other posters, I feel like my body is a wreck. I also have a nagging little hemorhhoid and even though I'm back at my pre-pregnancy weight, my lower abdomen feels stretched out (go figure). After I eat, it looks like I have a mini pregnant belly. I'm thinking that time and doing more abdominal exercises will help that. Again, I need to to make it a priority.

It's depressing to think that my body's failing me. And, it makes me a little nervous for having another baby. What kinds of risks will it put me at? What if my uterus DOES actually come out of my body while I'm pregnant? Also, it's no fun to be walking around with things feeling like they're hanging out of your vagina and anus.

I quoted the above post because I thought it was very helpful. I can't imagine that every woman doesn't experience prolapse of some degree after labor. When I first got pregnant, my midwife told me that I had a really low cervix, so I also think that perhaps if I had a "normal" cervix, I might not even feel this prolapse.

And, it seems so strange that breastfeeding inhibits our body's ability to heal itself after birth when breastfeeding is what nature intended us to do... interesting. I usually feel like nature is so smart, but that one just doesn't make sense to me. Maybe the reason we need everything to be loosey goosey while breastfeeding it to allow our nipples to be yanked on without hurting!

Sorry this is so long - thanks for this wonderful thread. It's good to know I'm not alone.

BTW - can someone explain a cystocele and a rectocele to me?
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You know happy2bamama, I tell pushing mamas that are concerned about not making progress when they are pushing and the baby is coming down during and going up after/between contraction/pushing efforts that the baby is "paving the way". New ground, making a route, loosening things up as you will. Perfectly natural, very common and always amazing to witness.

And yes, midwives do need to be talking more straight talk. No one benefits from a sugar coated approach. Women need the truth.



And my personal feelings are that we need more family. More of the grandmothers babying the mamas while they become mothers. It really strikes a cord in our society. We are birthing and rearing offspring to become independant. We value that so much in the industrialized world. We need to be more community oriented to ensure the health and well being off our people, our mamas, our babies and our families. I also advocate for fathers-we need to attach to our kids.

But I digress...
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how is this thread here right when I need it?
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BTW - can someone explain a cystocele and a rectocele to me?
Well, google will give you gobs but basically...

A cystocele is a bladder prolapse (with or without incontenance) and a rectocele is a rectal prolapse (may or may not protrude from the anus).

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A cystocele is when the bladder bulges into the vagina, a rectocele is when the rectum bulges into the vagina.

Someone above asked about diagnosis. Unless you specifically complain of symptoms, it is unlikely that you will be diagnosed with prolapse in a routine exam for a couple of reasons. First, a lot of women have some degree of prolapse but are asymptomatic. Also, while lying down, most prolapses are not as evident - they are much easier to diagnose during a standing exam. My doctors never checked my vaginal strength postpartum - I think it is really irresponsible.

You can self-diagnose pretty easily. While standing, do a vaginal exam. Your vagina should be pretty much a straight shot to your cervix. If your cervix is low, or you feel any bulges in the way, you might be prolapsed.
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It's in the TMI category, BUT when I have to go #2, I stick my clean thumb into my vagina to plop the BM out Works like a charm, if I don't do that it really hard to empty it all out since the angle is all wrong.

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It's in the TMI category, BUT when I have to go #2, I stick my clean thumb into my vagina to plop the BM out Works like a charm, if I don't do that it really hard to empty it all out since the angle is all wrong.
Wow! A woman's gotta do what a woman's gotta do.

I started taking Sepia today, so I'll let you guys know if I feel a difference. I also started kegeling more too. But I have to be careful because I've been known to kegel a lot and then blow out my pelvic floor muscles which actually makes my prolapse feel worse. When I want to do something, I want to do it, so I have to make sure to go slow with the kegels.
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It's in the TMI category, BUT when I have to go #2, I stick my clean thumb into my vagina to plop the BM out Works like a charm, if I don't do that it really hard to empty it all out since the angle is all wrong.
I believe the medical term for that (and it's more common than you'd think) is "splinting". It's one of the questions they ask when they are trying to determine if a prolapse interfers with your quality of life - "do you have to 'splint' to evacuate your bowels?" Can I snicker at how prissy that sounds?
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Last year my pelvic exam showed my uterus was not prolapsed. However, the cystocele in which ever version I specifically have, is why I think the anus isn't lined up correctly for a normal BM. I also had a lot of BM trouble as a little kid and I think my colon/anal area is streched out from years of larger than average BMs. My maternal history has a pattern of prolapse, but my mom has worked on her self with homeopathics and such so I was more aware to avoid certain exasterbasting things i.e. stomach crunches. I suck in for stomach exercises and then I lay on my back, legs together and slowly move my legs back and forth using my stomach muscles, and avoiding the pushing out feeling from crunches. And kegels of course.

