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Hopefully, my births do end up like my mom's. She's a poster child for U/C, lol.
I am very worried about how the experience has shaped my perception of birth, hospitals and doctors. Especially as I had a traumatic surgery in my teen years as well. It seems hospitals and I don't belong together.
I'm very indecisive over having her at the birth as I really just want it to be DH and I. But I was thinking that could make the small stuff hard to handle, such as videotaping.
M.Ed. Mama to Chunka (1/07), Beauty (5/09) and Elizabear 3/12): Birth Doula (working toward certification) AAMI Midwifery Student, Advocating with Solace for Mothers & The Birth Survey
I never knew there was anything wrong about my birth until after my baby was born. Mine was a scheduled convenience induction so my dad could be present (he had to go out of town for work). After the induction was started, the OB figured it was a good time to check my position, and found out I was breech. And then of course, default C-section. I remember my mother telling me as a child that after she came out of general anaestesia (sp), her first thought was not of her baby but wanting to throw up. It didn't really bother me growing up until I learned about the side effects of cesareans and how illogical it is to cut a baby out of a mother because of breech positioning. And then to realize that they started an induction before checking for position!?!? And it was 3 days before my due date. Then I also learned that the side effects of cesarean can go on to effect subsequent pregnancies, which may explain why my brother who should have been born 2 years after me was a stillborn. I blogged about it when I learned of those things: http://descentintomotherhood.blogspo...h/label/breech
I don't think that my birth was connected to the trauma I experienced with my son's birth. My mom and I had totally different goals and expectations going into it. She was completely trusting of the medical staff around her and I had my agenda of a natural birth.
Learning about and understanding more of my birth related to appropriate and evidence based maternity care contributed to my trauma. It triggered even more anger at the maternity care system. I never was angry at my mother, even though we've had some frank discussions where she now knows that she could have (and probably should have) made some very different decisions. But like I said in my blog, learning about my birth, lead me to even more grief that attached itself to the grief and trauma I experienced after my son's birth.
|Your mom's had UCs? Have you gotten to see homebirths then? Man, you are set to give birth no hospital no problem.|