I am a little over 7mos. post partum and still any sort of intercourse is very painful. It has nothing to do with dryness or lack of desire/lack of foreplay. Everything just feels really tight in there, and it takes a good 15-20 minutes before it eventually "stretches" out enough to be tolerable, and it never feels actually good. I went to the OB/GYN office, and she checked to see if I had any sort of scar tissue or healed improperly (I had 5 stitches), but said everything looked perfectly fine.
She said there is physical therapy they can do to loosen things up (I did get a kick out of coming home and announcing "I need therapy on my vagina" to my DH). But she also kinda implied the whole "it's in your head thing." I figured if it's just a matter of stretching things it would be better to just let DH do it, since he's a bit more familiar with that area and I'd be more relaxed with him.
I dunno, I guess I'm just hoping someone else knows what I'm talking about and can tell me it will get better eventually. Right now I've gotten to the point where I dread anything sexual (which I'm sure makes it worse, but is not the cause) and I definitely can't stay like this the rest of my life! I read a few of the replies on the "it's all in my head" thread but I didn't want to jump in on her post, and I didn't have any sort of trauma with my birth so I don't know what the deal is.