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"[QUOTE=Zoo Loo Naturals;8813559]Someting I have been thinking about is the babymoon. The actual rest period, lying-in with baby for a full 6 weeks. I know how hard that is with our modern society, distant relatives (both physically and emotionally), multiple children, moms back to work soon PP...the list goes on. BUT this is fundamental to propper physical healing. And I can't help but draw a correlation between our lack of propper after-care (in some Euro countries the mom has massages at her home, nursing/baby help, house help standard, covered by the health care system-they really value families!) and pelvic organ prolapse, postpartum depression and low breastfeeding rates."

I so wish I had a serious rest period.
I thought i was superwoman after achieving my much desired VBAC. I felt like after having birthed my babe after a 26 hour labor I could do anything, so I got out there at the end of the first week and was walking to central park, meeting people joyfully, but forgot to let myself rest. At the 3 wk point my adrenaline and my body crashed, and I realized something wasn't right. That is when I discovered my cystocele,(grade 3) and my image of my powerful self was squashed.

There is no telling if I made it worse by not resting, but I don't think it helped. I'm really trying to listen to my body now and be patient and ask for help when I need it. I struggle with discomfort every day. Afternoons into evenings are when it falls lower and my symptoms are worse. I had some improvement, and now seem to have taken a step backwards. But it seems that this is nature of what we are dealing with.

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my lower abdomen feels stretched out (go figure). After I eat, it looks like I have a mini pregnant belly. I'm thinking that time and doing more abdominal exercises will help that.
I absolutely do NOT know what I'm talking about, but the reading I've done has indicated that traditional abdominal exercises will not help if what you have is diastasis- meaning, the two halves of the external abdominal wall are actually separated. IF that is the case for you, be careful, because a lot of Pilates mat work (which you mentioned from PT) can make the abdominal separation worse.

Just wanted to throw in a word of caution since I, queen of ab work, did my Pilates faithfully for several months before I researched and learned that I was not helping myself at all...: not to mention the pressure it can put on the pelvic floor, therefore making the prolapse worse, too.
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I absolutely do NOT know what I'm talking about, but the reading I've done has indicated that traditional abdominal exercises will not help if what you have is diastasis- meaning, the two halves of the external abdominal wall are actually separated. IF that is the case for you, be careful, because a lot of Pilates mat work (which you mentioned from PT) can make the abdominal separation worse.

Just wanted to throw in a word of caution since I, queen of ab work, did my Pilates faithfully for several months before I researched and learned that I was not helping myself at all...: not to mention the pressure it can put on the pelvic floor, therefore making the prolapse worse, too.
Thanks for the post! When I met with my PT to work on my prolapse, she checked my abdomen and said everything felt fine and we actually did some ab work. But, even so, we were careful to do things other than crunches and to position me in a way that didn't do damage to my pelvic floor. I too did a ton of ab work about a month after DS was born and go figure, that's when I started feeling my prolapse more. I wish I had known then too that it would make things worse. Thanks for looking out for me though!
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I absolutely do NOT know what I'm talking about, but the reading I've done has indicated that traditional abdominal exercises will not help if what you have is diastasis- meaning, the two halves of the external abdominal wall are actually separated. IF that is the case for you, be careful, because a lot of Pilates mat work (which you mentioned from PT) can make the abdominal separation worse.

Just wanted to throw in a word of caution since I, queen of ab work, did my Pilates faithfully for several months before I researched and learned that I was not helping myself at all...: not to mention the pressure it can put on the pelvic floor, therefore making the prolapse worse, too.
as a PT (and a woman with a cystocele), i can say that you are totally correct. pilates work on the apparati, including the reformer and magic chair, can do absolute wonders for prolapse. pilates mat work, however, is really contraindicated because it places our bodies in a vulnerable alignment. it's a bummer because most gyms offer pilates mat programs as part of their group exercise schedules, but to do reformer work you basically need to take private sessions or work with a therapist one on one, which can end up to be pretty pricey. i feel SO fortunate that my gym offers a pilates 'allegro' class, which is a group reformer class done on portable reformers. it still costs extra (whereas the mat classes are part of membership), but the $15 per session is totally worth it to keep up a safe and effective rehab program for abdominals and pelvic floor.

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Someting I have been thinking about is the babymoon. The actual rest period, lying-in with baby for a full 6 weeks. I know how hard that is with our modern society, distant relatives (both physically and emotionally), multiple children, moms back to work soon PP...the list goes on. BUT this is fundamental to propper physical healing. And I can't help but draw a correlation between our lack of propper after-care (in some Euro countries the mom has massages at her home, nursing/baby help, house help standard, covered by the health care system-they really value families!) and pelvic organ prolapse, postpartum depression and low breastfeeding rates."

I so wish I had a serious rest period.
I thought i was superwoman after achieving my much desired VBAC. I felt like after having birthed my babe after a 26 hour labor I could do anything, so I got out there at the end of the first week and was walking to central park, meeting people joyfully, but forgot to let myself rest. At the 3 wk point my adrenaline and my body crashed, and I realized something wasn't right. That is when I discovered my cystocele,(grade 3) and my image of my powerful self was squashed.

There is no telling if I made it worse by not resting, but I don't think it helped. I'm really trying to listen to my body now and be patient and ask for help when I need it. I struggle with discomfort every day. Afternoons into evenings are when it falls lower and my symptoms are worse. I had some improvement, and now seem to have taken a step backwards. But it seems that this is nature of what we are dealing with.

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i absolutely believe that the superwoman birth culture here in the US is very detrimental to women's health. women brag about being out and about and active a day or two after birth, and although i'm glad that some women feel so great after birth, it is one of the WORST things you can do to yourself. in the ayurvedic system of medicine, they have a concept of "40 days for 40 years", which is that the first 40 days after giving birth are an investment towards the next 40 years of a woman's life. makes total sense, and it would be interesting to see the numbers of POP in countries/cultures that honor the postpartum period as a time when women need to rest and recuperate vs. those parts of the world where being a "superwoman" as you describe it is seen as a sign of strength.

i pushed for 5 hours, half the time on my back :, and i basically blew out my entire pelvic floor. i was in so much pain after giving birth to dd, but the day after we got home, i insisted on taking a walk. i probably walked 200 yards or so and it totally wiped me out, and when my midwife checked in with me later that day, she told me that i needed to be very careful and to stay 'down' for a while longer, which was really hard for me to hear and do. in retrospect, i was insanely stupid for being as active as i was (and it wasn't much, but was certainly enough to make my bladder fall out of my body), and i try to spread the word as much as possible for women to get help around the house and take it easy after birth. people just don't talk about POP and most of the time when i've mentioned it to pregnant women, they've never even heard of it before.

that's got to change.
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I have a doctor's appointment Friday for a diagnosis, this thread is giving me hope.
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Good luck! Let us know how it goes. We're here for you! If you get this message before you go. Please tell the doctor NOT to insert his finger into your rectum and streach the tissue out of the vagina. This will HURT! And it will absolutely make things worse. Sorry for the TMI. This happened to me and I wish I could sue his A@@!!! My bottom is hanging out of my vagina because of this and I NEVER had a problem with a rectocle before he did what he did to me. So, please be careful. Maybe all they'll do is a Q-tip method dx. Another Doctor, (second opinion) used the Q-tip method. They insert it in the urethra and have you cough. If it deflects pass a 40 degree angle that should say something.

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Good luck hanno! Let us know how it goes.

Birth culture- I'm afraid the modern "natural birth" movement plays into this as well. Women want to demonstrate that birth is natural, that it's not something the med pros need to interfere with, that women are made to birth. So hours or even minutes after birth women try to be up and about to "prove" this (ignoring or "forgetting" the rest element that surrounded natural birth for hundreds of generations). Birth Centers send mama home after a few hours, hospitals keep you for 2 days tops, and in a homebirth the attendants leave after a few hours. We don't have the support system in place to allow a mama a classic "lying in" and we have the mind set that a "lying in" period isn't necessary since birth is "natural" and "taking a break" would imply something was wrong.

Not that there is an easy fix, but sometimes I worry about mamas in the natural birth community who site examples of women who are working, pause to have their babe, and go back to work in order to support natural birth. Yes, this has and does happen, but it's not the ideal and it's certainly not appropriate for a woman who isn't in peak shape, who isn't birthing in her teens or early twenties, and who will probably live into her 90s. It makes me wonder sometimes...I'm 100% in favor of natural birth and belive passionately in birth and in women's abilities, but sometimes I wonder if natural birth without the recovery support system is doing more harm then good for women's health. Again, no quick fixes or easy answers, just another example of the complex disfunction of modern times.

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Birth culture- I'm afraid the modern "natural birth" movement plays into this as well. Women want to demonstrate that birth is natural, that it's not something the med pros need to interfere with, that women are made to birth. So hours or even minutes after birth women try to be up and about to "prove" this (ignoring or "forgetting" the rest element that surrounded natural birth for hundreds of generations). Birth Centers send mama home after a few hours, hospitals keep you for 2 days tops, and in a homebirth the attendants leave after a few hours. We don't have the support system in place to allow a mama a classic "lying in" and we have the mind set that a "lying in" period isn't necessary since birth is "natural" and "taking a break" would imply something was wrong.
I couldn't agree with you more. This is exactly how I felt after DS's birth. I felt like superwoman because I wasn't all groggy and drugged out and so I felt like life could go back to "normal." I don't blame anyone else for me doing too much after the birth, but it would've been nice if my midwives would've really hit it home as to why taking it easy is so important. And yes, there was a part of me that felt that if I didn't bounce back quickly that all the nay-sayers would be like, "If natural birth is so good, why isn't she up and moving shortly after?" But, of course, what they say really DOES NOT MATTER - having a healthy pelvic floor matters! Next time I birth, I will definitely rest a lot more in the beginning.

Also, to the pp who talked about reformer classes - yes, thank you for reminding me of that. I have been meaning to sign up for one, but I had forgotten about it until you mentioned it.

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Thank you all for the support. It means so much! I am scared because I really want one more bio baby.
While I was pregnant I asked both the o/b, the o/b's nurse and my midwife what was happening that I could now 'see' parts of me that I couldn't see before when I looked in the mirror. They all gave me the same basic answer: you're body goes through changes when you become a mama and things move down and it's okay, with a little laugh that sounded (in each) like I was being patted for being a naive new mom. When I was having the baby it was all great, I didn't push, the baby/my body did and he came out without any pain, just too fast for what I was emotionally prepared for so I breathed out some of the contractions but I gave that up soon enough. The placenta still wasn't out after an hour and a half so the midwives gave me tinctures and had me try on the toilet and tried tugging on the cord and it wasn't coming out and the midwife pretty much threatened hospital or pitocin (which I did not want) plus I just wanted my baby back in my arms so I pushed it with all my might until it came out. I lost a lot of blood and I only remember little bits of the next few days. I have a pretty good idea that this really hurt me and I know that none of it was necessary.
Now it's so low sometimes it's coming out. Kegels sitting, standing or laying seem to make it worse but if I do kegels with my hips up high, I can get it back up there and stay up until I exert again. Going for a long walk or lifting my cast iron pot'll put me right back to square one.
I was also wondering- does surgery always mean no more children?
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Hugs mama. Surgery doesn't mean no more children unless you decide to do a hysterectomy. A "sling" to hold organs in place is a common surgical option for treating prolapse and you can certainly have more children after that procedure...though you might be considered higher risk and have trouble finding a midwife who will attend your birth.

The real "problem" is that another pregnancy will exert more pressure on the area and between the pressure and the stretching and the loosening power of the pregnancy hormones the benefits from the surgery are probably going to be undone and you'll be back where you started. That's why many doctors will advise holding off on surgery until after you're done having children. It's the same reason doctors usually wont suggest a surgical tummy tuck or diastasis correction if the woman is planning more children...the pregnancy and birth will undo the surgical correction.

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I would have to go to the Dr to get the official diagnosis. I've never bothered to mention it since they don't have much to offer in the way to real healing, just surgery and drugs. Since my mom has dealt with all of it too, I just usually follow her recommendations since she got the Practitioner Licience as an H.H.P.
But I thought that all women experience some degree of that muscle separating. The exercises I was talking about are for that over all tummy area and that helps lower back too. I also do backwards crunches, where I suck in for so long and do it over and over. I don't want to make it worse, so maybe the diagnosis would help.

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Hi, Max! I'm not too happy about joining this thread, but it looks like I might be...

I developed hemerrhoids when 8 months pregnant. The MWs said they would go away after the birth. I had a lovely HB, but in hindsight I think I was stressing my pelvic organs too much by straining to open things up. My daughter was born pretty quickly and I had 3 stitches afterward. PP, I assumed the rhoids were just not going away. I would have to push the bulge back in after pooping. (At first, it bulged more often than that, but it got better). It wasn't itchy like rhoids. I also noticed a bulge in my vagina sometimes, but just figured things were shifted after birth; no big deal.

So after having to put my butt back in place every day, I decided to see a doctor. I made an apt thinking it was rhoids, but the more I read I'm realizing it must be a rectal prolapse. And now I'm scared. I see the dr. on the 29th. I should have done this much sooner; if any invasive treatments are needed, I won't want to do them during the school year (I'm a teacher). I'm probably jumping the gun and getting worried too soon, but Dr. Google won't let me just walk away and I'm imagining the worst.

Anyway, that's my story. I hope you won't see too much more of me here!
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Wow, so glad to have found this thread. I haven't had a chance to read all the way through it yet, but I wanted to make sure that everybody knows about www.wholewoman.com. It's a great website and forum. I have the book by the owner of the site, called Saving the Whole Woman. Christine's work has made such a huge difference in my life, both in my ability to physically and mentally deal with my problem. There are lots of women who have gone on to have natural childbirth even though they have prolapse, which gives me so much hope.

My specific issue is a rectocele stemming from the forceps delivery of my first child. Luckily my next two births were UC, almost no pushing stage (I never actually pushed), so my prolapse didn't get much worse. I feel like my uterus isn't as high as it could be, but it's not low enough to be considered prolapsing, and I feel fortunate about that. I'm hoping to keep things from falling even more with postural work from the book I mentioned, so far things have gotten better, although I still have to be careful...no more moving furniture for me. When I'm trying get hubby to do some heavy lifting for me and he's feeling too lazy, I just say, "I guess I'll do it...I hope my uterus doens't fall out..." That gets him moving every time.

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Wow, so glad to have found this thread. I haven't had a chance to read all the way through it yet, but I wanted to make sure that everybody knows about www.wholewoman.com. It's a great website and forum. I have the book by the owner of the site, called Saving the Whole Woman. Christine's work has made such a huge difference in my life, both in my ability to physically and mentally deal with my problem. There are lots of women who have gone on to have natural childbirth even though they have prolapse, which gives me so much hope.

My specific issue is a rectocele stemming from the forceps delivery of my first child. Luckily my next two births were UC, almost no pushing stage (I never actually pushed), so my prolapse didn't get much worse. I feel like my uterus isn't as high as it could be, but it's not low enough to be considered prolapsing, and I feel fortunate about that. I'm hoping to keep things from falling even more with postural work from the book I mentioned, so far things have gotten better, although I still have to be careful...no more moving furniture for me. When I'm trying get hubby to do some heavy lifting for me and he's feeling too lazy, I just say, "I guess I'll do it...I hope my uterus doens't fall out..." That gets him moving every time.
Yes I've seen that website! Its a great website I'm going to by her book and the exercise video she offers. Like, tomorrow! We get paid yea!!
Your story with the forceps sounds a lot like my story. The OB (second OB for a second opinion) said my pelvic floor was shot when the OB that delivered my first child cut a fourth degree episiotomy and used forceps. He didn't even give me a chance to push. Maybe the no pushing thing might have been a good thing. I've been thinking a lot about a UC on our next delivery. Dh won't stand for it and I've become frighten of MW at least the one who helped me deliver my ds 3m ago. She ordered me to push on all three of my HB with her as my MW. Shot out a 10ber in 2 min and my recent baby was 9lb delivered in 4 min. I want to learn more about no pushing to deliver.
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Hi, Max! I'm not too happy about joining this thread, but it looks like I might be...

I developed hemerrhoids when 8 months pregnant. The MWs said they would go away after the birth. I had a lovely HB, but in hindsight I think I was stressing my pelvic organs too much by straining to open things up. My daughter was born pretty quickly and I had 3 stitches afterward. PP, I assumed the rhoids were just not going away. I would have to push the bulge back in after pooping. (At first, it bulged more often than that, but it got better). It wasn't itchy like rhoids. I also noticed a bulge in my vagina sometimes, but just figured things were shifted after birth; no big deal.

So after having to put my butt back in place every day
, I decided to see a doctor. I made an apt thinking it was rhoids, but the more I read I'm realizing it must be a rectal prolapse. And now I'm scared. I see the dr. on the 29th. I should have done this much sooner; if any invasive treatments are needed, I won't want to do them during the school year (I'm a teacher). I'm probably jumping the gun and getting worried too soon, but Dr. Google won't let me just walk away and I'm imagining the worst.

Anyway, that's my story. I hope you won't see too much more of me here!
I needed that! This is a great place to normalize our situation! Don't let that doctor scare you! At least don't show it to him especially if he is trying to talk you into surgery. A lot of them will do that. Its how they sell their business. "If the cry they buy!" Let us know how the visit goes. How far along are you pp? I don't think I saw that in your post. Oh and Kudos your a teacher!! Very cool!
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